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Before I begin, I will say that my enneagram type, 4w3, is 110% certain. Use this nugget of information as you please in relation to determining whether I am just a weird, withdrawn ENFP, or something else.
I have always typed as ENFP. I've typed myself as ENFP, I've tested as ENFP, my cognitive functions (mostly... maybe?) reflect me being an ENFP. I've always been slightly bothered by the fact that I am so much more quiet, shy, and frankly, enjoy being alone more than ENFPs are supposed to. There is a lot of misinformation about how ENFPs are "supposed to act" and I feel like I simply don't fit the bill of extroversion. However... I'm not sure that I fit the bill of introversion, either.
In a nutshell, this is why I'm doubting my extroversion:
1. It really seems like my Ne and Fi are neck-and-neck, head-to-head, tied for the lead, constantly. I know the first response I'll get here is "well, are you Ne-dom or Fi-dom?" I frankly and literally have absolutely no idea. The force is strong in this one. I always thought I was Ne-dom, but my Fi is a little bitch that can completely overpower my Ne. But not all the time. Only about half of the time. This is why I have no idea. I am, however, fairly certain that Te is my tertiary function. So... if my Ne and Fi are pretty much used equally, would that explain or cause my ambiversion? How do I go about figuring out if I'm Ne-dom or Fi-dom?
2. I just do not feel like an extrovert most of the time, in the traditional sense and in the Jungian sense. Traditional sense: I am a very warm, friendly person, I find talking to other people quite easy and enjoyable, and I make other people comfortable. I open up to others quite quickly and I am an out-loud thinker, constantly blabbering about this or that. But, simultaneously, I am very shy and quiet. I'm soft-spoken, am never the center of attention, have a hard time getting my voice and opinion out there in a group situation, am absolutely anxious about public speaking, and am generally a "wallflower"-- someone people forget about very easily. In the Jungian sense, well, I don't know. I do think I enjoy external stimulation-- for example, I am more productive in environments with lots of background noise and hustle-and-bustle-- but I need a lot of time alone. A lot. And I enjoy one-on-one, two-on-one interaction far more than I enjoy group settings. I would say I spend a decent amount of time alone, most of my time with one or two other people, tops, and very rarely in a group. I have a few friends who are very close and important to me, then a wide, wide range of acquaintances I enjoy talking to and catching up with every now and then. I love talking to people and get jazzed up by hanging out with people I enjoy the company of. So yeah I'm confused.
3. My introverted boyfriend thinks I'm an introvert. I've always toyed with the idea and, well, when the person who knows you better than anyone else in the world who also happens to know a shitload about MBTI and a shitload about introversion seeing that he, you know, is one, tells you he agrees and thinks you're probably introverted... well, it's time to start considering it.
So, with all that said... could anyone suggest some ways for me to go about figuring out what the heck I actually am? And as a side note, could my enneagram type be something that effects me in a way that would make me seem more introverted even if I was actually an extrovert...?
Note: I am just debating between ENFP and INFP, not any other type
Any insight you have, or observations about me you've made (although introversion and extroversion is not exactly observable on an online forum) would be greatly appreciated!
I have always typed as ENFP. I've typed myself as ENFP, I've tested as ENFP, my cognitive functions (mostly... maybe?) reflect me being an ENFP. I've always been slightly bothered by the fact that I am so much more quiet, shy, and frankly, enjoy being alone more than ENFPs are supposed to. There is a lot of misinformation about how ENFPs are "supposed to act" and I feel like I simply don't fit the bill of extroversion. However... I'm not sure that I fit the bill of introversion, either.
In a nutshell, this is why I'm doubting my extroversion:
1. It really seems like my Ne and Fi are neck-and-neck, head-to-head, tied for the lead, constantly. I know the first response I'll get here is "well, are you Ne-dom or Fi-dom?" I frankly and literally have absolutely no idea. The force is strong in this one. I always thought I was Ne-dom, but my Fi is a little bitch that can completely overpower my Ne. But not all the time. Only about half of the time. This is why I have no idea. I am, however, fairly certain that Te is my tertiary function. So... if my Ne and Fi are pretty much used equally, would that explain or cause my ambiversion? How do I go about figuring out if I'm Ne-dom or Fi-dom?
2. I just do not feel like an extrovert most of the time, in the traditional sense and in the Jungian sense. Traditional sense: I am a very warm, friendly person, I find talking to other people quite easy and enjoyable, and I make other people comfortable. I open up to others quite quickly and I am an out-loud thinker, constantly blabbering about this or that. But, simultaneously, I am very shy and quiet. I'm soft-spoken, am never the center of attention, have a hard time getting my voice and opinion out there in a group situation, am absolutely anxious about public speaking, and am generally a "wallflower"-- someone people forget about very easily. In the Jungian sense, well, I don't know. I do think I enjoy external stimulation-- for example, I am more productive in environments with lots of background noise and hustle-and-bustle-- but I need a lot of time alone. A lot. And I enjoy one-on-one, two-on-one interaction far more than I enjoy group settings. I would say I spend a decent amount of time alone, most of my time with one or two other people, tops, and very rarely in a group. I have a few friends who are very close and important to me, then a wide, wide range of acquaintances I enjoy talking to and catching up with every now and then. I love talking to people and get jazzed up by hanging out with people I enjoy the company of. So yeah I'm confused.
3. My introverted boyfriend thinks I'm an introvert. I've always toyed with the idea and, well, when the person who knows you better than anyone else in the world who also happens to know a shitload about MBTI and a shitload about introversion seeing that he, you know, is one, tells you he agrees and thinks you're probably introverted... well, it's time to start considering it.
So, with all that said... could anyone suggest some ways for me to go about figuring out what the heck I actually am? And as a side note, could my enneagram type be something that effects me in a way that would make me seem more introverted even if I was actually an extrovert...?
Note: I am just debating between ENFP and INFP, not any other type
Any insight you have, or observations about me you've made (although introversion and extroversion is not exactly observable on an online forum) would be greatly appreciated!