ive been through enough of this with my ISTP man in the 7 months weve been together......i lost my father, he lost a grandparent (its been hard times!!) but because im always in the pit wth him, its hard to think outside of it.
I know he withdraws when hes stressed, has some serious pondering to do, or when he feels like he needs to be brave. He ALWAYS feels like it falls upon him to be the strong one & provider of all support when someone he loves is hurting (that includes me). I know these are traits of ISTPs. My question is, what do i do for him?!!! he has been so wonderful for me, but he gave & gave until there was nothing left, and is very reluctant to lean or accept support from anyone else, even his loving girlfriend!
any suggestions.....?? what does he NEED but wont ask for? i assume this is going to be an act of mastery....the perfect balance between leaving him alone, and just being there when he doesnt request it (since these are direct opposites, how do i know what to give and when!!).
all insight most appreciated!~thanks in advance guys!
I know he withdraws when hes stressed, has some serious pondering to do, or when he feels like he needs to be brave. He ALWAYS feels like it falls upon him to be the strong one & provider of all support when someone he loves is hurting (that includes me). I know these are traits of ISTPs. My question is, what do i do for him?!!! he has been so wonderful for me, but he gave & gave until there was nothing left, and is very reluctant to lean or accept support from anyone else, even his loving girlfriend!
any suggestions.....?? what does he NEED but wont ask for? i assume this is going to be an act of mastery....the perfect balance between leaving him alone, and just being there when he doesnt request it (since these are direct opposites, how do i know what to give and when!!).
all insight most appreciated!~thanks in advance guys!