My best friend is an ESFJ. Actually I have feelings for him ...but he can't get over his ex and having been really hurt in previous relationships he's terrified of starting a new one...but that's another story:frustrating: He's one of the most amazing selfless people I know. Definitely not shallow and he's very much "one of the guys" ( he's a firefighter). But he's very sensitive and can get hurt very easily. We have a kind of magnetic relationship where we just get each other and we can both just be ourselves around each other.