Curious about this. Sometimes I am very interested in someone, usually some kind of Thinker type, but i noticed two things that happen:
1) I learn more about them, or find out something about them I wish I didn't, and then they dont make it through my "filter" - in general, i seem to screen out people and not many get past that, including with friends and others i open myself up to
2) I don't learn enough about them to satisfy my curiosity because they are too closed up or guarded. For this scenario, it's not that I really lose interest in them at that time, but I feel kind of pushed back so I respect whatever distance the other sets up. And I don't have enough information about them , to even screen them out, so it's sort of in limbo with them.
in both of those cases, the people I were intersted turned out to be also interested in me, but didn't "make a move" sooner enough or hinted at the possibility of anything beyond where we were at. In one case, this guy I know pursued me, but by the time he started being explicit or pursuing me, I kind of lost my interest. Does anyone relate?
1) I learn more about them, or find out something about them I wish I didn't, and then they dont make it through my "filter" - in general, i seem to screen out people and not many get past that, including with friends and others i open myself up to
2) I don't learn enough about them to satisfy my curiosity because they are too closed up or guarded. For this scenario, it's not that I really lose interest in them at that time, but I feel kind of pushed back so I respect whatever distance the other sets up. And I don't have enough information about them , to even screen them out, so it's sort of in limbo with them.
in both of those cases, the people I were intersted turned out to be also interested in me, but didn't "make a move" sooner enough or hinted at the possibility of anything beyond where we were at. In one case, this guy I know pursued me, but by the time he started being explicit or pursuing me, I kind of lost my interest. Does anyone relate?