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Okay so, my girlfriend's little boy is only two-years-old. Lately he's been acting strange around me. My girlfriend says he's not like that around everyone else, it's just been me. First of all, she's the only parent he's had. He's never had a father figure. I'm the closest thing he's had to it.
So, at first he took a while to open up to me. But his mother was like that, too. It took a while especially to establish physical closeness with anyone but his mother, who wasn't very physically affectionate herself. After about two months of being in her house and getting close to both of them he finally let me hug him and then after that he'd lift his arms up so I could hold him and carry him around etc. the more his mother opened up to me and let me hug her he did the same.
But then, me and his mother got more intimate, of course there's no way he'd become aware of this but he started to act different then. Before they opened up to me at the same rate, now his mother's completely open to me; he's closing himself off.
I saw him earlier today. I'll use today as an example, because it's been the same every other day for the past week or so. His mother hugged me and kissed me on the cheek when I came in, he said "Hi" real shy as if I were a stranger or something. I picked him up to hug him and he struggled out of my arms and kept saying "down!". His mother never usually kisses me in front of him, but he'd do that anyway before for the past week. Okay so me and his mother were sitting beside each other, talking to each other, watching Simpsons. He kept demanding our attention. He'd pick up the coasters (that I bought for my gf) and throw them at the wall and scream. He's never been a brat before. When his mother left the room he came up and started hitting me! But he was laughing. Then he told me to throw him. I always throw him on the coach and he loves it. So, in hopes of him being nice to me again I picked him up and threw him gently onto the coach. Then when my girlfriend came in he started bawling as if I hurt him! She understands he's acting up though. But we have no idea why. When I was about to leave he seemed really happy. Before he'd cry.
Why is he being such a brat and acting up?
So, at first he took a while to open up to me. But his mother was like that, too. It took a while especially to establish physical closeness with anyone but his mother, who wasn't very physically affectionate herself. After about two months of being in her house and getting close to both of them he finally let me hug him and then after that he'd lift his arms up so I could hold him and carry him around etc. the more his mother opened up to me and let me hug her he did the same.
But then, me and his mother got more intimate, of course there's no way he'd become aware of this but he started to act different then. Before they opened up to me at the same rate, now his mother's completely open to me; he's closing himself off.
I saw him earlier today. I'll use today as an example, because it's been the same every other day for the past week or so. His mother hugged me and kissed me on the cheek when I came in, he said "Hi" real shy as if I were a stranger or something. I picked him up to hug him and he struggled out of my arms and kept saying "down!". His mother never usually kisses me in front of him, but he'd do that anyway before for the past week. Okay so me and his mother were sitting beside each other, talking to each other, watching Simpsons. He kept demanding our attention. He'd pick up the coasters (that I bought for my gf) and throw them at the wall and scream. He's never been a brat before. When his mother left the room he came up and started hitting me! But he was laughing. Then he told me to throw him. I always throw him on the coach and he loves it. So, in hopes of him being nice to me again I picked him up and threw him gently onto the coach. Then when my girlfriend came in he started bawling as if I hurt him! She understands he's acting up though. But we have no idea why. When I was about to leave he seemed really happy. Before he'd cry.
Why is he being such a brat and acting up?