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Hi fellow INFPs and other type representatives if you read,
I am creating this thread as for some time now I've been actively looking for some kind of deeper input on what our main finction (Fi) is and how it works... what are the bright sides, what are the the dark sides...
I result I got a little bit depressed as - of course - I would like to think that my strongest function is a 'good' function, that it's wise in some way, that it can lead me to make wise decisions, that it can help me to understand myself and others better, that it can be a positive force in my life. I am guessing that some of you, INFPs can relate to this kind of wishful thinking...
In fact it seems that there are lots of positive sides to be Fi user (at least when this fincion is well developed and matured) like:
- being creative (I don't have the entire grasp on the creativity thing here yet, how it works ad why are Fi users suppose tobe more creative than Fe users... many some of you can give some of you feedback/insides on this?)
- having this great 'rushes of motivation' - by this I mean that I believe from my own experience that Fi users are really able to give a lot from themselves and apply themselves entirely when they feel affected by some cause. More than anyone would think they can. Maybe this is also why we are perceived as always on a quest for 'better world' in that way or another
- great inside into one's own emotions, feelings, values, even thoughts... this is like a bi chance INFPs have to actually not be so much lost in the chaos of ever changing outside world, hustle and bustle of everyday life etc. I see it somehow as open doors INFPs have inside, like this big imperative that demands from an INFP to seem personal developement and kind of shows the direction. Everyday I see so many people running around chasing one goal and another and forgetting really who they are, forgetting they needs, where they came from, when they are getting, what they really want, what is really important in life. I think Fi may be a shield kind of protecting from getting lost in the small goals and everyday life demands like that. Many INFPs may feel they don't know themselves well enough yet, but at least they are searching and keeping in mind that no shallow goals are the most important...
Said all this... I think there are also many negative sides to be Fi user... whenever I go and whenever I look for the answeres it seems everyone has so much negative things to say about Fi. Maybe it's because they don't always understand what Fi can give you, but... maybe there is also some truth in this. Let me run the most common concerns about Fi through you:
- Fi emotions are sudden, hard to understand, hard to understand where 'mood swings' are comming from, unpredictable, can blow up sometimes in the most unexpected moment,
- Fi can lead to passive-aggressive behaviour, when Fi user will not communicate their own emotions or wants openly, but will keep them to him-/herself, but in the same time will get frustrated and this frustration will make him/her sabotauge something they have already agreed to do
- Fi users are sympathetic, but not empathetic - they don't really feel what others feel, they rather imagine that that someone feels the same way as they would in the same situation. So, Fi users don't really understand others well. This is something I had quite hard time with. I was always thinking about myself as an empatheic person. From the other hand, frommy observation of my really good ENFP friend who is also a strong Fi user... I can kind of see that this may be true... and if it's true for her, it may be true for me as well. I mean, maybe it's better to accept that and undertand and tobe aware of this in the social situations and not always assume that I know and understand everyone around me so well...
- Fi users may resign from their own wants and plans or just from open expression of them, not to hurt feelings of others. They are incredibly sensitive to others demands and cannot stand seeing someone hurt. As a result they may put themselves on a weak position in any social situation.
- Fi users cummulate emotions of other people inside and can't help it. They internalise not only emotions ofthers, but also their own strongly felt emotions toward the person in a difficult possition. As a result they ofthen have to deal with this enormous emotional package by themselves in silence, many times only by their own. They need a lot of time to re-charge and sometimes can kind of get 'infected' by others negative emotional patterns and internalise those verz much too.
Please share your thought and experiences, so maybe together we can understand ourselves better by being our own 'mirrors' and maybe we can also add to understanding of INFPs in general by others...
I am creating this thread as for some time now I've been actively looking for some kind of deeper input on what our main finction (Fi) is and how it works... what are the bright sides, what are the the dark sides...
I result I got a little bit depressed as - of course - I would like to think that my strongest function is a 'good' function, that it's wise in some way, that it can lead me to make wise decisions, that it can help me to understand myself and others better, that it can be a positive force in my life. I am guessing that some of you, INFPs can relate to this kind of wishful thinking...
In fact it seems that there are lots of positive sides to be Fi user (at least when this fincion is well developed and matured) like:
- being creative (I don't have the entire grasp on the creativity thing here yet, how it works ad why are Fi users suppose tobe more creative than Fe users... many some of you can give some of you feedback/insides on this?)
- having this great 'rushes of motivation' - by this I mean that I believe from my own experience that Fi users are really able to give a lot from themselves and apply themselves entirely when they feel affected by some cause. More than anyone would think they can. Maybe this is also why we are perceived as always on a quest for 'better world' in that way or another
- great inside into one's own emotions, feelings, values, even thoughts... this is like a bi chance INFPs have to actually not be so much lost in the chaos of ever changing outside world, hustle and bustle of everyday life etc. I see it somehow as open doors INFPs have inside, like this big imperative that demands from an INFP to seem personal developement and kind of shows the direction. Everyday I see so many people running around chasing one goal and another and forgetting really who they are, forgetting they needs, where they came from, when they are getting, what they really want, what is really important in life. I think Fi may be a shield kind of protecting from getting lost in the small goals and everyday life demands like that. Many INFPs may feel they don't know themselves well enough yet, but at least they are searching and keeping in mind that no shallow goals are the most important...
Said all this... I think there are also many negative sides to be Fi user... whenever I go and whenever I look for the answeres it seems everyone has so much negative things to say about Fi. Maybe it's because they don't always understand what Fi can give you, but... maybe there is also some truth in this. Let me run the most common concerns about Fi through you:
- Fi emotions are sudden, hard to understand, hard to understand where 'mood swings' are comming from, unpredictable, can blow up sometimes in the most unexpected moment,
- Fi can lead to passive-aggressive behaviour, when Fi user will not communicate their own emotions or wants openly, but will keep them to him-/herself, but in the same time will get frustrated and this frustration will make him/her sabotauge something they have already agreed to do
- Fi users are sympathetic, but not empathetic - they don't really feel what others feel, they rather imagine that that someone feels the same way as they would in the same situation. So, Fi users don't really understand others well. This is something I had quite hard time with. I was always thinking about myself as an empatheic person. From the other hand, frommy observation of my really good ENFP friend who is also a strong Fi user... I can kind of see that this may be true... and if it's true for her, it may be true for me as well. I mean, maybe it's better to accept that and undertand and tobe aware of this in the social situations and not always assume that I know and understand everyone around me so well...
- Fi users may resign from their own wants and plans or just from open expression of them, not to hurt feelings of others. They are incredibly sensitive to others demands and cannot stand seeing someone hurt. As a result they may put themselves on a weak position in any social situation.
- Fi users cummulate emotions of other people inside and can't help it. They internalise not only emotions ofthers, but also their own strongly felt emotions toward the person in a difficult possition. As a result they ofthen have to deal with this enormous emotional package by themselves in silence, many times only by their own. They need a lot of time to re-charge and sometimes can kind of get 'infected' by others negative emotional patterns and internalise those verz much too.
Please share your thought and experiences, so maybe together we can understand ourselves better by being our own 'mirrors' and maybe we can also add to understanding of INFPs in general by others...