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... and I thought he was an ENFP at first.

So here's the thing, I'm well aware of the dynamic between ENFPs and INFJs. I was in a long term relationship with an ENFP, who, by far was the easiest to get along with of all my exs. Some of my closest friends are ENFPs, INFJs, INTJs, and INFPs. Although the INFPs disappear way more often than my INFJ friends.

I'm enamored with ENFJs, and recently dated one; although it was short lived and didn't work well, I think it had to do more with the individual's past traumas than any strange dynamic between our cognitive functions. I will say this about ENFJs though, primary Fe can be annoying and at times disingenuous which is frustrating for me as an INFJ especially when they hide things because they're afraid of hurting my feelings. I value honesty and truth over hurt feelings any day, I'd rather know the reality of something so it can be addressed rather then swept under the rug. Ugh.

I have never actually met an ENTP in the wild, except for a gay ENTP friend of mine - but I mostly attributed his popularity and niceness to the fact he was gay and therefore instantly likable :tongue:

For the longest time, based on the posts made on PerC by ENTPs, I've been staunchly holding onto the position the INFJ+ENTP dynamic is completely fabricated and a ruse. Any time personality compatibility theories come up, I will usually mention ENFPs as being the ideal match and vehemently disagree with the concept of an ENTP being anything close to a good match, until I met this "ENFP" coworker. I was expecting a fast talking, argumentative, quick witted and crass person when meeting an ENTP and not an ENFP lol

This whole time I thought this ENTP was an ENFP because he seemed to exhibit all the traits of ENFPs - being sociable, kind, gentle in management style but a lot more structured in thinking. There were moments when this ENTP would comment on certain things in regards to our project, and I would turn around and say "that's exactly what I thought". It was strange, but the way in which we managed our time, our thinking process, and organizing the work load within our mind was very similar. This was a bit different than most ENFPs I know, so I assumed this person was maybe leaning more towards a thinking ENFP but an ENFP nonetheless.

I also noticed that as we worked more together, we had this weird kind of strange awareness of each other at all times. I've only experienced this kind of awareness with ENFPs. It's kind of like, meeting your mental twin? I experience the same kind of connectedness with ENFPs which is why I assumed they were an ENFP. Like when they enter into the room, you could feel them at all times.

This dynamic started weirding me out a bit because I've never experienced anything quite like it, even with other ENFPs - so I hopped onto the PerC ENFP forum to ask questions which I will quote below. I even made a whole post about the ENFP+INFJ dynamic THINKING this person was an ENFP when it actuality they were an ENTP. Still blows my mind how incorrect I was LOL You can see the thread here: http://personalitycafe.com/enfp-for...-sexual-attraction-one-infjs-perspective.html

Replace all "ENFP" with "ENTP":
I also notice that the ENFP notices me, which is very twilight zonie lol. This post was prompted because I have a coworker who I'm sure is an ENFP. I keep sensing that he is an ENFP but it's like every time he enters into the office, we are both aware of each others presence. It's kind of strange. It's like some weird "I know that you know that I know" loop. I think we both sense the other and there is this natural attraction and it's kind of freaky. He didn't seem all that nervous in the beginning but as time goes on I've noticed he's gotten more nervous ^_^;

There's a few things he's doing that, I wonder if its subconscious or if he is purposefully trying to manipulate the situation to make me notice. For instance, we look into each others eyes for a long period of time and sometimes with silence and from my perspective I just want to stay there and figure out what is going through his mind but I realize the longer this goes on it will be hella awkward so I break eye contact. I feel as if I can almost mind read him, but it never ends of being anything close to mind reading, just a gut feeling.

I catch him looking at my eyes and then my lips, which weirds me out because it makes me think I might have something on my teeth -__-; He also moves in very close to me to talk to me during any of our projects and touched my hand.

