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Need help from unhealthy clingy INFJ

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Beautiful INFJ's,

I know an INFJ who I used to be friends with. He's really unhealthy and immature, so don't think I take his behavior as a representation of all of you.

Anyway I invited him to a birthday like, 6 years ago. Since that day he considered me one of his best friends. As such, I've become very aggravated by his behavior as we got to know each other. I'll spare you the details as they're irrelevant. Basically he's a prick, and I've told him to leave me alone and never talk to me again. However, I am friends with his friends, and I have blocked him on every single medium possible: instant messenger, facebook, email, etc. When I block him, he'll go into his friend's accounts and start talking to me through them, e-harrassment. Everytime I invite over my friends (the ones he's friends with too), he comes over with them.

I want to delete him from my life. He doesn't respect me, or my personal space, or anything I've ever said. He knows he'll be able to contact me so long as I'm friends with his friends, and I've actually blocked my friends (they're ISTP's, they'll live and forgive) just so he would leave me alone.

Is there some way I can tell him to fuck off that he'll actually listen? Or do I need to meet him in person and beat the shit out of him until he gets the message? I'd prefer the former. Any suggestions?
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Sounds like an ENTP to me actually - they have this thing going, where they believe that if they are persistent in pursuing someone, they'll come around to them eventually. I personally think INFJs have too much pride to go chasing after a friend that doesn't want them around. I know personally for me, when I get even the slightest feeling that someone doesnt want me there, I retreat into my shell. bye bye. It's when you said "Shakespearean acts of revenge on the level of Othello," I thought "ENTP." We had an ENTP in here before, whose username was really dramatic, and he was talking about a) he fucked up in some friendship b) there was a no contact rule established by the school and c) how he tried to get around direct contact by contacting all of that person's friends .
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