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I want to know what your responses and ideas of a good love/soul-mate is for you. This is a thread where people can say what they like and no one judges. I have a lot to share and I hope you all will too. Feel free to throw out any "impossible" ideals too! Makes it more fun! Celebrities are not off limits either ;)
 

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I really, really love ENFPs. Whenever I meet them, it's feels like I've met someone who finally "gets" me. They give voice to all the thoughts and emotions that I wish I knew how to express. They just swoop in and make you feel safe and accepted without being overbearing about it. I also like how they are natural leaders, but they know how to lead without being controlling and domineering. Most of the ones I've met have not been materialistic at all, which is something I've always wanted in a mate. They care more about relationships and the intangible rather than collecting a bunch of "stuff."

Okay, I'm just getting carried away now. But basically, I just love ENFPs.
 

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Love it. I always pictured myself with an ENFP or and ENFJ. I like extroverts more than introverts i have noticed, but with ENFJs like im afraid they will try to be domineering or in a sense manipulating. I dont like being bound. If I can find a flexible ENFJ who is fine with my unbound and resilient spirit, then oh god I found my soul-mate :) FOr some reason I keep picturing Tom Hiddleston as that guy.....or someone like him. Hes kind of the pedestal. Oh no! keep talking, I love reading what you think and feel! :D
 

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Love it. I always pictured myself with an ENFP or and ENFJ. I like extroverts more than introverts i have noticed, but with ENFJs like im afraid they will try to be domineering or in a sense manipulating. I dont like being bound. If I can find a flexible ENFJ who is fine with my unbound and resilient spirit, then oh god I found my soul-mate :) FOr some reason I keep picturing Tom Hiddleston as that guy.....or someone like him. Hes kind of the pedestal. Oh no! keep talking, I love reading what you think and feel! :D
I agree with you about ENFJ...I usually like hanging out with them. One of my best friends is an ENFJ. But as far as relationships go, I tend to run in the opposite direction. In my experience, they all have this domineering/controlling/manipulative vibe about them, whether they want to admit it or not. And yes, I do tend to feel trapped or bound when I am around them. I would even go as far to say that I've felt suffocated. (Maybe this is an Ne thing?) I mean, I still like ENFJs. They can be really great people. And I agree with you that if I could actually find one that was trustworthy, I would fall head over heels in love with them. I just personally prefer other Perceiving types. I feel much more at ease with them.

Tom Hiddleston seems pretty cool, btw. I've only ever seen him in interviews and such, but he seems pretty down to earth and fun. :)
 

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Yeah! Exactly! They are laid back and you can just sense that they dont care what happens around them! Oh, really you like tom hiddleston too? Yeah he is cool. I was on a thread to type his persona and we def know hes NF, and we think he ENFJ, though some think hes ENFP. Either way im like "YAY!" but def he is down to earth and seems like a lot of fun. I really do find myself extra cautious and guarded of my inner self around ENFJs, but not as much as other persona types (excluding INFJs). ENFJs, they really do not want to seem or be domineering, but they are honestly or can be, it is just a vibe they give like you said. But its like also, when the right one comes to me, I know I am going to be madly in love with them (that is if they pass my assault course :3). Till then, Perceiving is like totally what I like to be surrounded by. But, ENFJs are totally awesome friends and people to trust with your ideals what your passions are, just not all gung ho for relationships. Hmmm Ne......you mean Extraverted intuition? I think its our P part of INFP. We like to have our options open and not be bound. The suffocation, i pictured it more of love suffocation, like they constantly give and pour out love that its like "Dude! cmon I love you but please, I need my space. I need some time to myself. You dont need to always shower me with love constantly, It wont make me love you less or dislike you if you don't. Just, I need time to recharge and get my energy back up. I am not like you :)" <------kind of thing right?
 
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NFs, INTPs, or ISFPs are my favorites.

I tend to be moreso friends with ENFs than romantically interested because they're a lot of fun, but can be too much if I have them around for too long. Also, if they're the type to find my introversion and quietness weird, I don't have much patience for that. But if you're an ENF and you get me out of my shell, we're in it for the long haul. My brother is an ENFP and he's honestly my favorite person. We get each other like no one else does and talk for hours. We're pretty obnoxious together and we just throw witty sarcasm back and forth and make observations about silly things. Often times people will think I'm crazy in my thoughts about something, but if I tell him he'll say "I THOUGHT I WAS THE ONLY ONE." He can be a little tiring at times, same with my ENF friends.

F types in general can actually be too needy for ME. Too much sweet talk and comments about how pretty my eyes are or something just really turns me off. I remember once this guy I kind of liked in high school liked me too and he wrote me a really mushy poem and that scared the shit out of me and put a weird damper on the relationship. Not enough affirmation like the problem I'm having with my INTP I like and I feel deprived. It's annoyingly delicate balance.