I want to think he's being unintentional about this, and perhaps his subconscious is controlling him but I also know that ENFPs are much more well versed with body language and because they are Fi-aux - they are aware of their own feelings more - which makes me think he might be intentional with all of this. I also feel like he is too intelligent to be doing this all subconsciously.


On Mr. ENTP coming off cold and unapproachable during the start of the project:

Like when my coworker first came, I thought maybe he might've felt ostracized in the office and had a difficult time breaking out of his shell to talk to the other team members. Another INFJ in the office asked me to offer my help to him, since he wasn't warming up to us that quickly and he really didn't have anyone in the office who was good at making him feel like part of the team.

So it was up to me, and I knew it would be awkward @[email protected]; the ENFP-coworker had walls up all around him and he was really quiet and focused on his job. I think this was due to his nervousness about performance on the job. It made him appear like a cold and closed off guy LOL However, when we all started to talk to him, it was obvious he wasn't. I would see little glimpses of things he said in response to me that showed me he truly was a nice guy on the inside. I think his Fi was working in overdrive and perhaps he didn't know how to break the ice?

So I broke the ice for him LOL Funny story if you wanna read it but I'll spare you guys the details haha


Also, the more I worked with this ENTP, I started to notice he was a mumbling bumbling mess. The deer-in-headlights look on his eyes, and I could sense he was becoming very stiff/rigid around me.

You know. I really do think this ENFP-coworker of mine has a crush on me @[email protected]; I was showing him something on my iPhone, and he came and sat right next to me and his leg touched mine. I just pretended like nothing happened even though it was a very awkward for me >_>;

Also, even though we have lunch together to talk about work related concepts (we are designers), he doesn't talk as much as I do. He listens a lot. He also stares at me in the eyes the entire time, and sometimes I see his eyes moving to scan my entire face, and looking down at my lips. The lip thing weirds me out because it makes me think I have food in my teeth -__-;

I bought coffee for him and another coworker, and during the visit to the coffee shop I ran across another old-coworker from a different company (INFP) and gave him a hug and talked about catching up with lunch some time later. ENFP guy asks me "so who is that?" and I said "Oh, an old coworker from ------". Just seemed strange he asked because the other coworker joining us for coffee didn't care LOL I try to make this ENFP feel more comfortable and relaxed around me, I joked with the barista that I was buying coffee for two homeless guys I picked up on the streets (my coworker) and they both laughed but it didn't seem to make the ENFP any more comfortable or talkative with me @[email protected];

Could it be possible that he likes me? He's so awkward around me lately, it's just strange. I've been trying to be more friendly and helpful and trying to get to know him as a friend so he can just be cool with me but he seems to be getting more shy the more I try to get to know him as a friend @[email protected];
So... I'm completely wrong and glad to admit that I am. Perhaps the representation of ENTPs on this forum is not accurate, or maybe many people are mistyped. The more I talked with this ENTP about his ENTP status, I found out that he held back a lot of his thoughts and ideas because of the job - sounds very Fe of him. It's something I also do as a Fe-aux is assess the situation and see whether or not it's necessary or appropriate for the situation at hand.

In any case, I'm very surprised to have met an ENTP in the wild and surprised to find out we got along so well - enough that I was fooled into thinking he was an ENFP.

In retrospect, some differences between my ENTP and ENFP experience is this - the ENTP is just as scattered with their attention, although their ability to organize thoughts fall more in line with the INFJ's cognitive function. I think this has to do with shared Ti and Fe. ENTPs are actually, in many ways, more socially graceful than ENFPs. I find that ENFPs can be socially awkward, slightly more so than ENTPs. However, both ENTPs and ENFPs seem to react to their romantic interests in similarish ways although the ENTP is WAAAYYY more willing to push the boundaries.

The more I got to know this ENTP, the more I found him to have a soft-ish inner core. Honestly, it's quite hard for me to tell the difference between the ENTP and ENFP. I would say that the real difference between them would probably only show up when things are going bad as opposed to good. At the very least, my experience with an ENTP in the wild, is that during positive social interactions, it's quite difficult to tell them apart from an ENFP. I think the biggest difference might be Fe vs Fi. ENFPs are just not as visually expressive as ENTPs, I think this might have to do with Fe.

