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I'm pretty quiet, if I say so myself. I'm not shy...but I'm very reserved and uncomfortable in social situations. But for some reason, I can connect to people really well. I'm a naturally good public speaker, and I have no problem getting people's attention. When I channel my Se, I become really excited and charming, so maybe that's what draws people in.

People, for some unknown reason, like me and are drawn to me, even though I'm the introvert of introverts and I'm (unfortunately) tactless in social situations. I feel like a lot of people would want to be my friend if I were more sociable and approachable, and people actually flock to me when I act more social.

Why do ISTPs, the least social people alive, have such powerful charismas? I can attract more attention than all of my NT/NF/SJ friends combined. Is it just part of being an Experiencer/Artisan? Do other ISTPs have this? Is it just the cold, hard confidence + the burning sex appeal?
 

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I'd say that it's the fact that we don't care what others think. We do our own thing and if people like it they're welcome to tag along, otherwise they're free to go their own way. That draws them in for some reason. Doesn't make sense to me. *shrugs*
 

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As an up and coming musician, being an ISTP is the one thing that makes me fearless enough to not care what happens in front of 500+ people.
 
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It's a combination of quiet confidence and a lack of judgement. We don't judge people on their weaknesses. We only judge them when they try to hide their weaknesses. This makes us extremely easy to be around. Pair that with quiet confidence, and we tend to be people others admire. If the others happen to be the opposite sex, be prepared to remove your pants.
 

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I mentioned ISTP charisma in another thread a little while ago:
Also, there's something about ISTPs that makes them charismatic in a subdued, mysterious manner. They're like cats... Their nonchalance is frustrating, but makes me want to win them over.
I am completely infatuated with an ISTP at the moment. He doesn't talk much, which makes me want to find out who he is and what's going on in that mind of his. When he does talk, I hang on to every word; everything he says is so interesting and honest. He has a great sense of humor, too. Just an agreeable person overall, and the understated way in which he presents it is what ties it all together and makes him irresistible.
 

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I'm pretty quiet, if I say so myself. I'm not shy...but I'm very reserved and uncomfortable in social situations. But for some reason, I can connect to people really well. I'm a naturally good public speaker, and I have no problem getting people's attention. When I channel my Se, I become really excited and charming, so maybe that's what draws people in.

People, for some unknown reason, like me and are drawn to me, even though I'm the introvert of introverts and I'm (unfortunately) tactless in social situations. I feel like a lot of people would want to be my friend if I were more sociable and approachable, and people actually flock to me when I act more social.

Why do ISTPs, the least social people alive, have such powerful charismas? I can attract more attention than all of my NT/NF/SJ friends combined. Is it just part of being an Experiencer/Artisan? Do other ISTPs have this? Is it just the cold, hard confidence + the burning sex appeal?
You sound like you have developed your Fe. Most ISTP's that I know don't come off as charming and charismatic. They just have this vibe to them that just screams, "Don't fuck with me". When I think about an ISTP, I imagine a Rottweiler. Now if you approach this dog the correct way, this dog will sit on your lap, lick you in the face, and be your loyal friend. However, if you approach the dog, the wrong way, it will rip you to pieces.
 

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You sound like you have developed your Fe. Most ISTP's that I know don't come off as charming and charismatic. They just have this vibe to them that just screams, "Don't fuck with me".
I do have a developed Fe actually, good call. ISTPs without a developed Se will still be attractive, but unapproachable and completely uninterested in other people. I think people love SPs because they actually live their lives to the very fullest without being held back. NTs are only interested in knowledge, NFs are only interested in values, and SJs are only interested in rules. SPs are interested in LIFE itself. We're the only type who is truly free in that way, and people admire us because of those qualities. They also hate us for it though because we're a little reckless.
 

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You sound like you have developed your Fe. Most ISTP's that I know don't come off as charming and charismatic. They just have this vibe to them that just screams, "Don't fuck with me".
Why do most ISTPs have such a strong defensive vibe? I was the wimpiest kid during my childhood, yet people (smart people, at least) left me completely alone. My friends would beg me to teach them how to be "scary" so bullies wouldn't bother them...

And if we're so unapproachable, why do people still like us? I mean, why would people pet a Rottweiler when it can turn on you any second? (btw, I'm not flattered by the comparison between my type and dog -_-)
 

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Why do most ISTPs have such a strong defensive vibe? I was the wimpiest kid during my childhood, yet people (smart people, at least) left me completely alone. My friends would beg me to teach them how to be "scary" so bullies wouldn't bother them...
I think it's because most ISTPs I've seen are 6w5s on the Enneagram, as well, and 6w5s have a certain prickly, edgy, defensive style that has to do with the the core motivations of the type (I'm too tired to explain fully: follow this link if you're interested: Typewatch Enneagram Descriptions.

As for your second question, I have no idea; it might be that they want to be the ones to peel the defensive layers away. Makes 'em feel special and whatnot.
 

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You sound like you have developed your Fe. Most ISTP's that I know don't come off as charming and charismatic. They just have this vibe to them that just screams, "Don't fuck with me". When I think about an ISTP, I imagine a Rottweiler. Now if you approach this dog the correct way, this dog will sit on your lap, lick you in the face, and be your loyal friend. However, if you approach the dog, the wrong way, it will rip you to pieces.
Me? Rip anyone to pieces?
 
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