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Hi guys / gals,

As you may or may not have noticed, I popped up on the forum yesterday and was very happy indeed that my results turned out how they did; I seem to fit the description of INFP perfectly... bar a few points.

Firstly, I'm really not all that bad at socialising. I wouldn't say I'm an extrovert but I can, if needed, socialise and mingle with new people with relative ease. I do however strongly prefer one on one interaction and this is reflected in my social circle; I have a few very close friends and I love nothing more than meeting up with them one on one and going for a meal - I find that any more than two is a crowd though, again, I can cope in those situations where I find myself among many more. I do tend to go more into my shell at those times though as others speak over me (I have a deep voice that often goes unheard anyway thanks to the shrill squeaks and squeals of those pesky social types!) Overall, I much prefer one on one so I can devote all of my attention to that person and have a nice in depth chat and help them with any concerns or problems in general they may be having.

Also, I do seem to 'get along' with most people almost instantly. The description mentions that people seem to take to ENFPs very quickly due to their warm nature and I can say that is mostly true of me - it's only when I meet someone with completely different outlooks and values that I really find it hard to get along with them / them with me. Although I don't go out of my way to make an effort meeting new people (in fact for a long time I just couldn't be arsed full stop) I can and will make the effort when it's required of me.

Finally, I do have trouble following projects through. In a sense. Hm, let me explain.

If for arguments sake I decide to tidy my room (a task of mammoth proportions, I assure you) I'll get stuck in and see it through to the end. If I decide to build a computer, I'll stick at it and become fully engrossed until the task is completed (unless it's at work - I bloody hate my job!) So yeah, tasks or projects like that I can stick with.

Academic stuff though? I seem to have bright ideas all the time and maybe, if I really get a rocket up my backside, I'll start learning something. Too many things to mention here really but ultimately I tend to lose interest and completely forget about whatever it was I set out to do after a few days or so. I find it hard to motivate myself to see things through, basically.

All that said however, I do feel as though I'm still an INFP because the character profile fits me like a glove and I definitely am far more introverted than extroverted (at least these days - I was a bit more extrovert as a teenager, but that was probably the effects of alcohol more than anything; I spent most of my mid-late teens drunk! :p). In fact I'm 110% sure (and I want to be! :( ) but I can't ignore the above traits.

What do you guys think? Could it be that I've evolved in a couple of areas? I mean I do get a bit of social awkwardness but for the most part I seem to be the ENFP style 'happy' type that can converse with people without a hitch. Actually that's a fib, sometimes I bumble like an idiot and get my words mixed up.

I'm pretty sure I'm an INFP but what do you think? I'm tired and confuzzled :( I definitely think I have some of the ENFP traits but not enough to change my personality profile.
 

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Being an introvert doesn't mean that you don't get on well and mingle with people, I do too! It's more how you get your energy - if you *need* to be around people that's more E, if you are hapy to be around people but need to withdraw from time to time to replenish your energy, that's more I. Also, if you like to talk to people to solve problems and think as you talk, that's more E, but if you like to have a bit of time to think before speaking that's more I.
 

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I've been wondering the same thing as you a while ago =O
However what really helped me was to see the enfp forum and the infp forum.
People talk/write differently :eek:
 

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Thanks all :) I followed those links (fascinating read, thanks!) and as soon as I hit this quote I realised I am indeed more of an introvert:

The above would explain a common observation about introverts: they usually have no idea what to say in a group conversation or upon meeting a stranger, but one-on-one with people they know well, they usually talk openly, loudly, and at great length. This would be classic introversion, not just the quietness among strangers but also the openness and richness that emerges in private. The tendency to become truly oneself only in specially controlled and filtered circumstances is the definition of introversion proposed here.
I guess I'm slightly less of an introvert than some but it is definitely what I seem to be; the game-board theory only strengthens that belief.

Yep, I'm now pretty certain I'm an INFP. Phew :)

[ninja-edit] as for withdrawing from people etc, I am very comfortable in my own company. I do like to see my close friends on a semi-regular basis but I don't really 'seek' the outside world. In fact I can go days, even weeks without feeling cut off. I do enjoy good company though :)
 

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i got more confused. i relate to both. i have more energy in one on one conversations but i know how to adapt to the outer world too. maybe i have learned to be an introvert because a long period of my life has been spent being depressed and feeling alone. so i learned to cope and now i am a lil of both.
 

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I'm similarly confused as well sometimes..... I'm not a party animal like the "ENFP Stereotype" suggests, but I definitely seek out people and I get lonely. I'm also very comfortable with myself however and can spend hours at a time alone with my thoughts, listening to music, writing, etc. So, I feel like I'm really even-keeled between introversion and extraversion.

What I think might help however is while I feel very comfortable in both modes, I NEED people in order to have energy, because when I'm introverting I become very lethargic. This is one of the things that makes me lean toward ENFP.... at the same time however it's really close friends who give me the most energy.

I also prefer medium sized groups (3 - 10 ppl) because then that gives me room to weave in and out of the conversation and play off of the different things each person brings to the group. I feel limited and less comfortable one on one unless I'm REALLY good friends with the person or unless that person is veeery talkative.

Does that make any sense? Oh gosh maybe I'm not an ENFP after all *confusion ensues again* :p ahaha
 

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I'm similarly confused as well sometimes..... I'm not a party animal like the "ENFP Stereotype" suggests, but I definitely seek out people and I get lonely. I'm also very comfortable with myself however and can spend hours at a time alone with my thoughts, listening to music, writing, etc. So, I feel like I'm really even-keeled between introversion and extraversion.

What I think might help however is while I feel very comfortable in both modes, I NEED people in order to have energy, because when I'm introverting I become very lethargic. This is one of the things that makes me lean toward ENFP.... at the same time however it's really close friends who give me the most energy.

I also prefer medium sized groups (3 - 10 ppl) because then that gives me room to weave in and out of the conversation and play off of the different things each person brings to the group. I feel limited and less comfortable one on one unless I'm REALLY good friends with the person or unless that person is veeery talkative.
This is me to a T. However at the end of the day i need time to be alone and do my own thing which is usually being on the internet, or editing pictures or watching anime.
 

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me too @wisefaery, and the other hard thing is looking at cognitive functions isn't very helpful because I use Ne and Fi pretty equally haha. So it's difficult to figure out if I'm a mellow ENFP or social INFP......
 
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