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Hello my Mastermind friends!

Although I am definently not ENFP (95% introverted), I seem to have a lifelong habit of attracting, and being attracted to INTJ men (sometimes even INTJ women).*

How do I know this? I tracked down all my exes, including my first boyfriend and my ex-fiance and confirmed: all INTJ.

I dont know that this says anything bad about me necessarily. However, it does reveal a distinct pattern. There is just something about the INTJ, apparently. I've tried explaining it to myself via auxillary, tertiary, and even inferior functions. But all of these just create communication filters which make INTJ appear unfeeling and myself, appear manipulative (a fallacy on both sides).

The only theory that I can come up with is the different angles by which the INTJ and I use our Ni and speak to each other in Ne. Alone, we're highly intuitive, but together we are God-like. We discuss unifying theories, make a game out of predicting people's behavior, and consider world domination. It's like Pinky and the Brain, except in this case, Pinky is not a total f-ing idiot.

I need more theories guys. This going to eat at me until I solve the mystery.*
 
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Have you considered testing your father . I have noticed that girls tend to socialize or interact with someone that resembles their father figure . Well It's that or deep inside your mind you know to achieve world domination is easy , but keeping it up requires a system , which us (INTJ's) are most suited for .
 

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Have you considered testing your father . I have noticed that girls tend to socialize or interact with someone that resembles their father figure . Well It's that or deep inside your mind you know to achieve world domination is easy , but keeping it up requires a system , which us (INTJ's) are most suited for .
Thanks for the input! My father is likely an ISFP or ESFP. My older brother on the other hand is an INTJ. He is the one that I generally advice, input, and approval from.
 

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How would any theory in regards to this be beneficial in any way? It's not as though any of we INTJs have formal documents in reference to the subject of "why INFPs and INTJs are attracted to each other". If you want any form of progress, why not give us a hypothesis? Will this due:

"INFPs and INTJs are attracted to each other because..."

Or, because it serves about an equal amount of purpose:

"People are attracted to each other because..."

Or maybe even:

"Hypotheses are good ways to start progressive conversations because..."

You get my point.
 

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Have you considered testing your father . I have noticed that girls tend to socialize or interact with someone that resembles their father figure . Well It's that or deep inside your mind you know to achieve world domination is easy , but keeping it up requires a system , which us (INTJ's) are most suited for .

What's the theory when someone grows up without a father figure? do you turn into an adult that needs a father not a partner?
 

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The only theory that I can come up with is the different angles by which the INTJ and I use our Ni and speak to each other in Ne. Alone, we're highly intuitive, but together we are God-like. We discuss unifying theories, make a game out of predicting people's behavior, and consider world domination. It's like Pinky and the Brain, except in this case, Pinky is not a total f-ing idiot.

I need more theories guys. This going to eat at me until I solve the mystery.*
I also have a theory that the more Ne you use when talking to INTJs the more fun it is. Too much Fi and Fi Si loops tend to end up in battle royale.

Funny you said that, my INTJ friend told me recently that my brain and his together would make the perfect human being, hahaha!. I said I was perfect already and he answered that I still need fixing. Hilarious.
 

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What's the theory when someone grows up without a father figure? do you turn into an adult that needs a father not a partner?
I am 24 and when I was 4 my father died on Christmas 1 year after my parent divorced.

I have spent my whole life with out knowing it, looking for male figures that I feel fills the void.

Up to the point of ones father leaving, you make a image, from then on. All who might fill the void, have to live up to this image. These images are usually very high on standards as you never see 100% of your dad. This image is then imposed on all humans one may interact with.

For me, I never know my father and did not heal from his death till last year.
For the part of that time, my Rowing coach was my father figure.

As for a partner, My sister dates guys that may fit the image shes has of are father at the age of 7. I can tell you. No one up to and then on will ever fill that image she has imposed in her mind. So she is constantly dating guys and then dumping them at the first moment they do not fit the image.

As for me, statistic show something like 75% of kids like me never Marry, I guess I impose my father image on to the opposite sex in how I feel I want them to be in the relationship. Turns out no one so far fits the image.

There is tons of papers and books to read that talk about your questions.
 
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