Come on, who really cares? It's just an internal need to eventually reproduce. Move past that. Love for the sake of loving. Who cares about kissing? It really just makes you seem kind of whiny. I mean, I'm a whiner- I'll admit it. But you have to face that. There are bigger problems, bigger more interesting things then "romance". And by the way, girls say they like the hopeless romantic thing, but it gets old really really fast. What's the point? The evolutionary idea of a man, is someone to protect you, not someone who isn't even confident with himself.
Want to know real love? Watch E.T. It's all in the Age of Innocence. When you're young. You'll find someone anyways, I mean there are 6 billion people alive. I'm sure you'll find one. I won't, because I want someone that cares and I can care for- and that's a lot more than hugging and kissing. So you have hope! Most girls aren't total bitches, where the hell do you live?
Sorry if I'm harsh and hypocritical. that's just how I roll. Emphasis on the J in INFJ here. And who cares about attractiveness? Sure people find me attractive here and there, but no one will go out with me because they feel like a pedo. (I look around 12 in real life). But it gets me free meals! So, you have to look on the bright side of things, even though that didn't make much sense, you get what I mean. And facebook is lame, that's not romantic at all. Though it might be helpless, it doesn't take out the lame. How about meet some girls in real life? Sure, you know them. But be chivalrous. Quit searching for the perfect love, and try to become the perfect lover instead.
She's really cute? My goodness, your idea of love is quite ridiculous. (I know that's not what you said) But what if she was ugly? I mean, think of it this way.... you're not different than anyone else. If a girls a bitch, she's a bitch- but you've GOT to love people for who they are, not your fantasies of who you want them to be. That's not even alone- you're not making much of an effort from what I can tell. Just because you don't have a screwing partner- does not make you alone. I know you didn't mention anything about sex... but please- you're a sixteen year old boy. I'm fifteen. I knows....
Anyways, I'm really sorry for being harsh- but not sorry enough to delete any of it.
First of all...calm down
Come on, who really cares? It's just an internal need to eventually reproduce. Move past that. Love for the sake of loving. Who cares about kissing? It really just makes you seem kind of whiny. I mean, I'm a whiner- I'll admit it. But you have to face that. There are bigger problems, bigger more interesting things then "romance". And by the way, girls say they like the hopeless romantic thing, but it gets old really really fast. What's the point? The evolutionary idea of a man, is someone to protect you, not someone who isn't even confident with himself.
I would like to actually kiss someone before saying something like "kissing sucks" or "kissing is bullshit" I cant talk of something if I dont know about it, so yeah I would like to try before judging. and we have way too different ideas about love...it seems to me that you think that love is unexistent or something like that...but for me its not, you just have to find the right person.
Want to know real love? Watch E.T. It's all in the Age of Innocence. When you're young. You'll find someone anyways, I mean there are 6 billion people alive. I'm sure you'll find one. I won't, because I want someone that cares and I can care for- and that's a lot more than hugging and kissing. So you have hope! Most girls aren't total bitches, where the hell do you live?
no offense to all the guys who posted here...but it seems that a lot of people didnt find someone until they were 20+ and I really dont want to walk that path...a relationship is far more than hugging and kissing I am very wary of that...
and I live in a place where almost every girl, sadly, think that its cool to drink alcohol or smoke or use drugs or have sex (even though they are underage) and that cheating on a couple is nothing serious and that it can be done multiple times without any consequence.
Sorry if I'm harsh and hypocritical. that's just how I roll. Emphasis on the J in INFJ here. And who cares about attractiveness? Sure people find me attractive here and there, but no one will go out with me because they feel like a pedo. (I look around 12 in real life). But it gets me free meals! So, you have to look on the bright side of things, even though that didn't make much sense, you get what I mean. And facebook is lame, that's not romantic at all. Though it might be helpless, it doesn't take out the lame. How about meet some girls in real life? Sure, you know them. But be chivalrous. Quit searching for the perfect love, and try to become the perfect lover instead.
Dont worry, its cool to vent sometimes, Im not mad at you or anything.
and I care about attractiveness...I would not date a camel ugly girl...and I know that most girls wont date a camel ugly guy.
When I was going on a date with a girl, the last thing I thought about was "woohoo im gonna be a gentleman and buy her a free meal!" and Im sure that she didnt said "woohoo free meal!" (she wouldnt even let me pay for her movie ticket)
and what is wrong with meeting people over facebook? a friend of mine met her current boyfriend over facebook and they look like the happiest couple ever...this is the 21th century...we have internet, why not to take advantage of it? after all real people use facebook, its not like the internet is used by robots to entertain...and besides the girl that I said I met over facebook is an actual friend of some of my friends...its not like its a girl I will never see irl, as a matter of fact im sure I have already seen her once or twice.
using facebook is also real life...and texting is also talking...because you are meeting and talking at people THROUGH the internet but they ARE talking its not some automatic answering machine...its way easier to meet someone online than to do it irl...mainly because I am 16 so I really dont go out on friday night to clubs or anything (and even if I had the age, I wouldnt do it as I dont like those places)
She's really cute? My goodness, your idea of love is quite ridiculous. (I know that's not what you said) But what if she was ugly? I mean, think of it this way.... you're not different than anyone else. If a girls a bitch, she's a bitch- but you've GOT to love people for who they are, not your fantasies of who you want them to be. That's not even alone- you're not making much of an effort from what I can tell. Just because you don't have a screwing partner- does not make you alone. I know you didn't mention anything about sex... but please- you're a sixteen year old boy. I'm fifteen. I knows....
No one ever said that my idea of love was just "being physically attractive" you also need a personality...and yeah, she IS really cute, she is very very cute physically speaking (and according to my friends she also has a cute and great personality)
I would never love a girl if she was a bitch...do you think that I would say something like "Oh yeah she had 4 boyfriends simultaneously and none of them were aware of the others...but it will be different with me, I know she is a bitch but I gotta love her for how she is" hell no, I stay away from that kind of girls...as soon as I know that a girl smokes/Drinks/has cheated on boyfriend, its a complete turn off for me...
they are not "fantasies" they are STANDARDS...and my standards are very high...as you said that you were showing up the J of the iNFJ...im showing the perfectionist spirit of the INFJ...yeah im very perfectionist and have very high standards and I already met girls that fit into those standards, so they are nothing like a "fantasy"