In any case, I'm utterly impressed and blown away by the ENTP+INFJ social dynamics and I think this one encounter may have changed my opinion on the compatibility. HOWEVER, I caught this ENTP looking at my lips, and eyeing me up and down. I still have no clue why the hell he was doing that, seems very bold to let a woman see you checking her out. I can't tell if this was subconscious or he wanted me to purposefully see it, strange as heck. In conclusion, maybe ENTPs are cognitively compatible with INFJs but for sure ENTPs are dirty dogs
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PS: I'm an older INFJ who can pass as an extrovert, it's one of the few reasons why I think I was able to meet an ENTP. I've been exercising being more sociable for spiritual reasons, and happened to stumble upon an ENTP in the wild because I wasn't locked in my room studying a million things :p
 

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INFJs overlook ENTPs and think they are trouble or dickheads or something.
ENTPs think INFJs are time wasters.
I know know 2 INFJs in real life.
Its an interaction that takes time because each has a social face that repels the other

This is just what i have noticed
 

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I will say this about ENFJs though, primary Fe can be annoying and at times disingenuous which is frustrating for me as an INFJ especially when they hide things because they're afraid of hurting my feelings. I value honesty and truth over hurt feelings any day, I'd rather know the reality of something so it can be addressed rather then swept under the rug. Ugh
yeah, for me I find it's easiest for me to get along w/ other irrational (E--P,I--Js) types cause of that sort of stuff.


In retrospect, some differences between my ENTP and ENFP experience is this - the ENTP is just as scattered with their attention, although their ability to organize thoughts fall more in line with the INFJ's cognitive function. I think this has to do with shared Ti and Fe. ENTPs are actually, in many ways, more socially graceful than ENFPs. I find that ENFPs can be socially awkward, slightly more so than ENTPs. However, both ENTPs and ENFPs seem to react to their romantic interests in similarish ways although the ENTP is WAAAYYY more willing to push the boundaries.

The more I got to know this ENTP, the more I found him to have a soft-ish inner core. Honestly, it's quite hard for me to tell the difference between the ENTP and ENFP. I would say that the real difference between them would probably only show up when things are going bad as opposed to good. At the very least, my experience with an ENTP in the wild, is that during positive social interactions, it's quite difficult to tell them apart from an ENFP. I think the biggest difference might be Fe vs Fi. ENFPs are just not as visually expressive as ENTPs, I think this might have to do with Fe.



I think entps and enfps can appear very similar, I think where we are noticeably different is w/ Fe vs Fi. I find ENFPs tend to be SJW were they have a very liberal set of values which they self righteously feel everyone should agree w/... whereas entps tend to be more pluralistic and libertarian where they see morals and ethics and emotional sentiments as more subjective. ENFPs are very emotionally sensitive, which I think might not be apparent when you first meet them, but if you form a relationship, friendship and spend time with them it becomes very apparent. Whereas ENTPs are the least sensitive, nothing really ever bothers us emotionally, our emotional parts of our brains are like turned inside out just aimed at picking up on other people's emotions.
 

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ENTPs think INFJs are time wasters.
Time wasters? What's the story behind this sentiment about INFJs? Just curious. Inferior Se?


I find ENFPs tend to be SJW were they have a very liberal set of values which they self righteously feel everyone should agree w/...
Self righteous is not an attitude I've experienced so much with ENFPs but I think for me it has to do with their Perceiving functions "seeming" being open to possibilities. I think at their core, ENFPs have personal values that drive them forward.

ENFPs are very emotionally sensitive, which I think might not be apparent when you first meet them, but if you form a relationship, friendship and spend time with them it becomes very apparent.
Yes, this is true. They can come off rather open minded, but I think once you get to know them - they're fairly grounded in their beliefs. I think that's also one of the reasons why INFJs get along with ENFPs, they have this surface of being rather floaty but once you get to know them - they are fairly grounded in a way that gives INFJs comfort and seem familiar (at least on an emotional level).