INTPs are the only T types I can really stand because I feel like we're on the same page on a lot of things, but they offer a fresh perspective I'd never considered. I'm fascinated by the INTP brain and if I got to choose being another type it would be INTP. I took a test (that I can't actually find again) that indicates what type you're most attracted to and most compatible with and INTP was what I got (ENFP being the second one). The only real problem is emotional coldness when I feel like I need a connection most. Maybe that's only really a problem with this current guy I'm dealing with since he's the only person in my life besides my dad that I can officially classify as INTP. I want to be there for him, but he isolates himself. When I need him for something not related to our relationship he's right there, but when it comes to things with our own relationship he needs like 2 weeks of having space before he'll talk about it, meanwhile I'm worrying.

No wonder dating is such a problem for me.
 

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NFs, INTPs, or ISFPs are my favorites.

I tend to be moreso friends with ENFs than romantically interested because they're a lot of fun, but can be too much if I have them around for too long. Also, if they're the type to find my introversion and quietness weird, I don't have much patience for that. But if you're an ENF and you get me out of my shell, we're in it for the long haul. My brother is an ENFP and he's honestly my favorite person. We get each other like no one else does and talk for hours. We're pretty obnoxious together and we just throw witty sarcasm back and forth and make observations about silly things. Often times people will think I'm crazy in my thoughts about something, but if I tell him he'll say "I THOUGHT I WAS THE ONLY ONE." He can be a little tiring at times, same with my ENF friends.

F types in general can actually be too needy for ME. Too much sweet talk and comments about how pretty my eyes are or something just really turns me off. I remember once this guy I kind of liked in high school liked me too and he wrote me a really mushy poem and that scared the shit out of me and put a weird damper on the relationship. Not enough affirmation like the problem I'm having with my INTP I like and I feel deprived. It's annoyingly delicate balance.

INTPs are the only T types I can really stand because I feel like we're on the same page on a lot of things, but they offer a fresh perspective I'd never considered. I'm fascinated by the INTP brain and if I got to choose being another type it would be INTP. I took a test (that I can't actually find again) that indicates what type you're most attracted to and most compatible with and INTP was what I got (ENFP being the second one). The only real problem is emotional coldness when I feel like I need a connection most. Maybe that's only really a problem with this current guy I'm dealing with since he's the only person in my life besides my dad that I can officially classify as INTP. I want to be there for him, but he isolates himself. When I need him for something not related to our relationship he's right there, but when it comes to things with our own relationship he needs like 2 weeks of having space before he'll talk about it, meanwhile I'm worrying.

No wonder dating is such a problem for me.
Totally get it! I want and prefer ENF, because they bring me out of my shell. I need someone like that because I am ever so curious what the world is like and want to encounter so many possibilities and experiences. Sensing types can be a bit.....frustrating. They seem limited and its like "cmon! just look beyond the Leaf and see the color and its lines and what type it could be!" INTPs....my uncle is one and we get along really well. However, he lacks modesty and humility and its like a doucheness vibe of him when he is right or when he finds out he is about something. Its like a smugness and it bothers me greatly and i find it "disgusting". But hes not always like that, i just couldnt be with someone like that. But they are great and they love discussing personality types like I do! :D
 

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NFs, INTPs, or ISFPs are my favorites.

I tend to be moreso friends with ENFs than romantically interested because they're a lot of fun, but can be too much if I have them around for too long. Also, if they're the type to find my introversion and quietness weird, I don't have much patience for that. But if you're an ENF and you get me out of my shell, we're in it for the long haul. My brother is an ENFP and he's honestly my favorite person. We get each other like no one else does and talk for hours. We're pretty obnoxious together and we just throw witty sarcasm back and forth and make observations about silly things. Often times people will think I'm crazy in my thoughts about something, but if I tell him he'll say "I THOUGHT I WAS THE ONLY ONE." He can be a little tiring at times, same with my ENF friends.

F types in general can actually be too needy for ME. Too much sweet talk and comments about how pretty my eyes are or something just really turns me off. I remember once this guy I kind of liked in high school liked me too and he wrote me a really mushy poem and that scared the shit out of me and put a weird damper on the relationship. Not enough affirmation like the problem I'm having with my INTP I like and I feel deprived. It's annoyingly delicate balance.

