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Does anybody feel they have this this constriction yet attachment to people in their lives? I've just recently been thinking about my social life and I feel that way towards many of my friends and family. I'll visit and go out with them however I don't really get an opportunity to really show myself around them. Many times I'll do or say something that is who I am but often they don't get it or retract. And things get weird for a bit... So I've just learned to keep in line so to speak. I don't hate them, quite the opposite. I value them however I don't have people who truly "click" with me.

"Letting Go..." has been on my mind lately. I've also been thinking I just care too much or over think things. I've recently canceled a few outings with old friends in favor of meeting new ones but when I do I feel almost guilty. I'm too attached I suppose :rolleyes: Anybody have any experience or can relate to this?
 

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You become the company you keep. Yes! That's an excellent way of putting it. Thanks. I got some good perspective. It is for the best. I just need to put myself out there, let go and let chance do it's thing on me finding people who appreciate and inspire me. I'm looking for deeper connections. Socializing involves the process of joking around and small talk with the people I know. It makes me feel misunderstood. To be understood is what I truly want. To talk about things that actually matter. Most of the time I feel like an alien. I get a lot of reading and studying done though...so that's looking on the bright side of it.

No I'm not in high school. Graduated a few years ago. I guess that makes it worse. Ha ha. The group I mostly socialize with is from that time believe it or not. We've stuck together through college and beyond.
 

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Just out of curiosity, did you stick with your high school group because you shared many things in common or because it was just the thing to do, e.g. familiarity, old faces, that sort of thing?
I moved around a lot when I was young. High school was the first place I could attempt to make some long standing friends. I've kept them due to familiarity and perhaps idealization, but many do still keep in touch with each other. There are times when my friends do open up to me, I listen to them, but it gets one sided and I never get the chance for them to listen to me. Kind of sucks actually :/ I have a few common interests which are jobs with a few, but mostly it's just drinking and joking around with all. Nothing deep. There was a post earlier about having a rich inner life that doesn't get the chance to be shared. Pretty much the same here.

I have met some people through meetup.com. And they seem pretty cool. Just that again...nothing too deep. It'll happen sooner or later I suppose.
 
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