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I've brought it up before but never really explored it.

My sexuality is a lot more complex than is depicted in movies and even that which I see normal couples engage in. I have had a big issue not relating though with "normal" guys my age throughout early development. However, I have a strong fetish side to me where I'm fully immersed in BDSM and have an active lifestyle now. But for years I didn't and had a mostly sexless life. I found it a chore with my ex and I didn't enjoy it at all.

During my teens, I never understood what "the guys" meant when they said "Hot chick turned them on". Like I didn't relate to this at all. Not till I fell in love and then when I first fell in love I was physically attracted to the person I fell in love with. But I still wasn't attracted to others (still am not in a sexual way).

I know they call it demisexuality but I don't want to put a label on it, because simultaneously I've fallen in love with men and I have never been physically turned on by them, so I can't exactly call myself bisexual either (but I do tend to say I'm bisexual since I experience romantic feelings for men).

Then whenever I've not been in love, I've straight out believed I'm asexual too because I have no sexual attraction to anyone and barely have any sexual needs of any kind. I have a fairly low libido.

Biromantic, demisexual ... Probably then. Not sure if this belongs in the LGBTQ community either, but I am curious to see if there are others with a similar kind of sexuality.
I can relate to this other than the low libido and the masturbation only being a habit. To me I'll make a big deal out of it to work myself up to it, toys and edging included.

The whole BDSM/fetish/kink interest I have made me completely rule asexuality out before (until someone pointed out it doesn't mean you don't enjoy sex). I'm not exactly immersed with the fetish community and despite having a long term relationship with someone who was our sex life was pretty tame with occasional sex toys (much to my disappointment). Sometimes I feel like fantasies of such things is the only thing to keep me in the mood.

I never look at someone's physicality and think "I could have a sexual/romantic relationship with that person" (Yeah, I'm sure it's a lot less crude in other people's minds like "fuck me now!" or something). The only times I have has been towards friends I have been intimately close to. So 3 times now.

My ex-partner suggested we have an open-relationship because my libido was higher than his but I just couldn't compute how that would ever happen, mostly because I didn't find other people attractive to just experiment like that, otherwise I had no issue with it on principle.
 

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I never look at someone's physicality and think "I could have a sexual/romantic relationship with that person" (Yeah, I'm sure it's a lot less crude in other people's minds like "fuck me now!" or something). The only times I have has been towards friends I have been intimately close to. So 3 times now.
I hope no one thinks I'm making a negative judgement because I'm not but I do think that it is some form of sexuality that some people (may or may not be normal) where it really is as crude as fuck me now.... Though I wouldn't say it's crude but might only be from our perspective as what we experience is very different.

It gets weirder when in public around various stages of nudity. Seen completely nude chicks to lingerie to bikinis and my reaction is to admire them if they're physically appealing or not if they're not. There's no visceral need to fuck them. Or even come home "hot and bighered" and masturbate thinking about them.

To me it would be like masturbating to a work of art.

But then when it comes to porn it gets interesting. It's almost *never* the physical act of sex itself that turns me on. It's the fantasy, story (or whatever lol), the foreplay, roleplay that engages my senses the most.

The raw physical act in hardcore porn does nothing for me. I experiment with it and sometimes think that that's the part that should invoke something, but that's never it. It's always what happens before that works for me.

So again, not even "normal" there. Unless what they produce in porn is what's messed up and not what people want to see in general.

I personally don't see myself exploring an open relationship. I'm possessive and the "owner" (in a manner of speaking) and open relationships invoke a sense of submission in me and I can never see myself accepting that.
 

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normally I'm not already horny when I make the decision to masturbate.
God, I'm glad I'm not the only one. Usually I'm just like "hey I'm bored, doing The Thing (tm) feels good so let's do that." I don't masturbate because I'm horny, I get horny when I decide to masturbate, lmao. Always thought that made me weird so I'm glad I'm not alone in that experience.
 

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God, I'm glad I'm not the only one. Usually I'm just like "hey I'm bored, doing The Thing (tm) feels good so let's do that." I don't masturbate because I'm horny, I get horny when I decide to masturbate, lmao. Always thought that made me weird so I'm glad I'm not alone in that experience.
That's been the case for me as well at times. But sometimes it's literally nothing more than a release or something to do.
 

