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Keeping yourself happy?

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Hello everyone,
I am a young INTJ, single(living on my own) and 19 years of age who has a hard time with the concept of keeping oneself happy. I know I don't need someone else to keep me happy. I have a hard time with this concept honestly, as obviously being young I don't have an incredible amount of cash at my disposal or anyone I'm close to living with or nearby. I listen to music, go for drives in my car, try attempts at humor on forums (4chan if anyone cares), blah.
It gets old fast I'll say that much, I've got some emotional wounds from growing up that may play some factoring.
Do I make any sense?
In short, advice time needed.
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Ah this challenge...

The Happiness Project comes to mind as one of several different sites that may help assuming that you just wanted to be happy tempoarily.

Emotional Intelligence is another arena that may work as a topic to research further if you want to go down that rabbit hole. The idea here being that a combination of self-awareness, self-managment, social awareness and relationship building skills may help to improve your situation in life, but this is still something I'm exploring with mixed results.

Discovering your type can help give an idea of where to go, but there is a part that is on you to do too. For example, what does your Enneagram type tell you that you like to do and want to do in the world? What central challenge in your life are you having to overcome that may be holding you back? These are just things to explore and see what may work for you or may not. 5 is in my tri-type but not my initial result which is a 1w2. There are also other systems like "Strengths Finder 2.0" that may help you find your strengths and this may lead to what works for you. For example, does volunteering appeal to you? Some hobbies can be cheap and some sites like are ways to find others with a similar interest.

For finding motivation consider 3 things: Autonomy, Mastery, and Purpose. Since you control your life you have autonomy taken to its limit almost. Mastery is a bit trickier since this requires some more context to my mind, but as I love to learn this suits me well. Purpose is last but also one of the hardest to resolve. Why are you here and what do you want? I still struggle with the "What do you want?" so while I can offer suggestions, I don't have the silver bullet for you sorry.

"But Will It Make You Happy?" may also be interesting in regards to living simply that may or may not be useful for you.
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