Glad you're thinking about it.
Interesting post. First half my reaction was ..." dont let that redpill stuff rot your brain. Best bet is to ignore they exist. I've attempted to do the same yet it's like the algorithm wants to shove it into my feed, needlessly. They're too far gone for reasoning, mostly. You're closer to the point than most of those guys. "
Then it got a tad weird and I got confuzled. This made me laugh though,
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However, if someone tells ME to man up, I will break their jaw. If a woman tells me to man up, I will turn gay, transsexual and I´m gonna steal her husband and then tell HER to "woman up". "
I mean, it's been a while since I've been a spiteful teen but hey, it still is satisfying to read.
Okay so, where to start. Red-pillers are not seeking out "love." They wouldn't know what it looked like if it hit them in the face. That's in all likelihood is why they are what they are. What they are seeking is worth and they have none, not in any internal fountain self perpetuating form like you or I. You are gifted in that you can perceive that insecurity easily. A talent of Fi dominance I suppose. Where others in dire situations look up to the leaders of those movements for guidance. I find it somewhat an egregious exploitation of insecure young men. There's something sort of gross about that, but it's blind leading blind, echo chambering away in what seems the favorite format of shock value social media posts, and podcasts along side scantily clad women who are very not well spoken. Bonus, if they do some sort of sex work.
What they want outside of worth is, sexual access, control, and power. Again, not love. Again, because they have none. So they are attempting to supplant love for sex and control. Tale as old as time? Probably because at some point in their life they let bitter-ment get the better of them and resentment is all they have left with no sound or healthy view point to look out from into the world of others.
The kicker is they want to be seen as of worth by others, and sexually desired for procreation by the opposite sex without doing any work. Internal or external. They can barely love themselves. So when a stereotypically attractive man who is socially ascribed as successful and is surrounded by women on social media, tells them women are gold digging hoes so use them as they use you. They get a free mental pass that enables them to believe, yeah it's cuz women are toxic hoes, there's nothing wrong with me, look! that father like figure I idolize to compensate for my own lack of father figure said so...
With that said, excessive self worth that comes from no where and is based on nothing is not healthy. Ideally we all grow up with parents who instill our worth within us. (In something approximating unconditional form.) A healthy base. In practice, well... you get very dysfunctional little boys and girls looking for it in all the wrong places, going about it in all the wrong ways.
The other thing is in truity, if we're being blunt, love is conditional. If not, you would love every girl, not that one girl who lit up. Your love was conditional on her having a certain reaction to you or being otherwise adorable. Something that earned your affections. Maybe cute, dare I say. People have other 'ticks.'
And what you value for your reasons, as you said is not what other people will value in whatever moment they are in their lives or position they are in their mind's reasons. Call it selfish but what do you want? People to not go after what they want and like? What kind of dystopian shit show do you wanna run. Such is to be life. JP I actually don't see as particularly bad actor, but he certainly does talk to aggregate trends as seen on a larger social level and not to individuals. Which is a downfall in clarity. If he said "female validation is crucial" he meant it on an evolutionary, big picture scale of perpetuating the species. Unless you wanna rape them for conception. If women choose their partners, you'd want to be attractive to a woman. So he talks to what is attractive to women on the scale of broad trend. I.E ("provider, protector, ....) The usual culprits of positive masculine appeals. He's in the social sciences after all and that's what he studies.
On the other hand, you have something to offer. It's just not what others do. So, you'll have to find your own path. And that's OK. I don't exactly conform to women's general appeals. (nurturer, agreeable, needs a savior, ...)
Variety is the spice of life, no?
Last note, on withholding affections to influence behavior. It's a pretty common tact of people. It's not a strategy I like but it's pretty common out there in the world. We are as a human species pretty fragile, bound by evaluations of other of us. Maybe more leaning into an Fe thing but influencing others behaviors by your validation and withholding, and vice versa is quite a running socializing effort. This includes romantic relations.
Now I will say the downfall of Fi dominant position is you are too independent in your evaluations. Too separate from the tribe. And you don't feel yourself wrong all while complaining about the outcome. This is a tad narcissism. A result of perceived moral superiority and relative self absorption.
You mentioned that girl, that "...I also know that she doesn´t want that. That´s not what would make her truly happy, I wanna give her more than that." Do you actually know what that girl wants? Did you ever ask or get to know it? Or are you projecting a fantasy onto this girl of what you think she would want? This is not a gotcha. There's no wrong answer. Just something to ask yourself, if you haven't already. I mean if she's the average girl then she likely wants, security, kindness, financial ability...whatever. If she's not the average girl then maybe she is seeking what you're putting out and you're a perfect match.
The cars and yachts, abs are just (in and of themselves solely) gonna attract the same quality of the women that having big tits and flaunting them while posting videos of yourself in a g-string online is gonna attract of quality of men. Generally. Cheap, easy, looking to exploit. So the exploitative cycle will continue and those men will continue thinking women are gold diggers and those girls will continue thinking men are all the same, exploiters of women. Because that's what will swarm them. The primitive needs they're advertising themselves for. (filling of) And they'll both be right, in their bubble where they've facilitated and rolled out the red carpet for the dark part of the human psyche to settle in and arrive. And genuine relationships are too hard. Cheap and easy is best.
Why develop as a person when you can 'hack' it?
And this is quite a Te article but I will add it here just in case it is of value. I consider it a really good piece of writing and find excuses to share it when it might be relevant to a subject. 6 Harsh Truths That Will Make You a Better Person
Hope my attempted reply was of use.
