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This thread was inspired by Wulfdot's post on an INTJ thread:
If I do cry or really try to spell out my insecurities for someone, they get all excited and think they have broken down the mask, and they see my "true colours". Then they are really pissed off with me when I "revert" to putting "the mask" back on. However, how I see it, is like a floating buoy, that for a while I can forcibly shove down deep into the water, then, after a while, I got tired and had to let go, allowing it to spring back up to float on the surface of the water. THAT is it's natural position. I can't keep up what I consider to be wallowing in misery. People can't understand how I might have been really shaken up about something, and an hour later seem perfectly in control and making jokes. They think that I am in denial, and need emotional support. No, I just figured out a way to solve the problem, and have moved on.
And again, I have to agree with Wulfdot when he says that for people who try to dig out our insecurities and remove the supposed mask we have on, you are dismantling US, and in fact will cause a personality crisis. It goes beyond popping someone's inflated ego, into literally not knowing who someone is.
IT'S NOT A FUCKING MASK, IT'S MY FUCKING FACE! /facepalm.
Anyway, ENTP support group on this topic? Have you experienced similar problems?
How do you view your supposed "arrogance"? Do people see you as having a mask or façade when you actually don't think you are hiding anything, you are just being you?
And the irony of all ironies - what about a way to put up a façade of Fe to hide the seemingly-a-façade face of arrogant aloofness?

This comment struck a nerve for me, as recently, a lot of people have been "calling me out" on my mask/façade that I "protect myself with". That I am not "showing my true self" and "remain aloof". Apparently, I am too "sarcastic about the world" and at times am incredibly "superficial". People worry about how depressed with my situation I really am, as they think I am keeping something locked inside, which "really isn't healthy".Actually, there is no insecurity. I hate when people say that, because the world has now convinced people that when someone is arrogant they're insecure about something. Most of the ENTP males are not insecure, we just have low low Fe and find it amusing to lash out at other people. There is no hidden mask, what you see is what you get, and your evidence of insecurity is the same with INTJs. If I were to dismantle an INTJ's ego they would crumble into an insecure state and lock themselves off, I know because I have.
Your evidence is like saying a chipmunk is insecure because it collects food for the winter. If you were to steal all the chipmunks food, yes, the chipmunk would probably break down; However, if you leave the chipmunk alone you'll notice that it is actually happy with who it is. The same for immature ENTP males. If you left our egos alone you'll notice that we don't care but when you start messing with us and dismantling us we care because you're trying to destroy who we are. ENTPs care a lot about who they are and dislike when other people try to break them down and change them, tell them they're something they're not.
If I do cry or really try to spell out my insecurities for someone, they get all excited and think they have broken down the mask, and they see my "true colours". Then they are really pissed off with me when I "revert" to putting "the mask" back on. However, how I see it, is like a floating buoy, that for a while I can forcibly shove down deep into the water, then, after a while, I got tired and had to let go, allowing it to spring back up to float on the surface of the water. THAT is it's natural position. I can't keep up what I consider to be wallowing in misery. People can't understand how I might have been really shaken up about something, and an hour later seem perfectly in control and making jokes. They think that I am in denial, and need emotional support. No, I just figured out a way to solve the problem, and have moved on.
And again, I have to agree with Wulfdot when he says that for people who try to dig out our insecurities and remove the supposed mask we have on, you are dismantling US, and in fact will cause a personality crisis. It goes beyond popping someone's inflated ego, into literally not knowing who someone is.
IT'S NOT A FUCKING MASK, IT'S MY FUCKING FACE! /facepalm.
Anyway, ENTP support group on this topic? Have you experienced similar problems?
How do you view your supposed "arrogance"? Do people see you as having a mask or façade when you actually don't think you are hiding anything, you are just being you?
And the irony of all ironies - what about a way to put up a façade of Fe to hide the seemingly-a-façade face of arrogant aloofness?