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This is an interesting topic we got going on.
I've never looked and someone and thought about fucking them either, but I don't think I could look at anyone like that even if it was someone whose company I enjoyed. As an aromantic, I've never had a crush on someone so I don't know how I would hypothetically feel about sex if I suddenly got a crush one day. I don't connect the feeling of arousal to a specific person. Being aroused doesn't translate into me want to have sex, in other words. I feel like being aromantic has a much larger impact on my life than being asexual does.
 

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Let's start! In blue, are my own answers to this questionnaire.


  1. What's your personality type (MBTI)? INTP
  2. Is there anything in particular you've come to the LGBT chat for? I wanted to know what LGBT stands for: Long Gone By Then? Large Giant Big Thing?
  3. What's your gender? M
  4. What's your sexual orientation? Disoriented.
  5. How long have you known your orientation? That assume I know it.
  6. Do you feel like you fit any orientation-related stereotypes? I've been told I'm unique but too many say different things.
  7. Have you experienced any homo- or transphobia? Them words is 2 big fer me.
  8. Are you out? For how long, or are you planning to? If you are, how did people react? I'm out of it. Yes.
  9. Do you know many LGBT people? I wouldn't know one if they were right in front of me.
  10. Have you been involved in any LGBT organisations or societies? What did you think of them? I may be involved wo knowing it but I'm less a joiner.
  11. Have you been to any LGBT events? How were they?I got there too late and it was over and done with.
  12. Do LGBT considerations influence you politically? I'm only a political dabbler.
  13. Are you in a relationship? If so, for how long? I've related to the world since a little afterbirth.
  14. What do you look for in a partner? Cooperation, loyalty, caring, respect, responsibility, knowledge to quote Eric Fromm. Is that too much to ask or isn't it?
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It gets weirder when in public around various stages of nudity. Seen completely nude chicks to lingerie to bikinis and my reaction is to admire them if they're physically appealing or not if they're not. There's no visceral need to fuck them. Or even come home "hot and bighered" and masturbate thinking about them.

To me it would be like masturbating to a work of art.

But then when it comes to porn it gets interesting. It's almost *never* the physical act of sex itself that turns me on. It's the fantasy, story (or whatever lol), the foreplay, roleplay that engages my senses the most.

The raw physical act in hardcore porn does nothing for me. I experiment with it and sometimes think that that's the part that should invoke something, but that's never it. It's always what happens before that works for me.
I would say a physical form isolated by itself does nothing much outside of aesthetics. It must be connected with some sort of sexual interest if we are sexual beings. After all sex is meant to be a connection underneath. The fantasy/ story is a connection one puts oneself into.

There. Are we back on topic ... after a little diversionary humor?
 

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I think it's happened one time that I saw someone and was immediately attracted to them. It was weird. I acted like an idiot.

Usually people are attractive to me once I really get to know them. Before that I usually just don't have it at all. A friend took me to a strip club as a joke and I just didn't see the appeal. My idea of a booty call has typically been board games and don't touch. If I actually am attracted to someone (which is super rare) then it's kind of ridiculous. My husband can distract me in board games with like showing his collar bone...

But idk if that's actually demisexual or whatever. I just kind of say that. It makes the most sense. Maybe grayace? I'm not really sure what the differences are, tbh. But 99.9% of the population I'm like "yes that's basically a hairless monkey..."
 

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I think it's happened one time that I saw someone and was immediately attracted to them. It was weird. I acted like an idiot.

Usually people are attractive to me once I really get to know them. Before that I usually just don't have it at all. A friend took me to a strip club as a joke and I just didn't see the appeal. My idea of a booty call has typically been board games and don't touch. If I actually am attracted to someone (which is super rare) then it's kind of ridiculous. My husband can distract me in board games with like showing his collar bone...

But idk if that's actually demisexual or whatever. I just kind of say that. It makes the most sense. Maybe grayace? I'm not really sure what the differences are, tbh. But 99.9% of the population I'm like "yes that's basically a hairless monkey..."
I have to say I enjoyed my experience at a strip club but I think that was mostly because those girls could dance and I always love a good dancer. Same situation at a fetish club... the performances were fun.

Then again I have been at clubs where they have had a pole dancer who was not quite so good and I remember standing around, pretending like this was awesome to fit in with the lads... That was boring at best.

