Idk but Wisteria you sound like you are dual seeking Ne from somethings you mentioned.
I took socionics test and got EII. I was pretty sure I was EII beforehand as well and I'm not sure how reliable the test is but FWIW my test result was EII. Which makes my dual LSE. I've had duality experiences way before I even knew what socionics was. And initially I experienced it as "This person is how I should be, they are confident, they can take the lead, assert themselves, and organize a crowd." But at the same time I experience "This person is cliche, boring, and too bull headed." Lol so the coin as too sides.
It seems like LSEs like me because I am not a threat to them. Perhaps they do not like people they cannot control and they see that I am not gonna give them any problems, the thing about their control though is that I see it as a choice, I can choose to follow them if it benefits me or choose not to, whether they know this or not I don't know, but that's generally why I don't fight them too much with their controlling tendencies, because ultimately I won't do anything against my will if I don't want to. Usually the experience is with either me joking alot and them finding my funny nature fun to be around and they can be less serious around me which I think they appreciate, since many of them are work-aholics, or they are all up for helping me with practical matters throwing a bunch of advice at me, resources, and just a general attitude of "Hey, what do you need! I'll Help!", but many times it feels like they want points for helping (3w2?), and that sometimes looks egotistical to me. Also some LSEs can talk about themselves far too much to the point where the conversation becomes almost 100% one-sided. Also LSEs are good to brainstorm with, they appreciate Ne ideas I have usually and will hear me out, though at first some ideas will be met with discomfort or uncertainty.
But ultimately duality feels like some invisible connection, cliche but I have no more interesting way to describe it, but the invisible connection makes the person feel vague familiar and sort of like family, like deep down I understand them.
Experiences
I remember one guy at college was LSE and when he talked to me he had that sort of impressive first impression on me, having the confidence I feel like I should have, had a group of friends he was the leader of, and he knew how to gather a group of people. We initially became friends because he respected my skill in art and wanted to do projects with me. Then I got to know him as we became friends and I saw his faults and recognized he wasn't perfect, and I was sort of able to see through him? One time he said a joke to a group of people, and they all laughed, but the tone of voice he used to say the joke sounded like he had rehearsed that joke with a different group of people and anticipated this new group of people to laugh as well. I sort of called him out saying "Same joke new audience huh?" He looked at me like "Is it that obvious?" Like I stole his thunder.
I've only had 2 experiences of duality with the opposite sex. One when I was a child in kindergarden, and one much later in life and more recent.
When I was in kindergarden there was this bossy little girl who acted like everybodies mom, YELLING at people when they did something wrong. Everybody knew her as mean. She just had the ability to speak forcefully without care for hurting ones feelings and ASSERT what people SHOULD be doing or not doing. On her birthday, without her knowledge, a teacher asked me to put her birthday hat on her head, when I did it felt like a really nice "You are special" sort of gesture towards her. After that day she never yelled at me. So much so that when she yelled at other kids and then saw me it was like she was inable to yell or be mean to me. And through the grades she was always not exactly nice to me, just silent towards me, while yelling at everybody else. I guess she had a hard time being mean to me.
More recent romantic experience was with a co-worker. This experience is amplified by personal insecurity around any woman I am attracted to and not feeling confident around very attractive women because I feel like I lack some crucial quality they want in a man or something (type 4 problems). When I met this girl the minute I saw her I just wrote her off as a girl that was out of my league. When I had to work along side her I wanted to talk to her but did not know how. She was hot and probably had guys trying to talk to her quite a bit so I just felt like I'd be another fan and she wouldn't be impressed. Then she did something that caught my attention. It was nothing special that she did either, all she did was firmly tell customers to move the the right. "Everyone! Move over here!" and idk, I was impressed how she was able to take control of the situation, and be firm without coming off as mean, something I cannot readily do myself. I respected that ability. I felt the urge to tease her about it though, so I went up to her and say "Whoa, your a little abrasive" She asked me what do I mean and I said "Your all yelling at folks." she laughed and tried to convince me that she is not mean. Then at some point we said the same word at the same time and I told her "Jynx you owe me a soda!" and she thought it was all funny and played along, then she caught me later and said I owe her a soda. And it eventually turned into a dynamic where between her handling buisness and being busy to taking a quick break and joking around with me. She started to enjoy joking around with me enough to start questioning me where I was going when I left my work station, because I would be assigned to go somewhere else, she would joke back with me saying "Where are you going! no you can't leave, you are here to entertain me." Everytime I had to leave she would tell me I can't leave, this made me feel appreciated. And everytime I came by she would yell out the nickname she gave me to get my attention, and I would joke back butchering her name on purpose lol and I could just start to feel her enthusiasm everytime I came around, like I brought the fun to her job lol. It got to the point where her friends got in on it and started befriending me as well, they thought I was a quiet, funny, playful sort of guy that they could joke around with. I mean it got to the point where we would have sword fights with wooden rulers at work lol. She was fun and I liked being around her, mostly because all my natural urges to joke around, tease, and be playful were welcomed, and I never thought I could be myself and be confident around this girl who I previously thought was out of my league. It all just felt natural really, so natural that when I tried to get to know her in a more formal way I got the sense she wanted me to just go back to being my goofy self. All this fun started to feel like maybe something is there, why do we like being around each other. I didn't feel any clear romantic feelings until one day where I teased her, she was complaining about something and I just felt like mocking her voice because it sounded so whiny and funny, and then I did, her reaction seemed so pleasured by that, like she had a huge smile on her face, became silent while smiling and just came over and lightly pushed me while saying really quietly "stooop." Like, she thought it was funny but it also made her feel good lol, like some sort of weakness. When she pushed me I felt this silent deeper connection to something between us, some quiet understanding between us. It filled my stomach, and I couldn't help but feel like the girl had a small crush on me. That gesture seemed more than just platonic. I was already attracted to her but I started thinking maybe it's mutual, I had suspected it before but after that I really started thinking it.
That was the first time I really felt like maybe she liked me. I later found out she had a boyfriend though. The second time was when me and a friend were both working next to her, I mentioned getting food with him, she said I should get her food but I thought she was joking, then when I left she asked where I was going and when I told her I was getting food with my friend she got replied real quick "That's so messed up." and got really silent and walked away. Her friend gave me a hug goodbye and said "Why are you so mean." I was shocked, thinking, if this girl has a boyfriend why does she care if I invite her out to eat or not. Maybe she considered me a good friend.
There were also times where she would tell me to get back to work, and she was pretty seroius lol and joke that she was gonna teach me how to work lol.
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I have an LSE pastor who is also into personality types and we have some interesting talks about that. On his off time he likes to research alternative views and perspectives and theories out there and such. We make a good team playing black ops though lol.
Overall LSE seems to provide a safe environment for me, they like to take care of people's comfort and ensure they have all the essentials and that relaxes the crap out of me. Some of them feel like a cozy house, everything is taken care of just relax lol. Some of them feel like charismatic joksters, some achievement braggers, some duty-filled hardworkers, conservative old folk lol, all kind of LSE out there, but usually you will find they enjoy working hard and having a good laugh.
I've met a bunch others and have felt duality with them also. Idk, it just feels like you belong around this person, like they walk around with a you shaped peg, and once you come around you naturally fill in that peg.
(But seriously, tell me if I'm doing this wrong O__O)
