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No ENFJ’s in The Netherlands, more to come?

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No ENFJ’s in The Netherlands, more to come?

I am Hum, like in hummingbird or Humphrey Bogart; my sweet Indonesian mum really loved American actors!
I am from the Netherlands though; in Dutch my initials HH, Humphrey Hofman, are pronounced as HaHa... I do like to smile a lot; I very much like Modern family, Ben Stiller, Lenny Henry and so on.

Like probably many of you I came across PerC because of interest in MBTI.
I have done several tests for several times over several years.
Everytime the outcome was ENFJ. GREAT… but It seems there are not very much of us around, most certainly not in Holland.
Reason for me to virtually cross the ocean.

In Holland it looks like people do a test just to score something but not to really learn about themselves. I am a member of several social groups including datingsites but I haven't found one other ENFJ.
I am searching for another soul mate at PerC to just share my thoughts with because it makes me feel LESS 'alone' or maybe better said MORE 'all one'.
Ofcourse(?) I also do experience that being ENFJ 'we' never truly feel lonely because our whole physical AND spiritual body seems focused from the inner I to the outher other(s). I mean, when I am alone, I always wake up with a smile, feeling happy all day, falling asleep only because my body is tired.
Writing all this gives me energy but, I am not really a writer... at all. What I love most is just doing all sorts of (sensible) stuff with a smile. Being a doer, for others AND myself, I generate energy. Friends I talked with/to all night, thought I was on speed or drugs.
I am also a talker… I like to just chatter with whomever about whatever NO-nonsense. To me 'sens' in all its meanings (senses, common sense, sensability, sensible) is very important.

Nonsense to me is a waist of time, it makes no sense to me, it is not giving me any true joy or energy; on the contrary it drains my energy just like fighting or argueing.
I truly, whole heartedly, don't like fights and conflict at all. I will avoid them as long as possible but when inevitably I will never evade them... and I will go all the way till the sometimes bitter end, not because I am proud of this relentless compassion, just because once started I need to go for 100%.
Is this ENFJ or is this because I am also a true ‘scorpio’(11-11, 11 am)?

Reading the ENFJ forum I, but also my best friends, recognized already many (stereo)typical things.
Probably another ENFJ will immediately recognize my need to streamline all I want to write down her. The too many words I will take to justify every smallest intention. The constant awareness of myself, stepping over it, finally just say what I like to say, whatever the consequence. Once I get started, it is almost impossible to stop my mouth (head) from babling, then again most of it isn't really babling. To me it is of the most importance.

For now I do will stop because this is JUST my introductory to PerC (How about that... hahaha).
I am aware that many of you already started to yawn, having difficulty to keep the eye lids open, even skipped this but I do truly hope there is some other ENFJ’s who will be so kind to react and also to 2 specific stories I want to share on a later date.
One personal story/letter to my ex in which I found out my dark side concerning most subtle manipulation skills > I am going to need helping eyes and words to signal and stop doing this.
Another personal story/letter to my daughter of almost 11 in which I am trying to deal with her prepuberty > I am going to need help… period!

So more to come, thx in advance and may love be with you!

;-) ;-) HH
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Greetings Hum and welcome to PersonalityCafe!! My name is Mr. CafeBot. I am here to personally greet you and thank you for joining our humble little forum. No matter your type, you will surely experience a wonderful time with the members of this forum. We cater to all personality types so you will never feel alone or weird. Truth is this forum is full of weirdos!! Pleazeee hel.... *Ahem*I mean we have the nicest people you will ever meet. :)

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As a fellow Dutchie and NF, I bid you welcome!
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I do thank you Justin. You make me feel a little less stranger.
You are fairly new here too I see.
Are you INFP?
Where are you from in Holland?
Do you feel already at home in PerC?
To me it is still a little (too) much > there is so much info so I try to not be distracted and focus on EnfJ's > what is your goal?

Thx fellow Dutchie! :)
Ofcourse you are INFP > just read your info.
This is what I mean > I already knew I could find this sort of info but totally forgot.
How do you go about 'handling' Perc?
Are you looking every day and how do you pick your threads and how long are you spending time on answering?

No ENFJ, but INFJ here. But also from The Netherlands. :proud:

I've been here for about a month and I'm liking it very much! I've learned an awful lot about INFJ-ness and other personality types and my new hobby is guessing people's type in daily life. Welcome! Nice to meet :)
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Hey Dutchness (Justin is Dutchie so..), also thank you very much for welcoming me.

I know your new hobby... it is fun to 'magically' pinpoint someone's/stranger's personality.
What I used to do was juist answering the questions is she/he:
Extravert or Introvert > most of the times this one is obvious
Judiging or Perceiving > like above, you will know a judger quite quick
Feeling or Thinking > this one is just a little harder but still recognizable especially the Thinkers, ...but the hardest one is
Sensing or iNtuïtion > even hard for one self > just ask the person or take the 23 questions test
Then when having established the type I pick out my phone like a magician and just google the combination and then I read out loud first the good and than the bad stuff and If 'the victim' is impressed I'll take it a step further and read out 'growth' > this last one most of the time is an eye-opener and talkfun for the rest of the evening.

I have already made a lot of friends enthousiastic for MBTI altough I am aware the practical interest will last just for so long.
Again I, myself, will keep intersted a little longer because I am fiercely looking for a mirror just to help make me see in time the mistakes I made before. Like I promised, I will one of these days post the letter to my daughter and wait for helpfull reactions.

Have fun doing your thing and If you want make me a friend; up till now I only have the well appreciated friendship of Dan. I realy would like to have some more friends.. to feel loved... I am just kidding... I am an ENFJ... H(a) H(a) ;-) ;-)
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Welcome to PerC!
Enjoy your time around the forums!

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Welcome to PerC @Hum
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Welcome to PerC :crazy:
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I'm a Dutch ENFJ, but you've already found me :-D.
Welcome! :D My mother and brother are both ENFJs, so I get along with your type quite well! :)

I love your avatar. :)
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Welkom! Enjoy!

Oh and yey more Dutch NFs around!

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A bit late to post on this forum, and Im also quite new and Im also an ENFJ and I also live in the Netherlands =PP
Oh jeetje! Welkom. :)
:happy: You joined; right on! I am from Holland too by the way. I look forward to reading your posts!
Well I dont post that often haha, I read more haha =D. But I get what you mean ^^. I love the bear photo !!
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