Whereas ENTPs are the least sensitive, nothing really ever bothers us emotionally, our emotional parts of our brains are like turned inside out just aimed at picking up on other people's emotions.
Yeah I would say so. Although, I think the more I interacted with this ENTP, I noticed his behavior kind of changing and seeming very ENFP-like.

Over the course of my life, I've managed to somehow capture the hearts of a handful of ENFPs. Some of my closest friends are ENFPs, and the guys just seem to gravitate towards me (no idea why but perhaps they just see something in me they're drawn to? No clue, I still find that attraction on their part kind of peculiar). The more an ENFP likes me, romantically, the more self-aware they become - I've noticed them blushing and kind of not knowing what to do. So when this ENTP started exhibiting similar traits, I thought for sure he was an ENFP with a crush lol

I was under the impression that if this person was in fact a NT and not an NF, he would be more calm and controlled but I saw moments where he looked afraid when I approached him. Or that he was fumbling to find the right words but just kept pressing forward LOL! It was kind of adorable to be honest. Although it seemed like the more I tried to get him to relax, the more tense and controlled he became, but it was kind of amazing how the ENTP kept pushing forward no matter how nervous he seemed. It was cute. Not the response I expected from the fast talking, argumentative "debater" type. Looks like there are some emotions underneath it all :p
 
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Time wasters? What's the story behind this sentiment about INFJs? Just curious. Inferior Se?
Yeah it might be something to do with the inferior Se. A sort of risk adverseness and slow to make decisions
 
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wow so you met 1 ENTP and here you are talking about how all of them are the same
Whoa WHOA!!!! Let’s get our facts straight. Two. I assumed they were all the same initially which is why I disagreed with INFJ ENTP compatibility... just saying I met one gay entp and also one straight one recently that changed my opinion. Woo, assesment of yours is way off.
 

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Ugh, atleast be accurate. tldr “ENTP INFJ May have some basis in truth”
 

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Time wasters? What's the story behind this sentiment about INFJs? Just curious. Inferior Se?




Self righteous is not an attitude I've experienced so much with ENFPs but I think for me it has to do with their Perceiving functions "seeming" being open to possibilities. I think at their core, ENFPs have personal values that drive them forward.



Yes, this is true. They can come off rather open minded, but I think once you get to know them - they're fairly grounded in their beliefs. I think that's also one of the reasons why INFJs get along with ENFPs, they have this surface of being rather floaty but once you get to know them - they are fairly grounded in a way that gives INFJs comfort and seem familiar (at least on an emotional level).



Yeah I would say so. Although, I think the more I interacted with this ENTP, I noticed his behavior kind of changing and seeming very ENFP-like.

Over the course of my life, I've managed to somehow capture the hearts of a handful of ENFPs. Some of my closest friends are ENFPs, and the guys just seem to gravitate towards me (no idea why but perhaps they just see something in me they're drawn to? No clue, I still find that attraction on their part kind of peculiar). The more an ENFP likes me, romantically, the more self-aware they become - I've noticed them blushing and kind of not knowing what to do. So when this ENTP started exhibiting similar traits, I thought for sure he was an ENFP with a crush lol

I was under the impression that if this person was in fact a NT and not an NF, he would be more calm and controlled but I saw moments where he looked afraid when I approached him. Or that he was fumbling to find the right words but just kept pressing forward LOL! It was kind of adorable to be honest. Although it seemed like the more I tried to get him to relax, the more tense and controlled he became, but it was kind of amazing how the ENTP kept pushing forward no matter how nervous he seemed. It was cute. Not the response I expected from the fast talking, argumentative "debater" type. Looks like there are some emotions underneath it all :p


The two ENxP types are the closest relatives, so it's normal if they appear similar.


