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I've noticed in the past that some NT's on here have mentioned that SFJ's tend to grind their gears and they have trouble getting along with them. Of course, this isn't going to be true across the board. However, it's not surprising, with the NT vs. SF difference. I've also always theorized that SFP's are more easy-going and easy to get along with than SFJ's, so I figured that NT's wouldn't be as likely to butt heads with them.
This certainly doesn't mean that these types can't get along with each other and have relationships, though. I've read about a number of relationships between NT's and SFJ's on here, and even though some certainly have their difficulties, there are good ones as well. I know for me, an ISFJ, my best friend is an INTJ, my dad is an ENTJ, my oldest brother is an ENTJ, I have an online ENTP friend who's taught me a lot, and I have another decently close online INTJ friend. So it's clearly possible that SFJ's can have good relationships with NT's.
And why not? As we all should know, even though type can tell us general things about each other, we're all still people, and type in itself shouldn't keep people from being friends or learning from each other.
However, that doesn't mean that frustrations that NT's generally have with SFJ's aren't valid, and I know that I always enjoy learning a lot about other types and how to improve relationships between them (probably my secondary Fe coming out :tongue: ).
So I wanted to hear from the NT's the major problems you see in SFJ's and what you would like to see them change or improve in general. Keep in mind that they still are SFJ's and are never going to become completely new people...but that doesn't mean that improvements can't be made. I know that at least for me, if I'm aware of things that NT's hate, I can at least learn to keep them in control and not accentuate them when interacting with NT's.
(And I know some NT's like to joke about things like this, so I hope I don't hear responses like "not making posts like this", "not doing everything they do", or "staying away from me". :tongue: But alas, the responses will be what they'll be. )
This certainly doesn't mean that these types can't get along with each other and have relationships, though. I've read about a number of relationships between NT's and SFJ's on here, and even though some certainly have their difficulties, there are good ones as well. I know for me, an ISFJ, my best friend is an INTJ, my dad is an ENTJ, my oldest brother is an ENTJ, I have an online ENTP friend who's taught me a lot, and I have another decently close online INTJ friend. So it's clearly possible that SFJ's can have good relationships with NT's.
And why not? As we all should know, even though type can tell us general things about each other, we're all still people, and type in itself shouldn't keep people from being friends or learning from each other.
However, that doesn't mean that frustrations that NT's generally have with SFJ's aren't valid, and I know that I always enjoy learning a lot about other types and how to improve relationships between them (probably my secondary Fe coming out :tongue: ).
So I wanted to hear from the NT's the major problems you see in SFJ's and what you would like to see them change or improve in general. Keep in mind that they still are SFJ's and are never going to become completely new people...but that doesn't mean that improvements can't be made. I know that at least for me, if I'm aware of things that NT's hate, I can at least learn to keep them in control and not accentuate them when interacting with NT's.
(And I know some NT's like to joke about things like this, so I hope I don't hear responses like "not making posts like this", "not doing everything they do", or "staying away from me". :tongue: But alas, the responses will be what they'll be. )