I need to find myself a person who can distract me from boardgames with their physique. Relationship goals there.
 

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I have to say I enjoyed my experience at a strip club but I think that was mostly because those girls could dance and I always love a good dancer. Same situation at a fetish club... the performances were fun.

Then again I have been at clubs where they have had a pole dancer who was not quite so good and I remember standing around, pretending like this was awesome to fit in with the lads... That was boring at best.

I need to find myself a person who can distract me from boardgames with their physique. Relationship goals there.
Oh, the dancers were talented and kind and it was an interesting experience. People watching was bizzare.

But I just didn't understand how it was sexually attractive. Or I guess cognitively I do, but I didn't experience it that way. It wasn't something I regret though.

If the pole dancer is bad anyway then it seems like fair game to go up and try it yourself, right?!

As for the distractions it's both really great and really annoying. Haha
 

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I still have never gone to a strip club and it's one of the things I want to do in my life at some point, but honestly speaking I don't see the appeal from afar when I really think about it. Plus it's small town florida where you don't have the "classy" kind of strip clubs anyways. It's a little on the sleazy side down here and very much a business that's based around exploitation of struggling women. It just rubs me the wrong way in a lot of ways. I can't be sure if the woman is performing for me out of her own desire, or a harrowing fear of preventing starvation for herself. It puts me off when I really think about it.

I'd rather go to BDSM parties where individuals are all aware of their role, but it's one of those things where I still haven't worked my way up to get involved. Not sure how a non-white guy in the community will be responded/reacted to either. There are race-based perceptions in the south that make me feel somewhat alienated already and I don't want to add to that feeling.
 

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What's your personality type (MBTI)?
INTP

Is there anything in particular you've come to the LGBT chat for?
To explore experiences, thoughts and feelings with other gays

How old are you?
25

What's your gender?
Male

What's your sexual orientation?
Gay

How long have you known your orientation?
I was mildly aware since age 7 when I had my first 'full-on' sexual experience with someone only slightly older than me

Do you feel like you fit any orientation-related stereotypes?
I have a decent toiletries collection and I sometimes do certain things that are not very usual for someone my age (for example: buying expensive oil paintings featuring bright pinks and purples, or ordering expensive oud fragrances from the Middle East, or decorating my room with eccentric decorations. But aside from that, no - I am particularly masculine. People are rarely ever clever enough to come to the conclusion


Have you experienced any homo- or transphobia?

Yes, regularly. Most of the time it is not directed at me personally because people are not aware that I am gay. I think I would experience less if people were aware. It taints a relationship for a long time when it does happen though, regardless of whether someone was aware or not

Are you out? For how long, or are you planning to? If you are, how did people react?
I am out to my friends and family. However, because I am so very private and withdrawn and tend to be quite shy in social settings, I do struggle to make it known to newcomers - especially people from work. I came out soon after deleting my Facebook account about three years ago. Deleting the account had an overwhelmingly positive impact on my life. And, yeah, overall people reacted very positively

Do you know many LGBT people?
I know less than 10 personally

Have you been involved in any LGBT organisations or societies? What did you think of them?
I support the LGBT community but other than that, no - I have not

Have you been to any LGBT events? How were they?
No, but I would like to

Do LGBT considerations influence you politically?
Yes, of course

Are you in a relationship? If so, for how long?
I've been dating someone for about a month who has an ENFJ-A personality type

What do you look for in a partner?
Someone who is intuitive, preferably someone who is also a thinking person, who is judging, and ideally - someone who is an ENTJ. Sexual attraction is also very important as much as I would like to say that it isn't. Also, financial prosperity tends not to come into it although maybe it should

Have you had any sexual experiences with the same gender? Good or bad?
Yes, with less than 10 people. There was only one bad experience and that was at a beach party in Spain at nighttime in a spiky bush with a non-English speaker who spoke words that I didn't understand and who thought it would be sexy to smack my face repeatedly with his hand during sex. It was not sexy and I regret doing it, but such is life when you've had too many drinks

Have you had any sexual experiences with another gender? Good or bad?
Yes, twice with the same person. I did not like it. I struggled for a long time to get an erection

Do you go out on the 'scene' (LGBT clubs and bars) much? Can you recommend anywhere?
Not yet, no. But I am sure that I will. Nightclubs really do not appeal to me, so there's no rush

Name some famous people you have a crush on.
Not a question suitable for an INTP. I don't know (*mind enters error mode*) ...I don't know ...Channing Tatum?

