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Might be more of vent, related to current events rather than sex and relationships.
Rebecca Helen Elder accused of raping man after breaking into his house to stand trial | Mail Online
A woman who broke into a guys house and gave him fellatio while he slept. The guy woke up, and now she's facing charges. So far so good. The problem wasn't the story itself. The problem was that the guy sent it to me did so because it's funny, and other comments I've read since on it. What a ludicrous story it is, that it's not possible for a man to be raped by a woman, that you have to be a weiner to go and complain about a free blow job, that if you're "not down for fucks with slutkind you're not a real person".
Whenever the topic comes up of men raped by women, or boys even, what you're most likely to see amonst men in particular is the worst kind of victim-shaming rape-apologia, good examples of how men have their experiences invalidated because they're not "good victims", how in the realm of sex they're often considered like animals more than people, always up for it, and how women are seen as non-threatening children that couldn't possibly take advantage or even be a threat. It's a pretty fucking insulting all around.
A lot of women have rape fantasies, but should they then get actually raped we don't make light of that, because we have an understanding that a fantasy and the reality of forced sexual contact are two fundamentally different things. How can it be so hard to wrap your head around the fact that the same applies to men? A guy might fantasize about a surprise blowjob, but waking up in the middle of the night with a stranger in your bed that nonconsensually is taking sexual liberties is not the same thing as that fantasy.
My point is this. Men can be raped by women, men have a right to sexual self determination, the right to say no, too, their traumas are also real, and that this doesn't make them lesser than, less man, and while maybe it's not the case for some out there that find this kind of stuff hilarious, many men, and boys, are more than just a life support systems for indifferentiating cocks.
That is all.
Rebecca Helen Elder accused of raping man after breaking into his house to stand trial | Mail Online
A woman who broke into a guys house and gave him fellatio while he slept. The guy woke up, and now she's facing charges. So far so good. The problem wasn't the story itself. The problem was that the guy sent it to me did so because it's funny, and other comments I've read since on it. What a ludicrous story it is, that it's not possible for a man to be raped by a woman, that you have to be a weiner to go and complain about a free blow job, that if you're "not down for fucks with slutkind you're not a real person".
Whenever the topic comes up of men raped by women, or boys even, what you're most likely to see amonst men in particular is the worst kind of victim-shaming rape-apologia, good examples of how men have their experiences invalidated because they're not "good victims", how in the realm of sex they're often considered like animals more than people, always up for it, and how women are seen as non-threatening children that couldn't possibly take advantage or even be a threat. It's a pretty fucking insulting all around.
A lot of women have rape fantasies, but should they then get actually raped we don't make light of that, because we have an understanding that a fantasy and the reality of forced sexual contact are two fundamentally different things. How can it be so hard to wrap your head around the fact that the same applies to men? A guy might fantasize about a surprise blowjob, but waking up in the middle of the night with a stranger in your bed that nonconsensually is taking sexual liberties is not the same thing as that fantasy.
My point is this. Men can be raped by women, men have a right to sexual self determination, the right to say no, too, their traumas are also real, and that this doesn't make them lesser than, less man, and while maybe it's not the case for some out there that find this kind of stuff hilarious, many men, and boys, are more than just a life support systems for indifferentiating cocks.
That is all.