It happens to me a lot, so now I first write my messages in Word and save them and then just copy them over here, my computer has it's on will... the thing is alive!
Thanks for the name, it's just nickname!
Well, you definitely seem as a very nice guy and quite intelligent and wise (opinion based on your second post on this thread), so it would be a shame that you change that by calculating too much. It doesn't work in the long run.
I can only confirm everything you wrote here as my own opinion too. It's nice to know that there are people who think like that and that's why I just love these forums, reality is sometimes quite different.
I will be so free and state that it's incredibly rare for that kind of connection to happen but when it does it's crazy how good it feels. I believe that when two genuine people meet they easily recognize each other and there is no room for any games, it's quite refreshing. I know that because it happend to me a few times. Yes, only few, but I appraciate those people even more for that.
I am an introvert and as one I am pretty guarded, reserved and skeptical about other people motivations, plus I read people easily, so their masks just irritate me.
But when I meet a good, decent, honest, moral and pure soul (age, sex and background irrelevant) I LOVE it, I don't question their motives or their intentions at all. It FEELS right and I am just peacful and happy. It makes me wanna come closer and closer to them.
Once I met an ENFJ and the experience was amazing, I trusted him from the start and loved him as a person because I could easily see how honest and upfront he was, completely comfortable in his own skin.
Few weeks ago I met an NF guy and although I saw him a few times and we have only spoken briefly I felt at peace and could feel how good he is. All close people in my life were honest and upfront from the beginning and these qualities are my priorities when speaking of people's characteristics. I gave you those examples so you could see that some people would really appreciate your approach, it's refreshing and genuine. What can be better and more mature than that?? Games and calculations? I don't think so...
Don't change that.
Well, I think most of us want that, perfect companion who will always be by our side and who will enjoy travelling with us troughout the life. It's worth the waiting because most people just rush into relationships for the fear of being alone and that is not love. It's far from love.
That's why it is good that you know exactly what you want and go for it, again, some people have no criteria at all and they end up being even more miserable after they enter a relationship because they are with the wrong person.
I am not saying you can't have your thoughts of doubts, but I always choose hope over them.
It also depends what age you are because most very young people mature later in life and they can get scary after your observations, but that's also ok because not all of them are like that and some think just as you do.
Maybe you will have to look longer and have more patience, work on yourself throughout that time so when the right person enters your life you will be ready.
I am type 4 too, lol, so I know what you mean, now I understand why we share similar opinions. Yes, being there for the people I love is one of the most important thing in life for me so I know where are you coming from.
Plus I don't find easily people I like or would like to know better so being intense is normal for me in these situations, but I keep it under control most of the time.
I love passionate debates and intense conversations and the makes me feel very close to the other person, those moments are so memorable, too bad it doesn't happen more often.
I love your two last sentences, I don't see anything wrong with you... quite the opposite.
