IxTx Communication Problem
I've been in a serious relationship with my allieged ISTP (We are still uncertain on the S/N and J/P) for over a year now. I got into the relationship directly after another relationship of 4 years (I believe my ex was a ENTP). In the beginning he seemed so deep, intellegent and maybe even emotional; after the year with him, I have came to the conclusion he definately isn't what I thought.
He is very hard to communicate with. Communication between us has gotten down to just the bare minimum. Mainly "What are we going to eat? x20 (I could care less) a day or "What are we doing today? x5 and a lot of "Whatcha doin?" x20 (Which typically he can visually see what Im doing, thus very fustrating.) In short, he usually has nothing of imporantance to say. The most I get is jokes about inappropriate things, bodily functions. I LOVE to talk to the person Im with. I love to bounce ideas/thoughts...but I actually enjoy the feedback/debates most. He rarely ever lets this happen. If I make a statement/question the typical response I get is silence or grumbles. I have avidly complained about this, but it has been decided in his mind that if he doesn't have an opinion, he isn't going to comment. I get so tired of hearing such repeative statements... I can pretty well predict what he is going to say days before he says them.
I am to the point of breaking down over this. When I bring it up it turns into a huge argument about how he can't make me happy yada yada, or as of late, completely disreguards my upset. I personally have become somewhat of a monster because of this lack in our relationship. I never feel satisfied, I constantly feel utterly alone... seeing he is the only person I would talk to... I have been mentally doorslamming him for months. I have become such a smartass to him.. to almost everything.
Any Advice? I don't want to end my relationship, I just need guidance on how to break the barrier... the silence.
I've been in a serious relationship with my allieged ISTP (We are still uncertain on the S/N and J/P) for over a year now. I got into the relationship directly after another relationship of 4 years (I believe my ex was a ENTP). In the beginning he seemed so deep, intellegent and maybe even emotional; after the year with him, I have came to the conclusion he definately isn't what I thought.
He is very hard to communicate with. Communication between us has gotten down to just the bare minimum. Mainly "What are we going to eat? x20 (I could care less) a day or "What are we doing today? x5 and a lot of "Whatcha doin?" x20 (Which typically he can visually see what Im doing, thus very fustrating.) In short, he usually has nothing of imporantance to say. The most I get is jokes about inappropriate things, bodily functions. I LOVE to talk to the person Im with. I love to bounce ideas/thoughts...but I actually enjoy the feedback/debates most. He rarely ever lets this happen. If I make a statement/question the typical response I get is silence or grumbles. I have avidly complained about this, but it has been decided in his mind that if he doesn't have an opinion, he isn't going to comment. I get so tired of hearing such repeative statements... I can pretty well predict what he is going to say days before he says them.
I am to the point of breaking down over this. When I bring it up it turns into a huge argument about how he can't make me happy yada yada, or as of late, completely disreguards my upset. I personally have become somewhat of a monster because of this lack in our relationship. I never feel satisfied, I constantly feel utterly alone... seeing he is the only person I would talk to... I have been mentally doorslamming him for months. I have become such a smartass to him.. to almost everything.
Any Advice? I don't want to end my relationship, I just need guidance on how to break the barrier... the silence.