INTPs are the only T types I can really stand because I feel like we're on the same page on a lot of things, but they offer a fresh perspective I'd never considered. I'm fascinated by the INTP brain and if I got to choose being another type it would be INTP. I took a test (that I can't actually find again) that indicates what type you're most attracted to and most compatible with and INTP was what I got (ENFP being the second one). The only real problem is emotional coldness when I feel like I need a connection most. Maybe that's only really a problem with this current guy I'm dealing with since he's the only person in my life besides my dad that I can officially classify as INTP. I want to be there for him, but he isolates himself. When I need him for something not related to our relationship he's right there, but when it comes to things with our own relationship he needs like 2 weeks of having space before he'll talk about it, meanwhile I'm worrying.

No wonder dating is such a problem for me.
Ouch, I am sorry that dating is tough for you. But hey! It just means that there is not a guy yet who can stand your awesomeness and originality yet, or that you have not found the "worthy" one yet. Not saying they are bad or awful! but just, not mr. right.
 

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Yeah! Exactly! They are laid back and you can just sense that they dont care what happens around them! Oh, really you like tom hiddleston too? Yeah he is cool. I was on a thread to type his persona and we def know hes NF, and we think he ENFJ, though some think hes ENFP. Either way im like "YAY!" but def he is down to earth and seems like a lot of fun. I really do find myself extra cautious and guarded of my inner self around ENFJs, but not as much as other persona types (excluding INFJs). ENFJs, they really do not want to seem or be domineering, but they are honestly or can be, it is just a vibe they give like you said. But its like also, when the right one comes to me, I know I am going to be madly in love with them (that is if they pass my assault course :3). Till then, Perceiving is like totally what I like to be surrounded by. But, ENFJs are totally awesome friends and people to trust with your ideals what your passions are, just not all gung ho for relationships. Hmmm Ne......you mean Extraverted intuition? I think its our P part of INFP. We like to have our options open and not be bound. The suffocation, i pictured it more of love suffocation, like they constantly give and pour out love that its like "Dude! cmon I love you but please, I need my space. I need some time to myself. You dont need to always shower me with love constantly, It wont make me love you less or dislike you if you don't. Just, I need time to recharge and get my energy back up. I am not like you :)" <------kind of thing right?
I love laid back people! I just think life is so much more fun with them. Yes, I like Tom Hiddleston! I'm getting more of an ENFJ vibe from him, but whatever. I could be wrong. I know that ENFJs are trustworthy when it comes to expressing passions and sharing secrets, etc. What I meant was that the vast majority of them love to play mind games, and it pisses me off. If I could find an ENFJ who didn't treat me like a puppet, (or anyone else for that matter) I could definitely see myself dating them.

Yeah, the constant showering of affection can be annoying and sometimes it even seems fake. And they get really sensitive when you don't want to hang out with them. I'm just like "I still love you and all, but right now I just want to chill by myself and eat pizza. Nothing personal." But for some reason they just don't get that. :dry:
 

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I love INTPs. They really relate to me and I always end up in the best relationships with them. ENTP also sound pretty good to me too.
 

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I love laid back people! I just think life is so much more fun with them. Yes, I like Tom Hiddleston! I'm getting more of an ENFJ vibe from him, but whatever. I could be wrong. I know that ENFJs are trustworthy when it comes to expressing passions and sharing secrets, etc. What I meant was that the vast majority of them love to play mind games, and it pisses me off. If I could find an ENFJ who didn't treat me like a puppet, (or anyone else for that matter) I could definitely see myself dating them.

Yeah, the constant showering of affection can be annoying and sometimes it even seems fake. And they get really sensitive when you don't want to hang out with them. I'm just like "I still love you and all, but right now I just want to chill by myself and eat pizza. Nothing personal." But for some reason they just don't get that. :dry:
Laid Back people are THE BEST! Oh yeah, yeah that was what I was aiming for! mind games like we are marionettes. I just wanna beat the crap out of them. I am an independent individual who can think for myself, thank you. Yeah, its like, omg i know more than you and always know what im talking about, thus im smarter than you and you have to listen to me. I can see myself going out with someone like that too, the non manipulating ENFJs. Where are they? :p

Exactly, like really? Are you sure you are being sincere? You just told me you loved me yesterday, tell me in three days. lol They do. My father, i strongly think hes ENFJ, because he always got mad that I didnt want to hang out with him or eat with everyone else or sleep with him when I got older (teens). And Im like, seriously? Im 14 now! that just sounds wrong. Plus the personal pace issue.....not gonna indulge into that though, but i totally get it. Pizza is the best. especially eating it alone with a good book or watching you fav tv show. Oh! Did you see the Smosh interview prank with tom hiddleston? that changed my view of him. When I would tell an ENFJ, my dad included, that its honestly not him or that I just need space, he gets offended and then says I need to change be more affectionate. That leaves me soooo confused......lol They just dont get it. Think my dad is the underdeveloped version of ENFJ. Sorry if I am ranting.....:/
 
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I love INTPs. They really relate to me and I always end up in the best relationships with them. ENTP also sound pretty good to me too.
Cool, they can be fun intellectually.
 
