NT comfortable with emotion

I'm fine with emotions and accept that for some, that's their... thing. When they get a little too wily e.g. when they are weaponized or used to manipulate, obviously that's unacceptable.

Example: my sister's initial reaction to things is to cry. Not even bad things. So when she cries about something that, if it were me it wouldn't be that big of a deal, I just let her get it out because really that's just the easiest way to handle it. That said, I doubt I'll ever receive an award for how I handle them. You might be better off crying to a pet or a tree or a stranger if you desire reassurance and comfort.

I am fine expressing my emotions, as long as I feel safe with that person. For me, sharing emotions is very private and is based heavily on trust. It's about on par with allowing someone to see me naked. While I'm not uncomfortable with the actual emotions, I am admittedly quite sensitive and I think that most people are just too clumsy to have access to them.

If anything, when I feel very comfortable with someone, I am prone to wax poetic.

It's not possible to act as a traditional adult human if one isn't aware of one's emotions, aware of what meaning they may have, their possible origins, maybe, and aware of different ways they can be expressed.

People who have related neurodevelopmental disabilities have many options available to them, it seems, at least in the wealthy developed countries. The development and maintenance of assisting machines -- home computers, networking equipment, embedded devices -- can be pursued by those with limited natural-language abilities, as well as used by them as consumers, to assist them as needed. For that matter, to the extent that the natural sciences are becoming more reliant on techniques and technologies drawn from big data analysis, and in general dependent on digital tools, the same prospects can be applied to these fields' participants and dependents, making the natural sciences no longer the domain of the well-connected, well-educated, usually wealthy and male set. Others have probably noticed a corresponding trend to distinguish the field of statistics from mathematics -- in this way, the natural sciences are afforded a finer granularity, so that they may choose among the most useful tools from mathematics, without the need to pursue the abstract sciences beyond those which have greatest application.

So, I'm glad to see there are plenty of options out there for those who don't have the traditional abilities.

I will say, however, that it's not to everyone's taste to socialize with these sorts. For example, I don't think it's too much to demand of one's coworkers or social companions small efforts to behave as the other humans do, and to resist the temptation to either wildly express inarticulate emotions, or to fail to provide the expected emotional cues as required.

I took classes on them and broke them down into thier hormonal components and followed what systems they influences. Brain. Sympathetic nervous system etc. To get an understanding about what they were lol. Thats how i accepted them. Nerd mode. Lol. Its a bit of smoke and mirrors tho. Like "what came first the chicken or the egg?" Theres the question "what came first? The emotion or the bodily response?" Its been such a long time since i did that so i only remember bits and pieces.

Anyways, i have emotions and accept them. They to me are little warning flags. They dont make decisions but sort of alert me to things that are going on around me.


Being sympathetic is not my strong suite. I can surprise people and be very sympathetic at times and then other times people laugh at how cold i can come across. I guess it just really depends on if i can understand it or not. Some people respond to things the opposite of how i would. Usually i just stop talking in those moments but sympathizing just might not be possible with that. Doesnt mean i have to act like a dick if i dont get it tho. Anyways i try to focus on being respectful over being sympathetic.

I've never really had that much trouble feeling/having sympathy for someone feeling a lot. I mainly see emotions as things that simply are and therefore defy easy categorization when it comes to the rational/irrational distinction - generally more a-logical than illogical per se - so that doesn't even enter into the question of whether I should be sympathetic.

I can seem unsympathetic and impatient with other people's emotions if I know the feelings they're experiencing need to be temporarily canned so that we can accomplish whatever we need to, and the person isn't handling those feelings at what I consider to be a reasonable or appropriate rate. If they're dwelling when there isn't time for dwelling, that I have sometimes gotten annoyed by. It's not for lack of sympathy though... the sympathy is all there, it's just there alongside other considerations and isn't being weighted as heavily in my internal activity triage calculations.

I also don't find myself too uncomfortable with my own emotions - I'm certainly fine with having them, and I'm even pretty expressive for an INTJ - but when I compare how I handle my feelings with how people of more feeling-centered types do I am forced to admit that selective, context-dependent repression and dissociation is such an important tactic for me that it may not be accurate to say I'm "comfortable" with them in the same sense that say, an ENFP is. I'm more comfortable with them in theory than in practice, almost.