Thank you for your response Essay. I did not add what I thought about this philosophy, because I did wanted the water to be clear for responses. I thought of it as: I would like someone to dance with me, but I can accept it if that someone does not want to dance with me. Do you think this thought process might be a peaceful solution?
It's probably more peaceful than the alternative. That said, there's lots of ways to "accept" something. It could involve trying to explain to yourself why they wouldn't want to dance with you. Maybe you've got a list of possibilities of why not (they don't like to dance, they didn't get a good first impression of you, etc...), or maybe you've got one overarching concept of why not (maybe about how you didn't make a strong enough offering to your patron deity beforehand). If those conclusions are going to shut your mind up, then, hey, that's one step closer to inner peace. But will they in the first place? They could always be proved wrong, which'll pull you out of your peaceful state.
That said, I don't think shutting your mind up is all there is to inner peace. It's not that hard for one of us to get that feeling that we missed something after we've stopped thinking about it. I mean if you just went around wanting a whole bunch of different things and periodically accepting that you didn't get them, you're going feel a bit conflicted.
What I try to push myself towards is to feel compassion for and to empathize with the potential dance-partner. Imagine a positive "excuse for a want". I don't want to dance with her; instead I'd think: "There's a chance she might want to dance with me!" I mean, to me that "excuse" is: 1) more straightforward than a "want", 2) more logical than a "want", 3) more genuine than a "want", 4) leaves you with less questions about yourself when you look back at what happened, and, as a result, 5) it is easier to turn your mind off about it afterwards. I mean, that's all assuming you have that knack for empathy and imagining up possibilities in the first place. #4 becomes especially apparent when you do this enough and you start you think of yourself as an empath who tries (however successful you may be) to give people what they want.
Wanting is good for keeping the economy going around though. :laughing: