I was talking with my brother tonight on the phone. We were discussing the card game I invented and how to eliminate aspects of it that received negative feedback after play-testing it at a board game event. I'd suggest something, then he would get an idea from that and start explaining it and halfway through his explanation I'd have a great idea that I formed from hearing the beginning of his and cut him off and tell him mine. He'd say that it could work, but would continue telling his, but it wouldn't gel completely with how I wanted the game to be.
Anyway, in the midst of us talking, he commented on how we were alike because we keep coming up with ideas and interrupting each other to tell them ours while only half listening to the other. I said that it was probably Ne. He was unfamiliar with it, so I tried to describe the functions. When I got to N vs S, he came up with an example.
Him: Well, let's say Dad asked me how many forks are on the table. There are 7 people and 6 forks. I'd probably respond by saying, "Oh, we need one more fork." And Dad would say, "No, you didn't answer my question."
Me: You sound like my daughter. We'll always ask if she did something and instead of answering, she'll go "oops!" and run off to do it. And then sometimes we'll have to call her back because we don't want her to do it right now. Maybe now's not a good time. We just want to know if she did or not to determine how to proceed with something else. If Dad asked me how many forks were on the table, I'd see there were 6 and, depending on if he was there and could easily see how many were there himself, I'd try to gauge by his tone of voice if he was asking it to prove a point, to indirectly ask me to get another one, or to just receive information. The way you said it sounded like the information one, but I would personally probably answer "six" regardless of what I assumed he really wanted in return. I may in addition ask if he wanted me to get another one, but I wouldn't presume to know what he wanted unless he specifically told me. I believe people are responsible for what they say and for asking the right thing to get what they want.
Him: Well, I like to think ahead. But knowing Dad, I'd know that he'd want me to answer him, so I would, but it would feel like baby steps to me. Like I have to go one step at a time to satisfy him.
Me: Hmm. Maybe that's the difference between iNtuition and Sensation. People online have told me that they think I'm a Sensor many times. I wouldn't feel like it was baby steps to simply answer his question. I'd feel it was necessary because I can't know his mind. I'd offer to get another one, but would leave it for him to confirm or deny if that's what was going to be his next thought now that he had the information he was seeking.
What do you get out of this?
Anyway, in the midst of us talking, he commented on how we were alike because we keep coming up with ideas and interrupting each other to tell them ours while only half listening to the other. I said that it was probably Ne. He was unfamiliar with it, so I tried to describe the functions. When I got to N vs S, he came up with an example.
Him: Well, let's say Dad asked me how many forks are on the table. There are 7 people and 6 forks. I'd probably respond by saying, "Oh, we need one more fork." And Dad would say, "No, you didn't answer my question."
Me: You sound like my daughter. We'll always ask if she did something and instead of answering, she'll go "oops!" and run off to do it. And then sometimes we'll have to call her back because we don't want her to do it right now. Maybe now's not a good time. We just want to know if she did or not to determine how to proceed with something else. If Dad asked me how many forks were on the table, I'd see there were 6 and, depending on if he was there and could easily see how many were there himself, I'd try to gauge by his tone of voice if he was asking it to prove a point, to indirectly ask me to get another one, or to just receive information. The way you said it sounded like the information one, but I would personally probably answer "six" regardless of what I assumed he really wanted in return. I may in addition ask if he wanted me to get another one, but I wouldn't presume to know what he wanted unless he specifically told me. I believe people are responsible for what they say and for asking the right thing to get what they want.
Him: Well, I like to think ahead. But knowing Dad, I'd know that he'd want me to answer him, so I would, but it would feel like baby steps to me. Like I have to go one step at a time to satisfy him.
Me: Hmm. Maybe that's the difference between iNtuition and Sensation. People online have told me that they think I'm a Sensor many times. I wouldn't feel like it was baby steps to simply answer his question. I'd feel it was necessary because I can't know his mind. I'd offer to get another one, but would leave it for him to confirm or deny if that's what was going to be his next thought now that he had the information he was seeking.
What do you get out of this?
