What the title says. Type away.
Maybe that was just my experience. One of my good friends is an ISTP, but we didn't always get along (and still don't always). I'd feel self-conscious around her and get defensive. She would see me mess up at something, anything, and comment on it. I'd get pissed and point out something she sucked at. She'd get equally offended, and show it by unleashing her ISTP snark at me. I'd respond with my INFJ better-than-thou attitude. Turns out we were both just feeling insecure, and playing exactly on each other's weakness (she'd say "you're boring, all you do is sit and read, get a life, make some real friends" and I'd say "you have no idea how to handle yourself, you just screw around and keep making mistakes over and over again, you don't amount to anything"). Long story short, after a few almost-explosions of my inferior Se (it's ugly when it comes out angry), we had a long awkward conversation. She said "I feel like you're keeping a tally of everything I do, and when I screw up you count it against me and judge me for it" and I said "I feel like you hate me because I'm not spontaneous and 'cool' as you want me to be". That was the turning point and I realized that there was a lot of mutual misunderstanding, and that we actually get on pretty well. To this day she's still pretty quick to insult me if I say the wrong thing (or eat bbq ribs with a fork in public... oops). I think part of that's just our relationship - we spent the last few years making a cutting remark at the other every chance we got, so we're just used to it. To her credit, I should add she's also pretty quick to compliment when she sees me do something worth complimenting (not often, but it makes my day when it happens!).Not gonna lie, I haven't heard that one about ISTPs before. Really?
but I've come to terms with the fact that *my* ISTPs just don't experience the same kind of intensity of enthusiasm as I do about...little things.
Outward expression doesn't always equal inward appreciation.I was seriously spasmotic and while he thought it was cool, he didn't jump up and down like I would have
Not in my experiance. We also feel really uncomfortable at giving compliments: http://personalitycafe.com/istp-forum-mechanics/97966-compliments-praise.htmlAre most ISTPs not like that?
YES! My ISTP doesn't know about Myers Briggs and showed only passing curiosity but he explains himself to me so well, when I ask the right questions. This is probably the hardest thing for me to grasp because I see when he's interested in a topic. I see the agitation and rapid speech and expressive eyebrows and it's difficult to understand that he cares equally about something I'm sharing when I don't see the same sort of body language reflected at me.Outward expression doesn't always equal inward appreciation.
Now getting me to explain to someone the brain - that's when you can observe the agitated body movement, change in vocal tone, rapid speech, and facial expressions.
Oh, okay! The ISTPs I know don't spout insults all the time (they seem to be too busy thinking and observing, in my experience), and they don't insult me unless I do something they consider deserving. At least, not when we're on good terms. With compliments, my ISTP friend doesn't gush (except for one time: I got a text the morning after a really long, intense conversation where I was helping her deal with her crap, saying "Have a good day teya!!! Love you!!! )) <3" I'm never, EVER deleting it, because it will never happen again). She compliments me very rarely, but when she does it's on something I did specifically that impressed her (like making a good throw in lacrosse, or playing piano better than her) and it means a lot to me because I know she's completely serious. Most of the time it's just live and let live with her.Not in my experiance. We also feel really uncomfortable at giving compliments: http://personalitycafe.com/istp-forum-mechanics/97966-compliments-praise.html
(yeah, its a pretty old thread)