Hello,
I've been with my ESTJ for about a year now. I was wondering how I could communicate with my ESTJ without us both going nuts?
For example, my ESTJ does not understand the meaning of his actions, at times. He can explode and get absolutely appalled that I'm angry and hurt over his actions. He gives 100 million reasons why he did what he did, but in the end, his actions were completely irrational and uncalled for. And then piles the blame on me for reacting to his behavior. He wants me to react "calmly" while he can freely react in anyway towards my reasoning. He is quite a simple guy; I'm rather complex.
How can I get through to an ESTJ without confusing the fuck out of him? How do I administer my opinion and point of view that makes sense to him. He seriously doesn't understand when I tell him he's yelling/whining like a banshee. At this point, I have no idea what to do. Nothing I say makes any sense to him, our values are so different.
Sorry if I'm not being too coherent with my examples, however, I'm at a loss right now. Thanks.
I've been with my ESTJ for about a year now. I was wondering how I could communicate with my ESTJ without us both going nuts?
For example, my ESTJ does not understand the meaning of his actions, at times. He can explode and get absolutely appalled that I'm angry and hurt over his actions. He gives 100 million reasons why he did what he did, but in the end, his actions were completely irrational and uncalled for. And then piles the blame on me for reacting to his behavior. He wants me to react "calmly" while he can freely react in anyway towards my reasoning. He is quite a simple guy; I'm rather complex.
How can I get through to an ESTJ without confusing the fuck out of him? How do I administer my opinion and point of view that makes sense to him. He seriously doesn't understand when I tell him he's yelling/whining like a banshee. At this point, I have no idea what to do. Nothing I say makes any sense to him, our values are so different.
Sorry if I'm not being too coherent with my examples, however, I'm at a loss right now. Thanks.