Okay so this is a bit of a rant, but I wondered if any of you have noticed this and what you think? Can you relate? Are there certain types that seem to have this perspective?
I've noticed that some people seem to have this attitude that it's invalid for someone to express unhappiness with a situation if they haven't already done a thorough search for ways to fix it. To me this just doesn't make any sense... it's the unhappiness that motivates you to find a solution, so obviously you feel it BEFORE you start looking. Why would it be invalid to state that you don't like how something currently is? It explains why you're about to go searching for other options. Some people with that attitude seem to somehow assume that stating unhappiness means you're not going to make any effort to fix it, but how that follows I don't know. Sure there are some people who do complain without making any effort to better a situation, but that's definitely not everyone who expresses an emotion about something. It's like they think saying "I hate this" comes with the assumption that you think it can't be changed, but I just don't see the logical connection there. I suppose it's like feelings are only part of a final conclusion? I don't know. I just don't get it. It baffles me, and because of that it's extra irritating.
I've noticed that some people seem to have this attitude that it's invalid for someone to express unhappiness with a situation if they haven't already done a thorough search for ways to fix it. To me this just doesn't make any sense... it's the unhappiness that motivates you to find a solution, so obviously you feel it BEFORE you start looking. Why would it be invalid to state that you don't like how something currently is? It explains why you're about to go searching for other options. Some people with that attitude seem to somehow assume that stating unhappiness means you're not going to make any effort to fix it, but how that follows I don't know. Sure there are some people who do complain without making any effort to better a situation, but that's definitely not everyone who expresses an emotion about something. It's like they think saying "I hate this" comes with the assumption that you think it can't be changed, but I just don't see the logical connection there. I suppose it's like feelings are only part of a final conclusion? I don't know. I just don't get it. It baffles me, and because of that it's extra irritating.