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#1 ·
Sometimes it seems to me that with this much influence there comes a price. Almost a responsibility...So, I thought I would share something that really frustrates me and see if any of you ENFJs out there experience the same thing or have other frustrations.


My Frustration: When I am seriously processing something....(going through all the possibilities, cause and effect, random chances, possible emotional fall out, environment, weather, color of the sky, time of day...ect..ect..) I get really quiet and people around me complain. They complain that I am not "happy" or that I am too quiet. I have had people who have said that they depend on me to bring up their spirits. They ask me if I am OK over and over, and will not take "Yes, I am just focusing" as an answer. Most of the time I generate a lot of energy. My mood affects everyone around me, and I am aware that lowering my output can cause a dip in morale, but lord...it is exhausting!

Some days I do not want to be the cheerleader, one person support group, or the one that enables everyone else to get a boost or level out. Somedays,...I just want to be held or left alone to figure it out.

Yes?
 
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Discussion starter · #4 ·
I have done that too! It is almost like if I walk into a space/environment and it feels "stagnant" or "empty" I feel like I have to move it or fill it with something stimulating. BUT....If the space/environment is already flowing or highly stimulating I tend to relax and watch. The only time I am lost is when I have been absorbed by some subject, complication, or drowning in emotional turmoil. To which, (like all ENFJs) I can find the lesson or silver lining, and talk myself out of being mopey or emo, thus saving myself from cutting my wrists with blades of grass.

:D
 
Discussion starter · #7 ·
Yes, I am experiencing it today in fact ...*smile*
I often feel guilty when I am angry because my brain naturally involves itself into a process of what I am responsible for, what the other person may be experiencing that caused the situation, and a belief that time can heal anything. However, while I am doing that I often forget to express that energy the "feeling" generated, and then all it takes is one more vulnerable moment to send me off a deep end.

Most things I can handle...but the belief that I can handle things is exactly what sets me up for days like today...
*sigh*
 
Discussion starter · #9 ·
Well Thank You! I appreciate it :D I took my own advice and directed my angst into a walk.

Question: When ~you~ (all of you lovely ENFJs) get really upset/super emotional...Do you ever feel like your body gets tight and you feel like you need to walk, or wring out in some way?
 
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