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So basically, I've been wanting to put myself out there again, meet others, maybe go on a few dates, since I'm pretty much over my last relationship and have noticed how little interaction I've been getting with the outside world these last few months, not helped by another wave of depression. I'm ready to get back in the game. The thing is,

1) I've never online dated before, know next-to-nothing about it, even after spending hours online socializing on forums and chatrooms
2) When it comes to LGBT relationships, I'm also at a loss. The only relationships I've been in have been heterosexual, period
3) Preferably an integrated site, not limited to just one "type", ie race, sexuality, gender, etc

I'm getting a lot of suggestions lately: my psychologist mentioned Match, another friend from high school uses POF, and there's never a shortage of OKCupid mentions on PerC. Hookups are out of the question, and the last thing on my mind, so those types of sites don't interest me much, at all. Perhaps a common theme like "music" or "travel" wouldn't hurt, but again, not a requirement. I just don't want to waste my time making accounts on sites I might not use much or at all.

If it helps, I'm twenty three, still studying, and living at home, so finding someone close by and from roughly around the same demographic would also help. I'm not against paying, but my first choice would be to find a site that doesn't require doing so.

I'd like to keep my options open and not rush into anything too soon. Thanks.

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OKCupid has grown rapidly, starting from a humble collection of guys into more substance than scene. OKCupid attracts a large audience because it's completely free and easy to navigate. OKCupid is fully self-service. Users guide themselves through a compatibility check instead of the site popping out random matches. Users can answer a series of questions at their own pace, which they can later match up to other members who've answered the same questions. Questions range from motivation to how often you keep your promises.

What we like: Before signing up, users are given the option to block straight visitor profiles and block them from seeing their profiles. This makes it more comfortable for new users or ones that prefer to stay private. Members can also take fun "tests" created by other members. For instance, the "The Nerd? Geek? or Dork? Test" gives other members your geek rating. Or "The Lover Style Profile Test" lets you gauge your sex style.

Tagged as a site for long term relationship oriented, OneGoodLove uses a personality profile formulas to match members with potential mates. New members take the personality test for free. A report at the end shows what type of guy you are and what type of man best suits you. Next, members are taken through a lengthy process to complete their profile to hone in on the perfect match.

What we like: OneGoodLove's personality test is quick and simple to use. The site also includes GLAM (Gay Love Advice Magazine) that provides tips to help make a better match. The site is also trans-friendly, giving members that sign up a gender neutral option before entry.

There is no perfect person, but MyPartner has many paths to help you find the most compatible mate. Think eHarmony plus Match for gays.

What we like: MyPartner members can sign up for self-service online dating or get one-on-one relationship coaching. This is great for guys that are either new to the scene or ones eager for more success. MyPartner comes with a member guarantee. Find a "perfect mate" or get up to 12-months free. Members also enjoy a community forum, with advice from relationship experts, which in full disclosure I have contributed to as a guest advisor. Try MyPartner for free. Premium memberships start at $11.30/month.

Hey, we've all experienced that one person that wasn't who he said he was initially. You can save yourself the embarrassing Gkiss do it for you. screens and verifies it's members to create a more secure environment for online romance. Locking in the date is all up to you, though.

What we like: Profiles are individually screened for quality. Gkiss even screens usernames to make sure they are not inappropriate. Members can also get their occupation, photo and age verified for free. This features is a little restricting and may scare many guys away, but it is a great way to make sure the guy you're talking to is the person he says he is. Free members can't initiate conversations, but they can respond if someone else initiates them.

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Gay chat room is the flagship of parent of gay conglomerate Here Media. You may of heard of them. They publish OUT and Advocate as well as run a variety of websites for him and her. however is one of the oldest gay meet up site on the net. A quick email verification checks that you are who you say you are and then you're in. has gone through several design iterations, but the current version is designed for quick entry. Connect one-on-one, join a gay chat room (browse by interest or location), or find guys for your hot list.

What we like: Like the other sites on this list, doesn't have an identity crisis. They know their market and make it easy for users to find what they want. Frequent redesigns keep them on top of latest communication trends and member needs.

Adam4Adam (also known as a4a) rose in popularity a few years ago and is still popular today. Like, a4a is designed for quick sign up and easy viewing of online members. Profiles are broken down into who's online and who's new to the room. Photos are screened and profile information is more about what members seek at the moment. a4a also includes pay-per-view porn site and mobile gay porn.

What we like: Free full access. Enough said. Again, a4a knows its demographic and provides the service they seek.

Gaydar gained traction in Europe, mainly because it's UK-based site, so men tend to reside or have heritage on the continent. Members tend to vary from quick meet up types to LTRs, depending on the location and crowd. Browse profiles and nominate your favorites for SexFactor. Basic membership, however, limits member activity each day.

What we like: Gaydar lets members try the site out three times before committing to a username and profile. Gaydar also includes Gaydar Radio for entertainment while you browse. Students 18-23 get free unlimited access.
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