Show us your picture?
See profile. I would upload more pictures but there's no option to upload directly from my computer
 

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What's your personality type (MBTI)?
Solid INFJ.

Is there anything in particular you've come to the LGBT chat for?
Well as soon as I saw that first post, it was obviously the go-to starter.

How old are you?
17

What's your gender?
I'm a dude.

What's your sexual orientation?
I like men.

How long have you known your orientation?
Age 12.


Do you feel like you fit any orientation-related stereotypes?

Not that I know...

Have you experienced any homo- or transphobia?
From Muslims, in majority. And my bio dad, whom I ditched 4 years ago. His extended family is fine with me and I never met them in person - never traveled outside of my country. They are in the maghreb.

Are you out? For how long, or are you planning to? If you are, how did people react?
I've been out since the beginning. All my peoples know.

Do you know many LGBT people?
Does Planetromeo count? I do know gays IRL.

Have you been involved in any LGBT organisations or societies? What did you think of them?

If I'm gay it's not hiding a political agenda. Picking 1/3 of LGBT are either brainwashed or hiding agendas.

Have you been to any LGBT events? How were they?
I don't plan on that unless I want free a$$ quickly in MTL.

Do LGBT considerations influence you politically?
It almost did once. I woke up after that.

Are you in a relationship? If so, for how long?
I don't define 'relationships' the same way the majority does. I'm free-floating.

What do you look for in a partner?
I like older daddies. Just daddies. Young people and twinks are not my thing. LGBT youngins raise an alarm in my radar. They're always too high-maintenance, immature, needy/annoying, and prone of being the brainwashed types. I don't intellectually or spiritually fit their frequency. I'm an old man trapped in a young body. On the aesthetic side they remind me of kids so I wince at that.

Have you had any sexual experiences with the same gender? Good or bad?
I had 3, mostly good or okay.

Have you had any sexual experiences with another gender? Good or bad?
Just dudes.

Do you go out on the 'scene' (LGBT clubs and bars) much? Can you recommend anywhere?
I wanted to, but I missed the opportunity.

Name some famous people you have a crush on.
I don't crush on celebrities but I used to enjoy Daddy Mugs.

Show us your picture?
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[*]What's your personality type (MBTI)? ISFP
[*]Is there anything in particular you've come to the LGBT chat for? To see what the posts are like.
[*]How old are you? 55
[*]What's your gender? M
[*]What's your sexual orientation? Straight
[*]How long have you known your orientation? Since I was 5 years old.
[*]Do you feel like you fit any orientation-related stereotypes? I don't know.
[*]Have you experienced any homo- or transphobia? No.
[*]Are you out? For how long, or are you planning to? If you are, how did people react? n/a.
[*]Do you know many LGBT people? No.
[*]Have you been involved in any LGBT organisations or societies? What did you think of them? No, so n/a.
[*]Have you been to any LGBT events? How were they? No. n/a.
[*]Do LGBT considerations influence you politically? Somewhat.
[*]Are you in a relationship? If so, for how long? Yes, 11 years..
[*]What do you look for in a partner? I'm not looking for a partner.
[*]Have you had any sexual experiences with the same gender? Good or bad? No.
[*]Have you had any sexual experiences with another gender? Good or bad? Yes, good.
[*]Do you go out on the 'scene' (LGBT clubs and bars) much? Can you recommend anywhere? No.
[*]Name some famous people you have a crush on. Barbara Eden. Lauren Tewes. Pom Klementieff. Lucy Liu.
[*]Show us your picture? Not here.
 

