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Hi guys! I did the self-type thing and based on the cheat sheet guessed which function I was using.. I think my stack definitely includes Fi, and possibly Si.


Your significant other just ended your 2 year relationship quite suddenly and with no apparent explanation. Up until this point you had both been talking about marriage and last week you even went to look at rings together. Now he/she won't even return your phone calls or texts. After talking with his/her family you find out that he/she has just been diagnosed with terminal stage 4 cancer.

  • Describe how this scenario would make you feel as well as what sort of influences and motivations lie behind those feelings. Why do you feel the way you do?
  • In this scenario what would you honestly say the primary focus of your feelings would be?

Up till that point, I would have felt very lost. This is someone I deeply care for. I would also feel guilty for probably doubting him, and helpless. That helplessness would spur me to reach out to his family to help me get in touch with him. I’d need to convince him that I know he must be hurting, I don’t want to ask anything of him other than not to cast me out. I would want to do anything to help him realize that I’m not scared and won’t run away or abandon him.

The primary focus of my feelings is to let him know that I am not someone he has to hide away from, or be scared from.



You are in college and this semester both you and your roommate end up in the same class together. You and your roommate get along fairly well and the living situation works but you aren't particularly close. You both typically do your own thing and are rather indifferent to each other. As the semester progresses you excel and become one of the top students in the class whereas your roommate is struggling significantly to grasp the material. The professor assigns a fairly challenging take home test that is a significant portion of your grade. He/she makes it clear that while it is open book, students are to work alone. Later your roommate comes to you begging for help after struggling with the test most of the weekend. You have already completed the assignment and he/she isn't asking to copy your answers, just to help tutor and mentor them as they struggle to complete the test, so there is no way your professor would ever know. However, this is the first time your room-mate has asked you for help this semester. He/she makes it clear that how they do on this test could mean the difference between passing and failing this class.

  • How do you respond to your roommate’s request and why?
  • What sort of things in this scenario stand out to you as far as having a strong influence on your decision making and why?
  • Describe the flow of your decision making process.

I would obviously want to help them. I don’t believe that that would be against the rules, plus this is really important. I also don’t mind that we have been indifferent to one another.. that’s probably because we don’t have much in common. I don’t hold that against them. I’ll try to help them figure out the answers for themselves. I might point them out to how they could do that, let them borrow my notes, and explain anything else.

I said that I don’t think that’s against the rules, but I’d feel slightly conflicted still and probably a bit burdened too. But if it was me in their position, the last thing I’d want is to hear a “no” when I’m struggling already.

-Again, Fi?


Your boss calls you into his/her office in order to assign you to a new project. He/she gives you a choice between two.

Project 1 is a rather broad, expansive project covering multiple areas of company operations. It has the potential to have a very significant impact on company operations but it would require a collective effort and an extensive amount of group work where you would be logically thinking through the project together with the group of individuals your boss has also assigned to it.

Project 2 has a much more specific and narrow focus and would require a significant amount of in depth individual analysis to work through the problem. You would be working alone and the completion of the project may or may not have much impact on company operations. However, after complete the process and problem you were working on will be streamlined and fundamentally understood.

  • Which project appeals to you the most, as it relates to the way you prefer to logically process information? Why?
  • What sort of things in this scenario, across either project, stood out to you as having a strong influence on your decision? Why?

I’d prefer the second one. Explaining what I do to a group of people would be wildly exhausting, and I might detest the whole thing. Working independently would allow me much more time to focus on the thing being done… feels like I could do whatever with it. Working in multiple areas with other people sounds to people-y, not enough time and space for the actual project.

-Inf/tert Te?


Your college professor has assigned you to a group project with 3 other individuals. All 3 of these individuals have a good strong work ethic and desire to contribute to the overall success of this project. You are at the first meeting of your group and the other members are tossing around valuable ideas as to the nature and direction of this project.

  • Describe your behavior in this situation as you process and think about the ideas they are presenting.
  • Describe what major influences drive this behavior.

Oh boy. I can’t even. No, I wouldn’t be judging their ideas, but I just wouldn’t even know where to begin. It would sound like words just all tangled together in the air. If I had an idea, I’d probably come up with it later, or someone else would have to say it in a way that everyone else would listen to it, then I’d just have to agree. I wouldn’t be interjecting unless I see a potential problem.. yeah, my mind wouldn’t be in a generating mode as it would be when I work alone, it would be in a troubleshooting mode.

-Isn't this very IxxJ-ish?


It has been a very long week and you feel mentally and emotionally drained, but good news! It is Saturday and you have nothing significant that needs to be done. You FINALLY have some free time to yourself to recharge your batteries and do whatever you want.

  • Describe what sort of activities would help you to recharge. What would you enjoy doing after a long week and why?
  • What sort of things do you feel you draw non-physical energy from doing?

First of all, nothing. I’d like to do the closest thing to nothing. Nap, cook something easy, read or watch something, maybe go out to do something very minimal like go out to get coffee and sit around. I want to be very passive, like just taking in things and not bothering to produce something that requires more than minimal effort. I probably draw energy from not engaging… Being relaxed is energizing.

-Introvert, but that Ne description of seeking external stimuli w/o social interaction rings true


You have a meeting with your college career counselor to discuss potential careers that interest you. He/she offers you a list of the following careers and asks you to pick your TOP 3. He/she asks you to take money out of the equation. Imagine all of these careers received equal compensation. Focus instead on where you would truly feel most happy and fulfilled.

Artist, Scientist, Actor, Engineer, Musician, Lawyer, Counselor, Entrepreneur, Teacher, Manager, Psychologist, Computer Programmer / Analyst, Clergy, Child Care, Medical Doctor

  • What were your top 3 choices and what aspects of these careers appeal to you?
  • Was it difficult or easy to pick only 3 and why?
  • Prioritize the aspects of your career choices that influenced your decision, what things mattered most to you, where do you imagine finding the most fulfillment and why?

Artist, entrepreneur, teacher. It was difficult to pick because even in real life, I wouldn’t know. It mattered to me that these were something I sort of have liked to do in the past, have had interests in, and weren't impractical given what I know I can do. I think… teaching would be the most fulfilling. Like I said before, I like working and generating on my own and sort of streamlining info to something that others could interact with.

-Fi with ambiguous F-T influences, so IxTJ?

Scenario 7: Click on the image below and pay close attention to the things that jump out to you, objects, thoughts, feelings, impressions, ideas etc. What do you see?


  • Describe the main things that stand out to you in this picture.
  • Why do you think/feel you focused on those things?
  • Describe the strength with which this photo did or did not appeal to you and why?

What stands out to me.. the intricacy of the walls? I’m not focusing on any one thing, really. But yeah, the jagged intricate walls, mainly, the colors and possible textures. This photo appealed to me. If it was framed on a wall somewhere, I’d stop to look, but I’ve seen more awe-striking scenes.

-That’s Si, right?
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