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Really? I havent met one yet..... What are they like? I only know an INTP (uncle)
They are SO. MUCH. FUN. Seriously, I just wanna be best friends with all of them. From what I've experienced, they have an awesome sense of humor. They can make a joke about anything and they can make you laugh when you don't feel like it. I love them!
 

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They are SO. MUCH. FUN. Seriously, I just wanna be best friends with all of them. From what I've experienced, they have an awesome sense of humor. They can make a joke about anything and they can make you laugh when you don't feel like it. I love them!
I think I may know someone like that! maybe i do know an ENTP and dont realize that XD. But sweet! I want an ENTP friend! If they can make me laugh when I dont want to, they are keepers.
 

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I have an ESTJ or ESFJ friend and when we first start hanging out or within the first few minutes of meeting each other again, we really can't find anything to say to each other...but as the night goes on, we begin to honestly have such an incredibly good time together and enjoy each others' company so much so that I can say that I think we'd be friends for a very long time (and we have been already, despite time gaps e.g college, boyfriends, etc.). I think one of the only biggest setbacks in our friendship is our different music tastes...but it's hard to find anyone with my specific range and tastes. Because of her, I can definitely see myself dating an ESTJ guy, but I would need to be extremely attracted to him to want to make it work and do the things he'd want me to do in our relationship. I've heard they can be a bit picky and over-organized, but being neat shouldn't something I would argue against.
 

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A compatible NF, or anyone else compatible, which is very hard to find. :) I love myself, but am (I believe, from personal experience) very hard to fall in love with because I am such a weird/odd person (probably for just being myself). I honestly feel no one (but truly, very few people) can relate to me, but at the same time am writing this with a smile, rather than with a tear. It's OK, 'cause why I would want to change my wonderful self to be more "normal?" We all should be ourselves, and happily so. But in my case it just means that even the nicest, most welcoming people have a hard time adapting to who that is-I have totally embraced the idea that very few people are a good romantic fit (not due to my own personal fault, or THEIR problems, but just because we aren't meant to be together-much less am I complaining about being INFP, which I totally love!)

(Note that it's not that I am not likable, but more that it's kind of a love/hate thing-the rare person would find me charming and appreciate who I really am, while most will think of me as strange, despite my friendliness, open-mindedness, taking good care of myself, etc. I relish being myself, though, so why should I complain? Someone out there, far away, perhaps.)

I am wary of NTs, but am sure the right one would be a great fit-it just has never happened IME, and I have never been knowingly attracted to any (no offense to their wonderful selves.) I don't particularly admire "NTness" as many INFPs do, because I don't believe we (or them) need any "balancing"-we all just probably need the right person of any type. That said, I am usually attracted to people who end up being INFs, as we can relate better with each other, obviously enough.
 

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She MUST be into the arts. She doesn't have to play an instrument or paint or do anything creative, just have an appreciation for it. Being an artist myself, this is nonnegotiable.

I also have to feel a powerful connection with her on many levels; intellectual, physical, psychological, spiritual, sexual ect. Those are the main ones that I really couldn't see myself looking past because all of those things are very important to me. And they can't just be sort of there, I have to KNOW right off the bat that the connection is there and that it is powerful. She also needs to be someone who is open minded and adventurous, in life in the bedroom, in whatever she does. I'm pretty adventurous myself and if she's not I don't think it would go very far. She also must be submissive. I compete enough as it is and I'm not going to compete for dominance in a relationship. I lead and she follows.

I'm a pretty ambitious person so she would also have to be someone who is supportive of my vision. Someone who is going to build me up and not tear me down. Someone who is going to bring value and joy into my life and not drama or headaches. I have enough things going on dealing with the day to day things, handling competition, reaching goals and pushing past barriers and I don't need someone who will just bring negativity into my life. At the end of the day I want someone who I can come to at the end of the day and relax with.

She also has to believe in herself just as strongly as I believe in myself. She must be secure in her own worth as a person. She must be feminine, loyal and strong. I never trust anyone completely, but I have to know that I can trust her with the same amount of trust I have for my family and my best friends.

Above all, she must inspire me. Whether that is artistic inspiration through song or writing, or whether she just makes me want to become a better person and a better man, she HAS to inspire me. If I am not inspired by her, then I probably wouldn't be talking to her to begin with though.

I'm not looking for someone to complete me and I don't expect anyone to. I'm looking for someone who will enhance me. Bring out the best in me. Show me things I never could have experienced on my own. I'm looking for someone who is going to allow me to do the same for her.
 
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