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I'm almost 19
and life feels like this one short experience that we only have one attempt at and there have been situations where i have just been too lazy to study or socialise or ask talk to a girl i like i just feel inadequate like here is one marvellous experience out of perpetual non existence and we only have one attempt at it but it's slowly slipping away i've tried a lot of things, talking with intellectually stimulating people, reading a lot of science and philosophy videos especially those inspirational videos about science and the probability that we exist and the probability that we live out of poverty etc etc i've tried meditation, self cognitive behavioural therapy but i still feel like i am not "Alive" i really want to enjoy life i really want to go beyond the box i'm trapped in and i feel like this golden opportunity is going to waste
 

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You sound depressed, or bored, or both.

I think 19 is a bit too young to worry about life slipping away. If I were you I'd try to ensure some fresh air and exercise every day, and some project that you *have* to do. Helps to keep you anchored a bit, we can all get lost in existential "what is the point of it al" musing, it's where Ne goes when it doesn't have enough to bite on. So neutralise it with a bit of Si or feed it and fly....your choice....
 

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begin every day with exercise and a healthy diet. you will feel more energetic with in a week and thus more apt to do the things you want to do but cant muster the energy. also, when it comes to talking to girls, you will feel more confident after about 2 months of hitting the gym. its sharpens your mind as well
 

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Yeah. been through that.

Maybe you need a change of scenery? It doesn't have to be huge, just try going on some type of exciting trip (depending on what you like) and attempt some intense activity there that you've never done before. That's what helps me out of it, I plan a trip to go backpacking somewhere, or visit a large city and talk to homeless people, go racing, hike the grand canyon etc. The difference in the environment is usually enough to take me out of it since it kind of mellows my mind and puts all my attention on what's around me. With it, you create more memories and generally feel like you're not just letting days slip away, you might even find something you love to do that you didn't even know about in the process.
 
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Try using punctuation, it's great, I promise.

Do things that you enjoy and try not to think about inadequacy. Surely there's something in life that you enjoy doing? Do that as much as possible. Like you said, we only get "one attempt" at life so just try to enjoy it. If you're too afraid to approach people you want to socialize with, try approaching people you don't want to socialize with until you get the hang of it. I'm even younger than you are so my advice might not be good, what do I know. All I think is, if you really want to do something you should go out and do it rather than discussing it on a forum.
 

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I'm almost 19
and life feels like this one short experience that we only have one attempt at and there have been situations where i have just been too lazy to study or socialise or ask talk to a girl i like i just feel inadequate like here is one marvellous experience out of perpetual non existence and we only have one attempt at it but it's slowly slipping away i've tried a lot of things, talking with intellectually stimulating people, reading a lot of science and philosophy videos especially those inspirational videos about science and the probability that we exist and the probability that we live out of poverty etc etc i've tried meditation, self cognitive behavioural therapy but i still feel like i am not "Alive" i really want to enjoy life i really want to go beyond the box i'm trapped in and i feel like this golden opportunity is going to waste
It sounds like you need something to do. You're bored. Somewhere to be, to feel like you're apart of something important. Going to school for something you're interested in might be cool.

But, what you're trying are all temporary fixes.

The problem with me, anyway, is I'll get caught up in the now, and that's when I will feel miserable, and trapped, and like nothing is ever going to be good again. I'm at my best when I'm excited about something-- Moving towards some kind of goal.

At the moment, I'm moving towards learning the language of the country I'm currently in, going back to school to become a professor (probably of biology, but haven't decided yet.) But, of course, choices are individual.

I like what someone above said about traveling. Great idea-- Getting some perspective.

You could teach English in a foreign country. It's easy to get excited about going somewhere completely different.

Asian cultures are fascinating. One ENTP member, I think it was Psy.. Something. Psycho? Baha. Anyway, he's at China, or was at China, and having a blast... Or so I read.
 

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Studying and socializing and talking to a girl are not qualifications for adequacy. Life is made adequate by being happy with what you do. If your current lifestyle is one that does not make you happy, you need to change it. Life isn't slowly slipping away. You're 19.

Have you tried SSRI treatment along with therapy? Lexapro worked wonders for me.
 

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Yeah. been through that.
I was gonna make a joke regarding this and the post above but I'm on my best behaviour today.

