I need some help with my mother (again).
Background: She is an unhealthy ENFJ. She has to be in control.
Tips on how to deal with these behaviors would be much appreciated.
She will walk around the house and look for things to yell at me about.
After she tells me I am doing something wrong, she stands there and waits for me to say something nasty to her so she can have an argument with me.
Sometimes she bothers me an entire day until she can spark an argument.
I have curly hair and she likes to tell me that it looks "homely" or "bad". She says she likes curly hair but she has never approved of my hair unless it shows no signs of being curly. My sister and I had friends over, and my mother in front of everyone gave me shampoo, conditioner, detangler, leave in conditioner, and styling creme that was designed to make hair go from curly to straight.
She is basically a hoarder with sewing supplies - fabric, sewing instruments, etc. She comes out of her sewing room and yells at me and tells me that "this house needs to be cleaned!" She is yelling at me about her mess. :dry:
She tells my family all the time that we need to watch the spending. I was given a long lecture about me getting yogurt at the grocery store. She had no problem dropping 100 in movies the next weekend.
Background: She is an unhealthy ENFJ. She has to be in control.
Tips on how to deal with these behaviors would be much appreciated.
She will walk around the house and look for things to yell at me about.
After she tells me I am doing something wrong, she stands there and waits for me to say something nasty to her so she can have an argument with me.
Sometimes she bothers me an entire day until she can spark an argument.
I have curly hair and she likes to tell me that it looks "homely" or "bad". She says she likes curly hair but she has never approved of my hair unless it shows no signs of being curly. My sister and I had friends over, and my mother in front of everyone gave me shampoo, conditioner, detangler, leave in conditioner, and styling creme that was designed to make hair go from curly to straight.
She is basically a hoarder with sewing supplies - fabric, sewing instruments, etc. She comes out of her sewing room and yells at me and tells me that "this house needs to be cleaned!" She is yelling at me about her mess. :dry:
She tells my family all the time that we need to watch the spending. I was given a long lecture about me getting yogurt at the grocery store. She had no problem dropping 100 in movies the next weekend.
