Hi everyone,
I'm new to this site, to MBTI in general, but have taken the online test multiple times which usually resolves to INFJ. While always introspective, and knowingly different from most around me, I've often chalked it up to being an only child or aspects of my upbringing (which I suppose all did play a part). But, reading the type descriptors - vivid inner lives, quiet leaders, strongly perceptive, artistic, etc. - it really all strikes home. I wanted to take a moment just to say hello and to introduce myself.
I'd be most curious to hear feedback from other INFJs about two specific things, one involving careers, but the other relationships. I'll stick with relationships for now - it is the weekend after all.
At least for me, I've found that my personality type lends itself to quickly developing romantic relationships that either than quickly fizzle out or persist for a while and then end. I've always felt that part of the faster-than-normal emotional connection that often developed was due not to _mutual_ chemistry, perhaps, but rather my ability to deeply listen and intuit the other person's character - which led her to feel comfortable and assume a deep connection with me. I'd be curious if other people have encountered or sensed this occurring.
Ultimately, either I date for some time normally, or things came to a sudden end for whatever reason (her going back to an ex, or it just fizzling out). Part of the problem is likely that my job (the subject for another post) is quite demanding time wise, so I've resorted to online dating which hasn't seemed to bring the best pool of candidates. Plus, my part of New Jersey doesn't seem to have the largest collection of eligible people around.
It's frustrating because, at 32, I do want to ultimately grow a family and share a deep connection with a partner. What I am wondering is, having perhaps gained a bit of additional insight about my personality makeup, is that something that might be taken into consideration when seeking out potential partners? And, if so, while the idea of partnering with another INFJ or other type similar to me, seems appealing (for its shared characteristics), might two INFJs together drive each other insane?
Anyway, enough rambling for now. Have a good weekend.
Adam