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What's your personality type (MBTI)? INFP
Is there anything in particular you've come to the LGBT chat for? To casually check out peeps.
How old are you? 32
What's your gender? Female
What's your sexual orientation? Bisexual. I have a slight preference for women, but it's all dependable on individual. Right now infatuated with a male.
How long have you known your orientation? Since I was a teenager. (Ginger Spice's topless photos, hihi)
Do you feel like you fit any orientation-related stereotypes? I don't know any stereotypes considering bi, except the general assumption I encounter that we're automatically supposed to be into threesomes or polyamory, which are two themes I have no interest in personally.
Have you experienced any homo- or transphobia? On both general and personal level.
Are you out? For how long, or are you planning to? If you are, how did people react? Out to my mother and sister. Mother was confused and in denial for a while, but she eventually accepted it. My sister was very accepting and open about it. Father nope, but we're not close. He'd probably consider it unnatural. My closest friends know. I'm pretty open about it to strangers.
Do you know many LGBT people? I know some, a few.
Have you been involved in any LGBT organisations or societies? What did you think of them? Nah.
Have you been to any LGBT events? How were they? I did go for event that supported marriage rights, but that's it.
Do LGBT considerations influence you politically? Yeah.
Are you in a relationship? If so, for how long? Nope.
What do you look for in a partner? Someone with similar values and interests.
Have you had any sexual experiences with the same gender? Good or bad? Yes, both good and bad.
Have you had any sexual experiences with another gender? Good or bad? Yes, same as above.
Do you go out on the 'scene' (LGBT clubs and bars) much? Can you recommend anywhere? No, bars are not my thing.
Name some famous people you have a crush on. Geri Halliwell, Callisto from Xena was also my teen crush. :D Sofia Helin, Anna Paquin, Katy M. O'Brian.
Show us your picture? If you stalk me a little bit, you'll find it on forums.
 

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What's your personality type (MBTI)?
ENFP

Is there anything in particular you've come to the LGBT chat for?
Nope! I figured, why not? :)

How old are you?
Closer to 30 than 25 :eek:h:

What's your gender?
Female

What's your sexual orientation?
Bisexual with a preference for women

How long have you known your orientation?
I've known I was attracted to women since my last year of high school. I thought I was lesbian until I met my first boyfriend a few years later, and started identifying as bisexual. But now... I've started questioning again. So I don't really know, but I suppose that's ok.

Do you feel like you fit any orientation-related stereotypes?
The fashion choices, maybe? I like flannel and wear a lot of men's clothes. That's about it, though.

Have you experienced any homo- or transphobia?
Personally, once. I kissed a cute girl at a (straight) bar. The two guys who had bought us drinks earlier in the night... did not like that. :apthy:

Are you out? For how long, or are you planning to? If you are, how did people react?
Not out, except to my best friend and my current boyfriend. Since I'm in a straight relationship, I don't feel the need to come out.

Do you know many LGBT people?
Only one.

Have you been involved in any LGBT organisations or societies? What did you think of them?
No

Have you been to any LGBT events? How were they?
No

Do LGBT considerations influence you politically?
Yes

Are you in a relationship? If so, for how long?
Yes, I've been with an ESTP male for about 3 years. (Despite my preference, I've only ever been in relationships with men. Oops.)

What do you look for in a partner?
Looks are secondary. The person needs to be intelligent, kind, humble, honest and reliable, but most importantly, quirky and fun-loving. :) People who laugh a lot and like to make others laugh are very attractive to me. Bonus points if they have big dreams and a generally positive/go-getter attitude. Intolerance of any kind and arrogance are a huge turn-off.

Have you had any sexual experiences with the same gender? Good or bad?
Yes, although never all the way. Good!

Have you had any sexual experiences with another gender? Good or bad?
Yes. Generally, it's been OK. Current partner is good. Previous ones... underwhelming.

Do you go out on the 'scene' (LGBT clubs and bars) much? Can you recommend anywhere?
No

Name some famous people you have a crush on.
Emilia Clarke and Aurora Aksnes <3 They are both quirky and adorable in their own, very different ways.

Show us your picture?
No :p Have a cute kitty instead:

 

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Is anyone else here a homosexual Christian? I'm a JW but not as active as I used to be, I just go to one of the weekly Congregation meetings occasionally...
Bisexual Christian, and struggling with both sexuality and religion. It's even harder when most Christian ladies are very nice and attractive. They have that irresistibly warm glow.

Ugh. Sometimes the most "Christian / moral" thing for me to do is to lock myself up where I won't meet anyone.
 

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It's weird passing as straight. I don't associate well with heteronormativity internally but I feel like a "fake" non-straight person outwardly, if that makes sense. Like I don't suffer any of the negatives and stigmas that "real" LGBTQ people deal with, and I've never even had an actual non-straight sexual encounter, so I don't feel like I qualify, but then I've never really internally identified as straight either.
 
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