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So we all deal with same issues:
... being shy in social situations.
... having the desire for deep meaningful conversations in a world that does not always seem to favor them.
... people thinking we are aloof or stuck up because of our introversion.
... being a living contradiction by needing alone time but also having a strong desire to help and be around people.
... phone anxiety.
... anxiety in romantic relationships.
... showing all of our "true" layers to people rather than adjusting to how we believe will best match the other person.
... etc. etc. etc.
Now, we all have the most wonderful and glorious cognitive function that we are fortunate to possess as the primary way we view the world, introverted intuition. With this function we can see what is ahead or look at something we want to reach in the future and are able to know what needs to be done and where we need to be in order to achieve it.
It's truly such a wonderful function and very few people have access to it so easily without other functions making it "blurred".
What I would like is for all of us to focus in on that introverted intuition and use this in a positive manner to help us all improve. Think of something that you would like to accomplish in the future or something that you see that will occur in the future and ask yourself: What do I need to do in order to get to that point? What does your Ni tell you? I guarantee the things that it tells you that you have to do is scary. I know what I see I need to achieve in order to be successful is terrifying. In fact, a lot of it has to do with the issues we deal with as INFJs as I listed in the beginning.
So I ask you all: What do you need to do? And the EVEN BETTER question is: How can we improve to achieve our deepest desires while still taking care of ourselves?
As an example, I don't simply mean something like: "I'm lonely and need more friends so I need to deal with phone anxiety and call people more." That's a good idea but that alone does not involve taking care of yourself and accepting yourself for who you are. What I mean is something more like "I'm lonely and need more friends so I am going to try to get into the habit of calling a different friend once every day to stay in touch. This will push me to overcome my fear, but will also give myself the limit I need. I will be taking best care of myself by keeping people in my life to achieve the desire of my Fe, but also accepting that I am an introvert so I can't push to exhaust myself."
The truth is that we should be taking advantage to our Ni to help us constantly improve to learn and grow, but we also have to be sure to remember that nobody is going to (or we can't expect anyone to) accept and nurture us as a person. We know ourselves best, so we have do that ourselves to know when to give the limits and make the adjustments.
So I ask you all....... deep down in your gut, what do you KNOW you need to improve on?
... being shy in social situations.
... having the desire for deep meaningful conversations in a world that does not always seem to favor them.
... people thinking we are aloof or stuck up because of our introversion.
... being a living contradiction by needing alone time but also having a strong desire to help and be around people.
... phone anxiety.
... anxiety in romantic relationships.
... showing all of our "true" layers to people rather than adjusting to how we believe will best match the other person.
... etc. etc. etc.
Now, we all have the most wonderful and glorious cognitive function that we are fortunate to possess as the primary way we view the world, introverted intuition. With this function we can see what is ahead or look at something we want to reach in the future and are able to know what needs to be done and where we need to be in order to achieve it.
It's truly such a wonderful function and very few people have access to it so easily without other functions making it "blurred".
What I would like is for all of us to focus in on that introverted intuition and use this in a positive manner to help us all improve. Think of something that you would like to accomplish in the future or something that you see that will occur in the future and ask yourself: What do I need to do in order to get to that point? What does your Ni tell you? I guarantee the things that it tells you that you have to do is scary. I know what I see I need to achieve in order to be successful is terrifying. In fact, a lot of it has to do with the issues we deal with as INFJs as I listed in the beginning.
So I ask you all: What do you need to do? And the EVEN BETTER question is: How can we improve to achieve our deepest desires while still taking care of ourselves?
As an example, I don't simply mean something like: "I'm lonely and need more friends so I need to deal with phone anxiety and call people more." That's a good idea but that alone does not involve taking care of yourself and accepting yourself for who you are. What I mean is something more like "I'm lonely and need more friends so I am going to try to get into the habit of calling a different friend once every day to stay in touch. This will push me to overcome my fear, but will also give myself the limit I need. I will be taking best care of myself by keeping people in my life to achieve the desire of my Fe, but also accepting that I am an introvert so I can't push to exhaust myself."
The truth is that we should be taking advantage to our Ni to help us constantly improve to learn and grow, but we also have to be sure to remember that nobody is going to (or we can't expect anyone to) accept and nurture us as a person. We know ourselves best, so we have do that ourselves to know when to give the limits and make the adjustments.
So I ask you all....... deep down in your gut, what do you KNOW you need to improve on?