Are you noticing that ENFPs have a greater need to be liked and accepted? Whereas ENTPs prefer to be simply respected, though they can be quite emotional, which may be why many don't think Obama is ENTP.
 

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I was under the impression that if this person was in fact a NT and not an NF, he would be more calm and controlled but I saw moments where he looked afraid when I approached him. Or that he was fumbling to find the right words but just kept pressing forward LOL! It was kind of adorable to be honest. Although it seemed like the more I tried to get him to relax, the more tense and controlled he became, but it was kind of amazing how the ENTP kept pushing forward no matter how nervous he seemed. It was cute. Not the response I expected from the fast talking, argumentative "debater" type. Looks like there are some emotions underneath it all :p
well everyone's different, and perhaps no one is really truly ENFP or ENTP or INFJ
 

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... and I thought he was an ENFP at first.

So here's the thing, I'm well aware of the dynamic between ENFPs and INFJs. I was in a long term relationship with an ENFP, who, by far was the easiest to get along with of all my exs. Some of my closest friends are ENFPs, INFJs, INTJs, and INFPs. Although the INFPs disappear way more often than my INFJ friends.

I'm enamored with ENFJs, and recently dated one; although it was short lived and didn't work well, I think it had to do more with the individual's past traumas than any strange dynamic between our cognitive functions. I will say this about ENFJs though, primary Fe can be annoying and at times disingenuous which is frustrating for me as an INFJ especially when they hide things because they're afraid of hurting my feelings. I value honesty and truth over hurt feelings any day, I'd rather know the reality of something so it can be addressed rather then swept under the rug. Ugh.

I have never actually met an ENTP in the wild, except for a gay ENTP friend of mine - but I mostly attributed his popularity and niceness to the fact he was gay and therefore instantly likable :tongue:
I stopped here.


I really do love these kind post, helping and talking about
relationships and feelings.

That said. I just have a quick question here.
How do you know everyone's type? Everyone you dated, all of your pals...people you run into..
That seems very presumptuous of you. I mean, short of you making all these people take the
test multiple times...how do you know this?

Also...You have met a lot of ENTP..you just dont know it.
Unless you truly believe that you have only met ONE in
person. Which I seriously doubt.

Again, I want to go over your post and respond but I need to ascertain
the validity of your mbti typing prowess. Seems highly unlikely.

Let me know then we can get down to the good stuff!
 

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Also...You have met a lot of ENTP..you just dont know it.
yeah I'd second that... I meet entps everywhere,..along w/ every other type. Been at a job ~1 1/2yr of ~60+ ppl there, there have been ~5 entps. have 2 entps in my family. Have met ~5+ through friends in past ~5 yrs and there prob have been more that I met as brief acquaintances. ENTPs seem as common to me as any other type ~1 in every 16 people are prob entp. The dunbar number (number of social acquaintances people have is proposed to be 150-200 so you prob now ~ 10 or more entps.
 

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The two ENxP types are the closest relatives, so it's normal if they appear similar.
Thanks so much for sharing this chart! :D

Are you noticing that ENFPs have a greater need to be liked and accepted? Whereas ENTPs prefer to be simply respected, though they can be quite emotional, which may be why many don't think Obama is ENTP.
MMM... of the two confirmed ENTPs that I know of and ENFPs... I’ve noticed that ENTPs are less awkward about interacting with people. It may be that I am picking up on ENTP’s development of Fe. There’s something about Fi with “some” ENFPs that makes socializing difficult in the sense of noticing social cues? I’ve met some ENFPs that don’t understand how to correctly convey their intentions because it seems they’re engrossed in their own feelings, it’s strange.

I think perhaps my observations have to be tempered with the fact that I am an INFJ who tends to attract a certain type of ENFP, the more awkward types who naturally gravitate towards my “understanding” nature. It’s actually quite difficult for me to tell the apart an ENFP from an ENTP in real life, especially the more well balanced and perhaps older ENxPs. It’s much easier for me to recognize the extreme versions of both types.

