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Hello,

How reliable is MBTI to help us make decision regarding who we're gonna pursue romantically? If there's someone you're interested in and somehow you discover they're not a good match MBTI-wise (e.g. INTP-ISFP), would you still try or would it probably be a waste of time?
 

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DO NOT RELY ON MBTI WHEN DATING.

Well, now we've got that out of the way. No, really, using MBTI like that is a perversion of its intentions. If you're dating someone of a different personality type, use MBTI to understand them, not to write them off. Any two types can fall in love; any two types can have relationship-ending issues.
 

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I think there's some benefit to it. Yes, any two types can have a good relationship if they're both willing to work at it, but I also don't see anything wrong with using MBTI to decide whether or not to date someone. I'm open to being friends with people who are really different from me (my sister has an ESTJ friend who she's often said I should get to know, and she does seem like a cool person), but in a relationship, I'd prefer someone as similar to me as possible. I have enough non-romantic relationships with people with radically different MBTI-types to mine and while we do sometimes reach a point where we can understand each other, it's a ton of work and it can get frustrating at times. I'd rather date someone who is similar to me. I think one of things that attracted me to my current crush was how his mind seemed to work so much like mine. (He's xNFP, probably ENFP, and I'm INFP) It just seems like it would be so much fun to have someone I can bounce my quirky ideas off of who would come back with his own quirky ideas. We grew up on different continents, so we'd have different enough experiences to keep things interesting, but the idea of being with someone who doesn't feel like I need a massive instruction manual to decipher and isn't misconstruing my every move sounds delightful.
 

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I recommend you to use MBTI only for understanding. Don't make decisions or judgment based on it.

The point is to understand people. For this, I recommend you to learn Socionics, and especially Intertype Relations.

You have to understand how the other person think, and this is how you can get a good relationship with her. Once you have understood function, and Model A, you will be more tolerant about your differences.

Besides, you'll be able to avoid what this person dislike, and emphasize what she likes. The key of successful relationships, are communication and acceptance.
 
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