Well I haven't dated any ENFP, but my mom is an ENFP so I can see where you're having difficulties. My grandpa also happens to be an ESTJ and I know he drives my mom nuts a lot of the time. My mom and I have had problems, but now we get along pretty well. I would say that a mother-daughter relationship is totally different then most though. At least for my mom I know she hates how controlling my grandpa gets, even though he mostly does it just to protect her. She has learned though that she just has to tell him to stop it and that it hurts her feelings. For me and him, we often do things to hurt people and don't realize it. If someone tells us that it's hurting them, usually if we care about that person, we will stop immediately. Your ESTJ is probably going to be very black and white about things, and possibly a little controlling, but if you last long you will have someone that loves you with an astounding loyalty. If they're open to hearing what you have to say, then they're worth keeping, if not, they may not be able to get out of that controlling zone. For me, my mom sometimes can seem a little impractical or silly to me, but she has a compassion for others that is amazing and i have grown to appreciate the kind of love that radiates from her. I hope this helps! Good luck.