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Knowing how to be

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#1 ·
I'm curious to know if this is just a human thing, related to type or functions.

I'll give an example to help explain. In one of my uni classes we were simulating a mock group interview, and the aim was to give feedback on how we work in groups and what things companies are looking for when looking for graduates.

What I found interesting was before we were given the task I felt like I knew how I was supposed to be. That is how I was supposed to conduct my self, interact with others, what things show good group/team work and taking initiative. No I did not systematically go through my head what I had to do, it was I just a sense of how to be and then becoming this.


Other times I can feel like I'm wearing someone else's face. Well it's more how I am in that moment I think is imitating others mannerisms and I see that persons face in my minds eye. It's like in that moment I have become them. I am doing what they do, saying things like they say. That person does not need to be around me for this to happen, I can be completely alone (So I'm not simply mirroring the person in front of me).
 
#3 ·
Interesting. Sometime I feel like I just make stuff up and more often than not it works.



I'm curious what you think may lead to these thought patterns.


I don't know why but I was observing people around we, I guess me just tired with the hustle and bustle of life in a rush to be somewhere or have some task completed, to which I paused to stop and look around. In my minds eye I saw a woman wearing a ragged grey dress, a bandage wrapped around her head covering her eyes. All monochrom except fr the bood on the bandages.

I just had a sense that every one around me was traveling somewhere, be it space or time. Just on fast forward yet completely blind to it all. No question to where they are traveling, and more important why they are taking that path they are taking.

Later thinking about this and that question of what the destination was, the idea that came to me was at the end is death. That's where our paths lead and yet so many people are busy in a rush to get to the end. What is the rush? What's the point? Do people ask themselves these questions or are they just traveling blind never stopping to consider which path they want?



Another thought I had. I saw a disabled man. He seemed happy, just not right in the head. It really stooped me that all I am capable of seeing and understanding is limited by my brain. It felt so limiting that I can never understand what is really happening in the world. That I can never see any truth, only what my brain allows. It was this idea Spent some time contemplating.

I then later summise perhaps the truth to all this is I don't like facing my own mortality.
 
#5 ·
I find this interesting because I have an INFJ friend IRL (well she claims to be) and in some ways we are quite different.
I find she is more emotional than me, how she communicates her upset is often through behaviour or small cues (rather than just saying she's upset). Things like being upset at her partner for not doing something together valentines (even though agreeing to not do something) baffles me.

When I'm upset my initial reaction is inwards, why am I upset? What insecurity may I have that is being triggered? More looking for my inner truth than externally blaming others.

I don't care so much about festivities like valentines (to me celebrating that day is somewhat buying into commercialism, and does not show how much someone cares). I think this is why I thought Fi over Fe.
 
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