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hi, fellow infps. this thing happened to me yesterday that i just cannot explain or accept for it seems just unacceptable and shocking. please let me know if you have any insights.

i've been blogging for about four years now and since i don't want to write personal stuff publicly, i have this friends-only setting.

basically, i went to this music event with some friends. i spotted one of the girls that i'm friends with online (she's my blog friend and she has been reading and commenting my personal entries for about 2 years and the other way round) and well because of facebook and the like i am pretty sure she knew what i look like and i know what she looks like so i went up to her and said hello. basically she said hi and went back to talk to her group of friends. and the whole evening se was pretty much ignoring me although i did try to talk to her.

okay, now i'm not her stalker or anything, i understand people can be shy, i understand that your virtual 'friends' are not going to be your real life friends necessarily. but it shocks me how nowadays you can share all this information, can have discussions and it doesn't mean anything to anyone and despite all of this pornography of information called blogs, people are still strangers when they meet up, although they possibly know every single detail of each others life.

it just shocks me and i can't really explain why without sounding like a judgemental bitch from the 19th century. still, this has made me realize that probably i won't ever write a blog entry again.

am i overreacting? i mean would you be shocked about this kind of suff?
 

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You ever hear about those stereotypical friendships between a guy and a girl. Then someone tries to bridge that into a romantic relationship and it just complicates everything possibly ending their friendship entirely?

Different story, but similar situation. You did say the blogs were personal and maybe the beauty of your relationship was the online aspect of closeness + distance combined. Maybe that was a place of comfort for her based on how personal things were.

The other possibility is people are just awkward when they are with others -- ask her about it later.
 

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I'd feel hurt by that too =(
 

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i think maybe she was a little embarrased to be seen in front of her friends as having an online friend? maybe she thought it would look a little nerdy or something? It is very rude though! the situation is completely out of my experience as i dont think ive ever written or even read a blog before (although i love the sound of the word! BLOG!) but i still think she is showing very bad form and you are perfectly valid in being a bit disgruntled about it. Dont let it get you down though (although undoubtably you dont need me to tell you that you will be probably brooding about it for days, i would be :( ) and most importantly, dont let it turn you off blogging if that is something you enjoy! Maybe just give her a crafty delete on facebook and be done with it?
 

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Damn, that's awkward. Call her out on it, online, let her know you felt a little hurt by it. But be cool with her feelings too, apologize if you made her embarrased or uncomfortable. If you think she's cool and you would want to chill with her in the future then tell her that and take it from there. Otherwise, fuck em. You don't need friends that are going to pull something like that on you. If you loose her as a friend it's her loss anyways.
 

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hi, fellow infps. this thing happened to me yesterday that i just cannot explain or accept for it seems just unacceptable and shocking. please let me know if you have any insights.

i've been blogging for about four years now and since i don't want to write personal stuff publicly, i have this friends-only setting.

basically, i went to this music event with some friends. i spotted one of the girls that i'm friends with online (she's my blog friend and she has been reading and commenting my personal entries for about 2 years and the other way round) and well because of facebook and the like i am pretty sure she knew what i look like and i know what she looks like so i went up to her and said hello. basically she said hi and went back to talk to her group of friends. and the whole evening se was pretty much ignoring me although i did try to talk to her.

okay, now i'm not her stalker or anything, i understand people can be shy, i understand that your virtual 'friends' are not going to be your real life friends necessarily. but it shocks me how nowadays you can share all this information, can have discussions and it doesn't mean anything to anyone and despite all of this pornography of information called blogs, people are still strangers when they meet up, although they possibly know every single detail of each others life.

it just shocks me and i can't really explain why without sounding like a judgemental bitch from the 19th century. still, this has made me realize that probably i won't ever write a blog entry again.

am i overreacting? i mean would you be shocked about this kind of suff?
give it a little time...sadly many people are ONLY interested in keeping their online life online
imho - I rarely go in depth online as it rarely transfers ok to relaity
 
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