It’s only now that I’m starting to meet older and more well adjusted adults that I’m finding MBTI to be much more difficult to accurately quantify my experiences.

Of the two ENTPs that I have met irl, they are nothing like the ENTPs on the forum. Not in the slightest, which is why I am a little more confused about my understanding and also very intrigued LOL The ENTPs I’ve met and gotten along with tend to be much softer and more well rounded than what I see here online? I had one professor who I believe is an ENTP, although that is unconfirmed. I wonder if the sample size of MBTI on PerC is skewed for all types and perhaps we’re just not getting the full picture. AH!

Edit: Answer to your question is that in my observations, ENFPs have a need to be both liked and respected where as the ENTP wants to be respected and doesn’t care so much about being liked... just not hated so much as to lose the respect and not too bothered if it is lost regardless especially if there was no way to avoid it.
 
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well everyone's different, and perhaps no one is really truly ENFP or ENTP or INFJ
Yes. I think the older I get, and the longer I’ve known about MBTI... I’m finding my experience with it is more confusing than helpful. Perhaps it’s putting a box around people that shouldn’t be there.

I never thought I would get along with an ENTP but I’m quite surprised. Of the ENTPs I met, I thought for sure he was a feeler. I don’t know, both ENTPs have come off as more feeler types to me. I’ve been reading some posts on PerC about ENTP/INFJ dynamics and it seems that some INFJs are capable of bringing out the more emotional qualities of an ENTP during social interactions. Perhaps I’m also not taking into account my affect on him as an ENTP, and maybe our dynamic and interaction is bringing out qualities within each other that might be less noticeable with others :)
 
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I stopped here.


I really do love these kind post, helping and talking about
relationships and feelings.
Thanks! I do too :D

That said. I just have a quick question here.
How do you know everyone's type? Everyone you dated, all of your pals...people you run into..
That seems very presumptuous of you. I mean, short of you making all these people take the
test multiple times...how do you know this?
I am making them take the tests.
Both of my recent ex’s I made them take the MBTI quizzes and we would read them and go over the descriptions, and I would go as far as to ask questions about how they feel about their results and whether or not they relate. I would make them read mine and ask them if they thought, based on our interaction, my MBTI description (INFJ) was accurate. Both ex’s thought my INFJ description fit me 99-100% but they were about 90% on their own MBTI results (ENFP ex and ENFJ ex).

Of my friends, I have gotten almost all of them to take the MBTI. Not multiple times, but of my close friends they’ve taken them multiple times and we have gone over the results and discussed them. They all feel like their MBTI is accurate.

Of my coworkers and acquaintances, I usually always find a way to make them take the quiz. Some of them I question the results, but of the ones that I do, we take the test again. I’ll ask them if they feel the results are accurate. If I still question their type, I’ll ask them in more details about how they interact with their significant others, families, close friends...etc... to verify that it is.

I can’t say that I am 100% sure of my acquaintances, but of my close friends and close relationships and family members I am 99% sure of their results.

Also...You have met a lot of ENTP..you just dont know it.
Perhaps I have, but I don’t think I ever got to know them well enough to sense any sort of compatibility? I do question whether or not I have met a lot since I am a practically indoors all the time and never leave the house LOL Also aren’t ENTPs quite rare? 3% of the population. ENFPs are about 6%? I’ve certainly met much more ENFPs.

Unless you truly believe that you have only met ONE in
person. Which I seriously doubt.
No, I don’t truly believe I’ve only met 1 ENTP. I’ve met 2 confirmed ENTPs, and perhaps 1 unconfirmed professor (engineer).

Again, I want to go over your post and respond but I need to ascertain
the validity of your mbti typing prowess. Seems highly unlikely.
I’m not accurate at guessing people’s MBTI. I initially guessed that this person was an ENFP, only to have them take the test, twice, to confirm that they are in fact an ENTP. I believe it’s the third time they’ve taken the test. They also believe the description to be true to them, and I’ve spoken to them in details about certain ENTP traits and habits and they have admitted to it being a part of their life with close friends.

