I recently discovered that my little brother is an ISTJ, and reading the descriptions it really sounds like him. He is super dependable and reliable, and me and my other brother rely on him for a lot of things.
The thing is that he is damned unsociable. This is really saying something for me, because we come from an entire family of introverts. He goes to work, comes home, and spends all his time sitting in the basement on his computer. He only spends time with one friend. We had friends over for a party and he never left his computer once! Some of my friends are even creeped out by him because he never comes to socialize. They think he is one of those people that will some day just snap and go out an shoot people. I think they are being harsh and just don't understand him, though most of what he does is a mystery to me too.
I try to encourage him to get out more and meet people, but I don't want to force the issue, since I know I wouldn't appreciate that ind of meddling either.
I just worry that he will one day realize he is old and has missed out on a lot of things. Perhaps that is my SP nature coming though, but I don't want my brother to be a 40-year-old-virgin who still works some shitty job at a mall just because he was afraid to get out there. He's too smart to be working fast food and way too good a guy to never have a lady.
I hope some other ISTJs can give me some advice on home to help him come out of his shell a bit more.
The thing is that he is damned unsociable. This is really saying something for me, because we come from an entire family of introverts. He goes to work, comes home, and spends all his time sitting in the basement on his computer. He only spends time with one friend. We had friends over for a party and he never left his computer once! Some of my friends are even creeped out by him because he never comes to socialize. They think he is one of those people that will some day just snap and go out an shoot people. I think they are being harsh and just don't understand him, though most of what he does is a mystery to me too.
I try to encourage him to get out more and meet people, but I don't want to force the issue, since I know I wouldn't appreciate that ind of meddling either.
I just worry that he will one day realize he is old and has missed out on a lot of things. Perhaps that is my SP nature coming though, but I don't want my brother to be a 40-year-old-virgin who still works some shitty job at a mall just because he was afraid to get out there. He's too smart to be working fast food and way too good a guy to never have a lady.
I hope some other ISTJs can give me some advice on home to help him come out of his shell a bit more.