Anyway, exercise and diet will work wonders crack on with that if possible.

More specifically for yourself: sit back, breathe, smile and see what comes. So you're unhappy? Fine, be unhappy. You're wasting your life? That's cool, most of us are, it's not like you need to do shit immediately. You feel inadequate? Adequacy is for quality control, not people. Some guy walks up to you on the street:
"Sir, do you consider yourself adequate?"
Pfffft, the man brings new meaning to the term bell curve.

It's your life and if you're in a rut you're in a rut... so what? If you allow yourself the freedom to fuck up and be sad it stops being such a big deal. I've found that the best shit happens after a hearty stint of being seriously depressed anyway, it gets those creative fires a-burnin'. Mental health is for the weak. You can't think your way out of it so let things take their natural course.


I like what someone above said about traveling. Great idea-- Getting some perspective.
Your post reminds me of Hunter S. Thompson's writing style -- Motherfucking Gonzo.
 
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You sound lost in your head. Eat, go out, run, move around, get into something physical whether it be yoga, weight-training or boxing and do it daily or every other day. Then, you'll find it will clear your mind. I like to skateboard. Soon I'll be in the gym every other day too. Also, I've found it's good to talk and joke with people.
 

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I was gonna make a joke regarding this and the post above but I'm on my best behaviour today.

Anyway, exercise and diet will work wonders crack on with that if possible.

More specifically for yourself: sit back, breathe, smile and see what comes. So you're unhappy? Fine, be unhappy. You're wasting your life? That's cool, most of us are, it's not like you need to do shit immediately. You feel inadequate? Adequacy is for quality control, not people.

It's your life and if you're in a rut you're in a rut... so what? If you allow yourself the freedom to fuck up and be sad it stops being such a big deal. I've found that the best shit happens after a hearty stint of being seriously depressed anyway, it gets those creative fire-a-burnin'. Mental health is for the weak. You can't think your way out of it so let things take their natural course.




Your post reminds me of Hunter S. Thompson's writing style -- Motherfucking Gonzo.
Interesting. I'm not sure whether to think that's awesome, or to think that my stint with Journalism ruined me.

I think I'll think the former.
 

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I'm almost 19
and life feels like this one short experience that we only have one attempt at and there have been situations where i have just been too lazy to study or socialise or ask talk to a girl i like i just feel inadequate like here is one marvellous experience out of perpetual non existence and we only have one attempt at it but it's slowly slipping away i've tried a lot of things, talking with intellectually stimulating people, reading a lot of science and philosophy videos especially those inspirational videos about science and the probability that we exist and the probability that we live out of poverty etc etc i've tried meditation, self cognitive behavioural therapy but i still feel like i am not "Alive" i really want to enjoy life i really want to go beyond the box i'm trapped in and i feel like this golden opportunity is going to waste
:shocked: i think we're clones mate :shocked: seriously i relate to EVERYTHING you just said and also i'm almost 19 :tongue:
i'm trying really hard right now i'm gonna start to work out again, i'm gonna start next week in drive school and i stopped smoking (although is a temporary thing). Every fucking time i see those inspiration quotes and shit i get excited then it's gooone :laughing:
 

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I'm almost 19
and life feels like this one short experience that we only have one attempt at and there have been situations where i have just been too lazy to study or socialise or ask talk to a girl i like i just feel inadequate like here is one marvellous experience out of perpetual non existence and we only have one attempt at it but it's slowly slipping away i've tried a lot of things, talking with intellectually stimulating people, reading a lot of science and philosophy videos especially those inspirational videos about science and the probability that we exist and the probability that we live out of poverty etc etc i've tried meditation, self cognitive behavioural therapy but i still feel like i am not "Alive" i really want to enjoy life i really want to go beyond the box i'm trapped in and i feel like this golden opportunity is going to waste
You're right. We only have one life, but as long as we're alive we have unlimited tries to make something meaningful of it. You're looking too far ahead. You can't measure the entire worth of a life you haven't yet lived. Take it a step at time. If you can end each day thankful for just one experience in it then you're building a life you can be thankful for one day. The big things, our accomplishments, relationships, meaning etc are not found in a day but accumulated over time. Eventually as you get older you'll find out what really matters to you and you can pour yourself into it, but you'll never discover what that is until you just live.
 
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