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Hey guys. Glad to be a part of personality cafe. I joined this website because recently in my life, I've been in a bit of a rut. I have a very clear idea of what my strengths, weaknesses, and skills are, but I'm rather intense and have an emotional/cerebral hybrid view on life. My mom, dad, and many other people I know call me an old soul-and don't misinterpret that as a statement of conceit. I'm a junior in high school, and although a have a significant preference to extroversion over introversion, I find myself forced into a state of relative isolation because theres very few people of my age that I feel I can share my intensity of thought with. Most kids in my grade are pretty vapid- incessantly immersing themselves in the endless labyrinths of their phones, distracting themselves from reality, and avoiding vulnerability and candor at any cost. It's upsetting, but regardless of the fact that I'm pretty cynical and impatient with unenlightened people, I certainly get along with people very easily when I conjure up the tolerance. Anyway, I digress. I joined this forum hopefully so I can surround myself with people that are self-aware and intellectually curious. :happy:

Anybody out there?
 

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Hey guys. Glad to be a part of personality cafe...
Hi, Jslozzy.

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...Most kids in my grade are pretty vapid- incessantly immersing themselves in the endless labyrinths of their phones, distracting themselves from reality, and avoiding vulnerability and candor at any cost...
A thought: Being vulnerable implies leaving oneself open to pain, injury, and possibly even death. Most people are pain avoidant unless pressured to engage with it. The pressure could come from parents, school authorities, moral code and/or religious authorities, or peers. To engage willingly with something that is unpleasant at least and possibly fatal (in the far extreme end) one must have an understanding that the reward is greater than the risk and/or trust the people within the context in where one is to be vulnerable. Often witnessing an example of another similar person being vulnerable and surviving in an acceptable condition can encourage others to follow suit.

Another thought: Although describing the people as being "vapid" and "unenlightened" does indeed help you to succinctly and concisely describe your impression of people, and it may even offer a fair comparison of you in the context of your peer group, it does convey conceit. While you are on the higher ledge do you want to wait in annoyance and/or dismay for those below to climb better, or do you want to help them reach your level?:blushed:

If you can find it, I would suggest reading the short story Hard Row by Glenn Meeter. Stories of Four Decades - Glenn Meeter - Google Books I have found the lesson in the story to be challenging in that I, too, can act like the protagonist too easily.
 

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You make some good points! I find a lot of enjoyment in giving advice to people, and I may even go to college to be a therapist, but it's not definite. But if theres one thing I do know, in order to help people, you can't be condescending, or in other words, act or talk as if you're descending from a higher moral or intellectual plane. I just become easily frustrated because my observations and opinions usually intimidate those around me instead of help or enlighten them. I might have to just alter my tone slightly. I believe it's important to realize that every individual person is embarking on a learning journey of their own, so it's important to be patient and understanding. Thanks for the input man :cool:

I'll be sure to check our Hard Row too.
 
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