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Is this rude to do?

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So last month my family and I went on a cross-country trip to visit some relatives we hadn't seen in a few years; cousins, their children, aunt/uncle etc..

We only stayed for two days, but it was such a great time.. because of the distance, and just how my parents/relatives never made much effort to keep in touch, I wasn't close with them growing up..

But this past trip was really great, and I love kids so spending time with my cousins daughter was great fun, as well as everyone else..

Leaving has been pretty tough, though two weeks later and I'm okay with not seeing them for another year or so..

Until I realized this; my parents have a winter getaway house (I'll call this Beach House) in a warm climate, and my siblings and them are going out in early January to visit for a week, while my parents stay for like three months..

I'm also planning on going, though I came up with this idea; I was thinking of asking my cousin if their daughter would want to come with me/my family to spend a few days away from the cold weather..

The plan would be that I will fly down to where my cousins live, hang with them for the day/a few hours, and then me and their daughter will fly down together to Beach House.. and then we'll fly back together. She's three years old and my cousins totally trust me, as they should b/c I'm responsible!


Would this be wrong to do, like would it be rude?

In a positive light, my cousins could see it as a warm gesture, not to mention being kid-free for a few days would be a nice change I'm sure, and their child would probably have such a fun time.. my cousins have been saying how much she enjoyed spending time with me, etc.

Or would it be rude to ask only their child and not my cousins to come with too?
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@birdsintrees it's been enough time to reflect, and just am inspired children and find them heartwarming... that child really brought out the father in me, and that's another reason why I loved spending time with her; so these deeply held desires of being a father were brought to the surface when we'd spend time together just her and I; it was nice to see what it would be like to be a Dad! ha

That's really all it was! I've also always connected well with children; they always seem to gravitate towards me, and their pure nature is something inspiring/rare in this world :) I obviously prefer deep relationships with people my own age, and am not some creep or whatever these people are misunderstanding :)
Of course you might not be a creep. :p
The thing is you need to bring in the empathy of the parents feelings. Those thoughts might come to their mind. Since you meet them once a year. You are not being rude.
But if I was in your place I would simply not do it because of empathic feelings her parents might be having. The distance is too much plus the lack of closeness of relationship.

If they reject the gesture the reasons would probably the same as people are starting here.
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