Hello INTPs, I am an INFP who is crazy about an INTP who I cannot be with.
Here goes the story: Sometime back, I flew literally across earth to stay for some months. There, I met an INTP by chance. An odd but intense chemistry evolved in an extremely short period of time. It was odd because he made no attempt at all to hide his INTP-ish flaws but despite his glaring flaws, I cannot help but finding myself having a close connection with someone for the first time in 27 years (I know, that's sad.).
After some time together, he told me he experienced an "intense romance". That kinda left me a little stumped at first because our experiences were more mental/verbal/discussion based, rather than a fuzzy warm emotional kind, not the most traditional form of romance. It wasn't important though, I didn't care too much for romance- I cared for his presence which was strangely comforting, as though we have already known each other forever. He also admitted to feeling an unusual connection with me. We were together for a couple of months.
But here is how the story ends. I had to go back home, across earth. So back I went, assuming that he will soon forget me, because of his detachment and uncaring nature towards people in general. As for me, I assumed I will be fine because I get over relationships fast (I have a strong T for an INFP). However, he surprisingly did not forget my existence and talks to me online from time to time, about concepts and ideas he is working on.
8 months down the road. I am flabbergasted at my recurring dreams about him, still devastated that he is not with me. I never told him about my intense feelings ever, because I have witnessed how scared he is of emotions or at least, emotional outbursts. Also, I heard that INTPs lose interest fast anyway, so I don't want to sound stupid talking about how I feel at this point and losing a friend.
Honestly, I have absolutely no clue how much emotions INTP can take from another person, and I am unsure about even saying a simple condensed version of my feelings such as "I miss you". It is just so unsettling to bottle up how I feel, and I wonder is it wise to tell him how I feel just for the sake of letting it out?
Here goes the story: Sometime back, I flew literally across earth to stay for some months. There, I met an INTP by chance. An odd but intense chemistry evolved in an extremely short period of time. It was odd because he made no attempt at all to hide his INTP-ish flaws but despite his glaring flaws, I cannot help but finding myself having a close connection with someone for the first time in 27 years (I know, that's sad.).
After some time together, he told me he experienced an "intense romance". That kinda left me a little stumped at first because our experiences were more mental/verbal/discussion based, rather than a fuzzy warm emotional kind, not the most traditional form of romance. It wasn't important though, I didn't care too much for romance- I cared for his presence which was strangely comforting, as though we have already known each other forever. He also admitted to feeling an unusual connection with me. We were together for a couple of months.
But here is how the story ends. I had to go back home, across earth. So back I went, assuming that he will soon forget me, because of his detachment and uncaring nature towards people in general. As for me, I assumed I will be fine because I get over relationships fast (I have a strong T for an INFP). However, he surprisingly did not forget my existence and talks to me online from time to time, about concepts and ideas he is working on.
8 months down the road. I am flabbergasted at my recurring dreams about him, still devastated that he is not with me. I never told him about my intense feelings ever, because I have witnessed how scared he is of emotions or at least, emotional outbursts. Also, I heard that INTPs lose interest fast anyway, so I don't want to sound stupid talking about how I feel at this point and losing a friend.
Honestly, I have absolutely no clue how much emotions INTP can take from another person, and I am unsure about even saying a simple condensed version of my feelings such as "I miss you". It is just so unsettling to bottle up how I feel, and I wonder is it wise to tell him how I feel just for the sake of letting it out?