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Are you an NF in the military? Or know one who is?

I'm curious how possible/likely/common it would be to find NFs there. If anyone can find any stats on MBTI types in the military I'd love to see it!
 

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I have considered many timesjoining the millitary, Just haven't done it
 

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Mainly timing, I have obligations that prevent me from taking time off for basic training. Also, it is a little fear that I won't be able to handle the culture, I am a feeler, and you have to sign on for 6 years. That could be 6 LONG years
 
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Mainly timing, I have obligations that prevent me from taking time off for basic training. Also, it is a little fear that I won't be able to handle the culture, I am a feeler, and you have to sign on for 6 years. That could be 6 LONG years
Yeah, NFs plus military culture does seem like a difficult match. I was hoping to be proven wrong!
 

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I think ENFJs and to some degree INFJs would have a better time than INFPs and ENFPs. Fe can relate better to the collective mindset of a close knit group. We may not like some things but we can abide for the better of the group. However, in general a frat boy like organization like military, police, faculty, and some governmental departments are not the most nurturing environment for NFs.
 

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I've served in the military for almost two years. It's a mandatory for all citizens in my country. I mostly served in roles which were related to education, though, but I did get my taste of serving while being in a war. It's not fun.

Overall, I had a good service, I met wonderful people and I was able to save lives at (rare) times. Most of the people I served with were NFs, but that might be related to my roles (they wouldn't send just anybody to be an educator in the army, you know).
 

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I've been in conscription based military service for one year. I don't think it's that odd concept for anyone from a country with such practice especially if you take it as a duty.

However I have never been interested in having a military based career because I didn't find military routines appealing at all. I also prefer not being commanded or commanding others. Maybe it's a lead Fi or E4 thing or those both combined.
 

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In the country I live in, the military is obligated for both men and women. I myself was sent to military check some months ago. They test your physical strength, intelligence etc to see if you are fit for the military. I was not fit.

I would not like to go to the army, first of all because I am completely neutral and a pacifist. I don't care much for politics. I don't know exactly where I stand politically, but I know exactly what I'm against.
 

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My INFP grandfather was a Marine once.

He said that he hated every waking minute of it, and advised his children to never do the same.

As for myself, I have conscientious objections toward violence (Christian pacifist), therefore I won't join.
 

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I'm an INFJ male and am contemplating joining the Canadian Forces as either a medical/nursing officer or pilot.

A year or two ago I never would have dreamed I would ever be considering this.
I think it would be highly effective for personal growth, since it would mean putting myself in an environment that is not at all the ideal of the NF. It would also mean I could afford to go to school while having my own place for the next 4 years after basic training.
I really just want to get my life started and to really challenge myself.
There is so much about the military that would have deterred me a short while ago, but over the course of being age 20-21, so much of those fears/insecurities have slipped away.

It could turn out being a horrible decision. I might have very little ability to relate to my partners and may feel like my individuality is being ripped out of me. However, if that is the result, there is a year long window, at least in Canada, in which you can pull out before you're locked in for the full 6 years or however many it is.
 

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Wanted to mention that this thread made me cross the threshold and register for this forum. I been lurking for a while and until I came across this Thread, I did not want to register.

I am an INFJ and am currently serving Active Duty in the United States Navy. I wanted to shed some light on my experiences in the Military thus far for everyone.


I enlisted in 2012, I went in as a Logistic Specialist and have remained as such for the past 3 years. I been on two deployments, both to the coast of Africa to thwart and repel Pirating and Terrorist Activities in the area. I also been to many countries, including Spain, Israel, Italy, Greece and Portugal, to name a few.

I'm not very good at describing things, but I will try to exhibit my experiences the best I am able.