Let me know then we can get down to the good stuff!
Okay, I’m ready for the good stuff ;D
 

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yeah I'd second that... I meet entps everywhere,..along w/ every other type. Been at a job ~1 1/2yr of ~60+ ppl there, there have been ~5 entps. have 2 entps in my family. Have met ~5+ through friends in past ~5 yrs and there prob have been more that I met as brief acquaintances. ENTPs seem as common to me as any other type ~1 in every 16 people are prob entp. The dunbar number (number of social acquaintances people have is proposed to be 150-200 so you prob now ~ 10 or more entps.
Well, being an ENTP yourself, would you say that you’re very outgoing?

I’ve only recently started to force myself to become more social for spiritual reasons and so I am attracting and meeting more people than I am use to (and also having to deal with a lot of downsides because of it, like people being clingy with me bleh!). I almost never leave the house, and rarely hang out with friends. I suppose I have met more ENTPs, but whether or not I have actually had the opportunity to interact socially with ENTPs on a regular basis - I highly doubt I have considering my social life. I’m just not seen in public enough and interacting with coworkers enough to have any kind of opportunity to meet let alone get to know an ENTP.

Wow, I probably sound like a complete shut in but I pinky promise I’m a very nice person lol :crazy:
 
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Hmmmm okay. So I went over the whole post.

Allow me to validate my response quick here. I am ENTP (obv). I was raised
by ENFP sisters, 3 of them, as tested. I believe my grandmother was an ENFP as well
yet that is untested so I cant be certain.

The greatest rift I see between my ENFP family and myself is the ability to rationalize
items based on fact vs emotion. Myself, I will back onto the logic of each situation
my ENFP family works more on how items are making people feel and move forward that
way. For myself it need not be a good feeling. Actually the feelings, if the solution
is the right solution are quite irrelevant to me, my own feelings included.
My ENFP's? Well that does not fly so much.
You will notice this more in arguments/bad times vs good times scenarios.

I dont know how to explain it exactly but I will try and sum it up in one ramble.
ENTP/ENFP are flighty, fluid and very malleable. The are insightful and
observant. They have a lot of the same traits for sure. But I tend to
use those traits in a more tactile logical way and ENFP tend to use them in a
more feeling blended way. It starts with the feels and moves out
where I start with the hard logic and move out from that. The one item that
may make us seem similar is that we use the same tools we just build a different
house. If that makes any sense. So it is completely understandable that we get
mistyped a ton.

Heavy Fe ENTP will come of remarkably strong like an ENFP.
Heavy Te ENFP may come off like an ENTP.

There is the obvious monstrous difference that ENFP can actually understand
their own feelings. ENTP have massive issues with this. Yes we can read others feelings
and work on that but when it comes to ourselves? We suck. Bad. It takes a lot
of work for an ENTP to first recognize the effects of an emotion never mind deciding what
that emotion actually is. That is something we all have issue with even the heavy Fe
ENTP. ENFP do not have this issue. ENTP will also rationalize away emotions and deem them irrelevant.
This is a pro and a con. Sometimes it saves us a lot of undue grief other times it makes us
miss out on some of the best feels out there.

On the other hand I see the ENFP in my life make drastic and life altering decisions in a
knee jerk fashion based on a fleeting feeling. A lot of the times this serves them well yet
other times it is very counter productive. Very. They will also tend to offer too much
opinion on feelings and how to adjust or deal with a feeling. Its intrusive at times and
far to feel-y.

I am a very heavy Fe laden ENTP. Furthermore, I am actively trying to work on
my feelings and recognition of. I come off very ENFP like given the right situation.

SO I spoke on the differences I see between ENFP and ENTP.
What is it you are looking for really here? Just talking about
types ? Or are you looking for advice on how to move forward with
this ENTP in a romantic way?
 
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