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Istp females, were there moments in your life you had wish you were an istp male?

There were moments in my life I had wish I were an inxj male. Maybe my life thus far would have been more enjoyable. For example, I always had an interest in the engineering field. If I were a male, I would have strived to be an engineer. Because I'm a female, I'm going into the accounting field and will call it a life.

After majoring in Sociology and observing life from my own perspective, I have come to the conclusion that there are social roles that are hard to overcome. So why go against the grain?
 

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There are an abundance of ESTP and ISTP females in the engineering and IT field. However, I don't recall ever seeing an INFJ male or female in engineering but they are everywhere in the creative industry. Maybe engineering is ultimately not an INFJ thing.
 

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Istp females, were there moments in your life you had wish you were an istp male?
yes.
i never felt wrong in the female body but the media i was fed as a kid told me that girls like horses and want to become a nurse/mum while boys like adventures and want to become an astronaut. so i figured i had to be a boy.

Because I'm a female, I'm going into the accounting field and will call it a life.
why?
i understand if someone sacrifices their dream job because jobchances are too bad in the field they'd prefer, but "because i'm a female"? what are you afraid of?

So why go against the grain? Is it worth it?
ymmv but yes, it's worth it. especially in engineering most people see your competence, not your gender… (is it the same in the US?)
and i want to have women and men in every field AND advertise it - if only to show girls like you that you don't have to be male to go into engineering/boys like a friend that you don't have to be female to become a kindergarten teacher.
 

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Not really, When i graduated collage I will be going into a more male dominated field..but I didn't let that stop me. So why did I go against the grain? #1. As a SP, I quite got a hang of the "fallowing the rules" thing. #2 Hard things are worth the reward. #3. I knew I would always regret it. Nothing ventured nothing gained.
 

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Accounting seems to make even less sense than engineering. Not that I know any accountants, but stereotypically I think it lacks a creative aspect and also lacks human interaction. Why do you mention accounting specifically? Is there something I'm missing?

I understand that you feel a little bit beat down by social expectations, but if you came to us for advice, the SP thing to do is to say: "Fuck it. Fuck it." and do something you actually want to do.

Well, would you make a superior engineer? Would you enjoy and excel at accounting?
 

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Istp females, were there moments in your life you had wish you were an istp male?

There were moments in my life I had wish I were an inxj male. Maybe my life thus far would have been more enjoyable. For example, I always had an interest in the engineering field. If I were a male, I would have strived to be an engineer. Because I'm a female, I'm going into the accounting field and will call it a life.

After majoring in Sociology and observing life from my own perspective, I have come to the conclusion that there are social roles that are hard to overcome. So why go against the grain?
To answer the original question, yes I have wished I was an ISTP male during certain obstacles during my relationship. Only because it seems more acceptable for a male, in general, to be confident, straight forward, stubborn and quiet. More so then it is for a female. I'm almost expected to want to spill my every thought and feeling, which is a very odd concept to me.

I actually feel sorry for you. I can't imagine letting anything, or anyone, or a social expectation standing in the way of what I want to do.

I naturally go agents the grain of society. Most the time without realizing it. Examples, I race motorcycles, can out shoot most male friends at the shooting range, can fix just about anything, really handy with tools, I am studying in an IT field, excel in sports and physical activities.

^that being said, I am feminine looking. I'm not some big old hunk of a she-male or anything. Most the time people are extremely surprised to hear about my hobbies or see me fix a motor with ease.
 

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Istp females, were there moments in your life you had wish you were an istp male?

There were moments in my life I had wish I were an inxj male. Maybe my life thus far would have been more enjoyable. For example, I always had an interest in the engineering field. If I were a male, I would have strived to be an engineer. Because I'm a female, I'm going into the accounting field and will call it a life.

After majoring in Sociology and observing life from my own perspective, I have come to the conclusion that there are social roles that are hard to overcome. So why go against the grain?
To answer your original question, no not really. I havent really had any thoughts of being a male besides the "wouldnt it be fun if I had a dick for a day thought".

I dont understand this, I honestly dont. Why does being female have to stop you from pursuing a career? Im an engineer and I havent really come across any issues so far.

I mean yeah there are social roles for genders but I never found it hard to overcome if I wanted to.
Was there really that much pressure for you not to pursue a career in something?
 

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Not once wished I were male, let alone an ISTP one. Even if it probably would've been easier to feel more free about my interests and such (especially as a kid who generally secretly felt so different from everyone else) without paying the price of (potential) lack of acceptance and solitude if I were. But I am free, and am not very concerned about the costs. Turns out at this point that I'm not paying the price of acceptance of any sort, and I'm not very bothered by my solitude anyways. I really don't give a shit about gender roles, and I enjoy just doing things my own way. How can one not see going against the grain as a source of liberation?
 

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Examples, I race motorcycles, can out shoot most male friends at the shooting range, can fix just about anything, really handy with tools, I am studying in an IT field, excel in sports and physical activities.
Challenge accepted.
 

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I am a firm believer that most of the gender differences are environmental - meaning, sure, there are girly girls and it's okay to be one if that's what feels most natural, but there is absolutely no point in wearing pink if you don't like it. I do not understand one bit the "because I'm female I'm doing X instead of Y"; it's bullshit. Do what you feel for, do what you really want to do, and ignore everyone that might tell you that you "shouldn't". I'm a bit taken aback every time someone wants to tell me not to do something because I'm a girl, that I am expected to stand back and let the guys handle all the hammering, mapreading, carrying stuff and all the other fun. But I wouldn't want to swap genitals just because of that, because after all it's their problem they don't trust my skills and I can have my revenge after they've failed miserably. However, that one time when I was physically assaulted with an attempt to "surprise sex".. well, it would've been fun to have been a male then, both to see the look on his face as well as for the extra muscle power.

I am very comfortable in my body and mind, and if the world has prejudices about me not wearing enough glitter, it's the world's problem, not mine. I'd like to be able to cross-dress believably as a male, though, but I suppose it's not really possible with my body type anymore. Pity.. in a way.
 

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I am very comfortable in my body and mind, and if the world has prejudices about me not wearing enough glitter, it's the world's problem, not mine. I'd like to be able to cross-dress believably as a male, though, but I suppose it's not really possible with my body type anymore. Pity.. in a way.
In all honesty, I actually prefer girls that dress/act rather masculine: Carhartt jackets, jeans, work boots, t-shirts. Dresses don't do it for me. Also, guns, tools, physical strength, and trucks are all turn ons.
 

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In all honesty, I actually prefer girls that dress/act rather masculine: Carhartt jackets, jeans, work boots, t-shirts. Dresses don't do it for me. Also, guns, tools, physical strength, and trucks are all turn ons.
Nice to know a real woman is appreciated by someone somewhere. Thanks. ;)
 
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