I don't know about other INFPs but I sure don't often verbalize that their little remark hurt my feelings. That just causes more negative energy between the two of us and it does not make me feel any better.Hey. If I say something hurtful to you lot, promise you'll tell me I'm being an idiot. I never think that insults like that are going to hurt people, and if they're the silently angry type, I might not realise I've hurt them until it's too late to apologize. Be upfront. You're only hurting yourself if you keep quiet!
Okay...so "you lot" is too...blunt? Got it. I meant for the post to come off as light-hearted, like a very clumsy person trying to work out these 'feeling thingies or whatever', but I guess different types read things in a different way.I apolgize for saying this, but I don't think we can do that, sure we'll try, but in the end we'll probably end up feeling like we're being too judgemental and rude. Besides you said "you lot", couldn't you have said something more neutral like "you guys"? I'm sorry if I make you upset, but I'm telling you the way I feel here. Some of us are more sensitive than you are, and we can't all be blunt the way you can, so next time try to be a little nicer, okay?
I appreciate this statement.... Over time I've realized how over-sensitive I used to be and yet I never bothered to tell anybody when they hurt my feelings. I would be upset and they'd be none the wiser. So really the only person suffering was me. It damages relationships...as much as we'd love for other people to be mind readers and magically know when they've hurt our feelings it just doesn't work that way. Not easy for most INFP's....but definitely something we need to develop if we want the best out of our relationships with people.Hey. If I say something hurtful to you lot, promise you'll tell me I'm being an idiot. I never think that insults like that are going to hurt people, and if they're the silently angry type, I might not realise I've hurt them until it's too late to apologize. Be upfront. You're only hurting yourself if you keep quiet!
Really? That's interesting. Although I might not say it straight away (especially if they didn't make the comment to hurt me on purpose), I'll always try to talk about it. Not that I'm easily offended most of the time. Usually, comments like, "You're an idiot" or, "You're a fat, ugly bitch" don't bother me. It's when people say, "Nobody even cares what you think, so you might as well shut up and do it my way" that I REALLY get mad.I don't know about other INFPs but I sure don't often verbalize that their little remark hurt my feelings. That just causes more negative energy between the two of us and it does not make me feel any better.