Being an INFJ in the Military is a bit strange. For Navy folk, your privacy is limited, if not non-existent. You share a berthing (sleeping area) on the ship with 20-40 other people. You sleep in a bed which is effectively a shelf in the wall with a mattress and the only thing of privacy is a semi-opaque curtain you hang up. Not to mention a VAST majority of the people who usually join the Military are Extroverts, they all clamor to the bar once we hit a port and get very drunk/intoxicated and act stupid, but it is bonding. For myself, I much rather enjoy sitting alone in my space somewhere and read a book. My other shipmates cannot fathom why I do not like going out and getting hammered, but they respect me as an individual.

There are NF types in the military, though they are few and rare. And since most NFs who been in for more than two years are more or less miserable, they tend to stay in their own worlds, shutting everyone else out, regardless of how friendly you are to them.

For me, being in the Navy and being forced to socialize with people made me much more comfortable with approaching people. In boot camp you have to make friendships and alliances with the people you are there with. If you don't you end up depressed and start having negative thoughts. (At which point they notice and send you straight home, no benefits, dishonored.)

There are a lot of negative things too. Such as the Privacy thing. On a ship, you have little to no privacy. So finding a quiet place to read your favorite book, watch a movie, or listen to some music are few and rare. There are times where you have to go against your personal morals and beliefs because someone above you gave a direct order. People will often criticize you on your work and behavior, even if it is not necessarily a bad or good thing you did. These are just some of the things that NFs will have to deal with when entering the military.

There are good things though. The military is filled with discipline, they engrave it into you from the minute you walk into Recruit Training. This will harden you, mold you, turn your thoughts from 'what ifs' to 'I can and will'. You will be more confident when you walk among civilians, knowing what you represent and who you work for. People give you respect, congratulate you sometimes on things that you never even thought were worthy of praise. And the people you meet. You will meet some of the most wonderful people in your entire life. People who will inspire you, make you more than you thought you could be and stronger than you ever were before.

I am not pro- nor am I anti-military. I am proud to serve my country and I am happy I chose to do so. However, given the circumstances of my enlistment and the effort I have to put forth on my part since I am morally against the Armed Forces. I would say that I do not recommend INFJs or any NFs to enlist in the Armed Forces. Everyone is different however. If serving your country is what you wish to do and you are resolute in your beliefs, then by all means do so. I'm not the only INFJ on my ship, and I certainly will not be the last.
 

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I'm an INFP and served for 8 years in the U.S.Navy. I'd guess that NF's are definitely a minority in the armed forces it wasn't a waking hell. I volunteered during the last part of the cold war, it seemed to me to be the right thing to do at the time. I seriously considered making it a career and even now, quite a few years later I miss it sometimes.
Like most things in life its what you make of it, I had good experiences and bad, I made lifelong friends and met colossal assholes. I traveled all over the world, visited many countries and engaged with many different cultures, sometimes they wanted to kill us, but mostly it was positive. It made me stronger both physically and mentally and taught me that I could do things I never would have imagined. It helped me define and refine my values from theoretical to real.
On the whole I don't regret it one bit, but its not for everyone. Its a serious commitment in pretty much every aspect of it, depending on your specialty, your actions may be life and death for your shipmates or others, and you could very well be wounded or killed, even in peacetime. During my enlistment I saw a lot of people die, and was very nearly killed a few times myself, on the flip side I was also able to do some very real concrete good. When I was serving I also relished knowing that what I was doing mattered in a way that many occupations don't, and I liked knowing that not everyone could do what I did.
I would suggest though that if one does enlist that they do so because they believe in the cause in one way or another, rather than signing up for some educational benefits or the like.
 

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I am INFJ and in the Air Force. I know a few NFs (all it takes is one conversation and you can spot them) and I get along with them fairly well. I think it's kind of tough adopting to the culture since most jobs are really detailed oriented. The ENFJ's that I know though, being their charismatic selfs, seems to fair well.


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I'm an NT but there were a few NFs who served with me. Mostly they congregated around intelligence and education. Linguists, especially. There was one NF in particular whom I assume was ENFJ that was fantastic at gathering human intelligence (Read: talking to tribesmen and getting them to trust us enough to tell us where terry taliban is hiding). NF skills can be utilized well, especially where there's a cultural component to be considered.
 
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