Damn, I relate to your post so much it's painful. I've lived here for about 5 years and don't feel I have "true" friends here, and blame it on my ridiculously high standards (some people have been reaching out to me, but I've accepted their attempts at befriending me only half-heartedly). And I'm pretty much a recluse, but that has always been that way, unlike the "no friends" thingamabob. Before we moved, I felt my life had fallen into place: I loved the school were I went and had a close circle of friends, with whom I still have far more contact then my friends over here (despite the fact we live ridiculously far apart). I am not proud to say I was looking forward all year long to traveling with my old friends, and made up a lame excuse for not traveling with my new friends, despite the 2 travels not overlapping. I think my tertiary Si has been in overdrive for the last couple of years, explaining the misplaced nostalgia. Still, I think of myself as quite a positive person XD
I think it would do me and many other INFPs good to put myself/themselves out there a little bit more, because how can you ever hope to fulfill your dreams if you don't even leave the house? Not trying to make anyone here feel bad or sumthing, just... it's basic cause and effect. I'm not talking night clubs & binge drinking to fit in, I'm talking finding places that stimulate you... which for many INFPs seems to be book stores and the like. Not to go on some hopeless quest to find the perfect friends or soulmate or anything, but to increase the probability of stumbling across some interesting people while you do things that you can enjoy...
sorry, I got sidetracked -_-"
If it makes you feel any better, I'm 24 and have never been kissed.:crazy: I've had pecks on the cheek, and have given pecks on cheeks, but nothing more than that. I'm practically a complete shut in, and have had high standards, of which I don't deserve, for a long time. I've been living where I live now for 8 years or so and still have no friends here.
My life seems horrible, yet I'm a pretty positive person. I don't necessarily feel ashamed or anything. Who knows, maybe I'm delusional. I suppose I am missing out on a lot, though. I'm just not comfortable with myself around others.
Anyway, tl;dr: you're fine.
I kind of wish people would stop assuming that just because the average age for "stuff" is 15-16, you're abnormal if you didn't do anything by 20. :dry:
This is also extremely important. Part of the reason why I felt so f*cked up and frustrated around the age of 16/17 was that I was distressed by the "norm" for "doing stuff" being 14-15... it was like a time bomb was ticking in my head xD luckily I kinda grew out of that...