Hello everyone!
I need help typing an ex boyfriend, who I dated (only) for about 4 months and stay in contact with(but not by his choice, so if I try to ask him about his type he'll ignore me). I can't decide if he is an INTJ or an ISTJ-- following is a list of his traits (according to me). Let me know if you have any more questions (about him) and I will try and think of the answers... this is just what I can come up with (wait for it!) off the top of my head!
-Has told me he "doesn't deal well with change" (Nickles and dimes? Meant take it slower? Meant what exactly?) (more ISTJ I think?)
-Strong need for alone time (Strong need for time alone from me*), considers himself to be (and comes off as (to me)) very independent and strong-willed
-Somewhat arrogant (he admits this) and tends to always think he is right, but in arguments he will apologize, just not as quickly as I do (because I'm perfect and couldn't possibly be the person in wrong)
-Pursuing a master's degree in engineering and is extremely dedicated ($_$ -Kaching!)-- pushes himself to get A's ($_$ -Kaching!), spends a lot of time studying ($_$ - Kaching! & opportunity to cheat with a guy I actually like, a nice extravert like myself!) and gets easily stressed by schoolwork (and I think it's fun to add more stress by arguing with him, calling him names like arrogant, etc.) , always seems to be thinking about what he has to do (and I think that should include me, despite that he doesn't like me.)
-Doesn't like authority and says he has no problem telling people who he considers to be idiots what he thinks of them (not exactly his wording) (I know because he calls me an idiot all the time and won't stop no matter how mean I say it is.)
-Not very emotionally demonstrative at all (that I know of), not very verbal (that I know of), but very understanding/supportive if I am upset (because he's Human, not the robot I just accused him of before the end of the same sentence.)
-Had no problem committing to me (while testing the waters to see if I was worth it) or being in a "relationship" fairly soon, but made it clear he didn't need to be in a relationship (IOW made it clear he had the strength to dump me if I didn't prove worth his time.)
-Very square (and lame, and boring, what a, like, total loser!) -- he drinks, but not a lot (because he's a nerd), and doesn't approve of drug use (because he's a nerd) etc. (etc. blah, blah, blah... I think he's a loser... Why did I ever date him in the first place? Does that make me a loser? Oh, no! I hope my B(oys)F(or)F(***)s don't find out!)
-Likes grammar rules (while I obviously don't give a flying dung about how stupid I look), will correct my grammar (because I'm an idiot, like he says), seems intellectual and knowledge-seeking for its own sake (which is SO not the definition of an intellectual or scholar, right? Nah, because we peeps who don't care about grammar are the scholars! Those of us who only learn what's required to not fail a class or get fired from a job are the geniuses!)
-Seems to hold himself to very high standards in general (while I have no standards at all, save the one that I will marry a man out of my league for his money! So, help me find out his type so I can figure out how to manipulate him into taking me back!)
-Told me that he was attracted to me because I was bold enough to flirt with him (because most people mistakenly assume Introverts are reserved out of disinterest or unavailability and don't bother trying) and initially called him to ask him out. (...because he wasn't going to ask me out because he's not into me. In fact, I threw myself onto him to have him those four months! And, I'm still trying to rap-I mean sna-Imean-catc-I mean win his love!) He had no problem pursuing me after this. (Yep... All him... I initiated the flirtation, and the calling, but it was his fault, he is so the one into me, that loser.)
I would think ISTJ but he does seem to be intellectual (not like I'd know the difference between a real intellectual and someone just trying to overachieve for career success) and has an independent, strong-willed aura (so I claim, but I'm a fake psychic seeing as I couldn't tell this relationship was blatantly doomed from the start) which is what I find most attractive. (No, wasn't at all his money. Had to be the aI can't see because I'm not a psychic.)
Thanks!